I'm attracted to her, but I can't trust her.

United States
November 25, 2008 7:51pm CST
So this girl I know who I'm really good friends with broke up with her boyfriend and I made my move. She said she would go out with me, said she would call me back, and never did. I decided to give it a second shot, asked her again, she said yeah, and once again didn't call when she said she would. At that point I was fed up, and the attraction in me for her was gone. Well, a few days ago a friend and I went over to her house. My friend left early and we talked a little. I could tell by the way she was talking that she was attracted to me and she was constantly trying to figure out if I liked her back. At the time, I didn't, and I told her that I didn't want to date her. Before I left she asked for a hug, and said how it was the first hug we ever shared. Then I left. Well, now that she expressed that she liked me, and I expressed how I didn't want to date her, she is now trying to get my best friend, who is confused as to what he should do (but that's another story). Now, after that conversation with her, old feelings of attraction towards her have sprouted inside me. I still don't want to date her, because she didn't call twice (how can I trust her?), and she is always saying how she is fed up with people and I don't want to have all that dumped on me. The attraction I feel for her now isn't anything desperate or extreme like "I need her!", nothing like I had before, but it's just an annoyance. I'm wondering if you guys have any thoughts on this. Thanks.
2 responses
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
..well, for me, if you feel you can't trust her then don't date her.. After all, relationships must be founded on trust and love.. However, maybe the girl has her reasons of not calling you up.. maybe she is still thinking about her former boyfriend.. It would be nice to know her real reasons..
• United States
26 Nov 08
The first time she didn't call she said it was because she got home and was "fed up with people." I think she could have at least took a minute to call and say we weren't doing anything. The second time she had a band competition far away, and when she got home she was tired and forgot about it. If she's going to just forget because she was tired, I don't want to put up with that. She talked with me about her former boyfriend after they broke up. She got over him in a few weeks, I could tell.
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
..then maybe she's not really for you.. someone deserves you better than her especially that you said she is also having an interest to your friend.. i think she's not that serious to be in a relationship..
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
26 Nov 08
Maybe there is a particular reason that she didn't call. I don't think it's worth missing out on her just because of a possible misunderstanding. What is the worst she can do if you ask her why? I guess it really boils down to what kind of mistrust you have of her, and what you're really afraid of here.