What should I do in this situation?

hello friend... if you ask me, you should dump her immediately... why you want to continue to love her yet she cheated to you??? you said you and her been for 4 years but she broken your trust... this is totally unacceptable... i really wonder how come you leave her like that after you saw her kissing your cousin... if i were there, i'll totally whack her... maybe your girlfriend might fallen into your cousin by any reasons... try to find out what is that first... if you analyze what your cousin have and you don't have, you can try to improve yourself....

I think just let it flow, when you are still love her so much and can't survive without her beside you then just get back with her, when you are so mad and can't forgive her then just break up with her. but, when you talk about get married, think twice about your choice.

she bhas chaeted you once. it can be she has understood the fault. but whatever she has done the damage once. you have to take the call.

If you are serious about your relationship, you two must talk it over like grown-ups. Both of you may still be too young to handle a mature relationship but in any way possible talk your feelings out. There must be a reason why she did that and why she never thought about its implications in your relationship in the first place. Yet, when you'll know why she did things stupid enough to hurt the two of you, you'll know what you've "failed" to make her happy and what will make her loyal to you. By then, you decide if you can give her what she has been wanting all along out of your relationship.

you caught her in your bedroom kissing your cousin, and doing stuffs that you both should do? is your girlfriend out of her mind? i were you, i will dump her off there and then. why? because what happened to the four years of relationship? i mean, given that she was tempted, but she had all the chance to refuse and avoid it. plus, if she wanted to play, explore, and test you if that's how she put it why did she do such thing in your own room? shame on her,, she's too weak to handle temptations. as to your cousin, why did he let it happen? and why your girlfriend? there's a lot more girls around. for sure, your also upset with him and not talking to him now. just let pass, time can only tell if you are willing to move on and let go. don't be so sad, okay? that really happens to everyone, only on a different situation and time. hope i've helped you ease the pain.

I believe that in a relationship ,trials like that comes in the middle and temptation is always on the way that can mostly cause a broken relationship. In your situation, i cannot blame you if you wanna break up with your gf and if you dont take her back again because of what she did. But as they said ,teenage life are prone to temptations even if you love each other but either one cannot still resist to do it. you and your gf are still both young at this time and as many people say that in your age still arent so sure about serious relationship. It could be true that in her heart she loves you truly but not in honest way . Maybe she just wanna find out what does it feels like kissing with your cousin and she dont have the same feeling like she have for you at all. And shes asking forgiveness which is normal after what she did and its all up to you to decide either to go on . For me, the best thing to do is you just follow your heart. If you think you love her so much that you cannot live without her and your studies will be affected so much if you break up with her then i think you can find the answer already from your own feelings. Maybe it's good also that you forgive her and try to fix the problem between you and her if there is before that happens cause it could be one of the reason also why she did it. But at this point ,after forgiving her you should tell her also that once it happen again,there' no point of sticking to the relationship again that is full of lies and betrayal. She must learn her lesson from the first mistake and doing same thing again isnt consider as mistake anymore but its foolishness and that kind person that nobody can trust.

You just caught her cheating on you my friend. I am sorry that you have witness this and what hurts more is that its your cousin that you caught up with. Well it's really up to you how much can you swallow your pride accepting her back into you. As for me its enough reason for me to really dump her out of my life as it is just not acceptable and a gross violation of my trust to her.

This may sound cliche but you are both so very young. I can remember being that young and thinking that I was so in love. I look back and see things so differently and wonder what was I thinking? You guys started seeing each other when you were only 13 & 14. I remember love at that age. It was so real but the fact is ...you are growing and expanding emotionally. With rare exceptions,it is almost impossible to commit to a healthy long term relationship at this age. When I was your age, I'd have argued with anyone who told me this and I did. i only say this in retrospect having been there.

hey, being betrayed is absolutely the worse part of any relationship... if i was in your shoe, i might get them a minute to explain to me what is going on. but, then i would just go away..it does hurt very deeply, but breaking away is the best solution... i was in quite similar situation a few months ago. i have seen my guy messaging a girl with sexy pokes messages in the profile, and i got so frustrated. i didn't speak to him for months! although, he was trying to explain to me the reason but my ears were shut. my other friends tried to convince me for giving the chance to explain to me. but i was soooooo upset, and i didn't give him a chance as i didn't reply his text msgs, emails, and calls at all. till he decided to come over to my place here as i'm living overseas with my parents. and the reason behind those msgs were to get his attention as i was busy schooling and don't have time to talk with him... although, we are now back, yet i still can't forget what he has done and i still can't trust him enough! being betrayed is such an awful experience to get anyway smiley,

I suppose it begs the question what has she been doing that you do not know about. The problem is that trust once broken is never really regained. I suppose you have a choice on whether to continue but eventually this lack of trust will eat away at your relationship and the next time you find her cheating you will wonder why you got back together. You unfortunately have a difficult choice to make. It might have been a one time thing.. You are young yet and probably have several relationships ahead of you.

Well you should truly ask her about what you walked in on and if it meant anything. If you find it ok to accept her back into your life, then do it. If not, you should break the relationship before intense fighting and try to remain friends at least.

once your trust has been broken its very difficult to regain it. it hurts so much when your girlfriend for 4 years cheated you worst with your cousin. try to talk to them and weigh, if their reasons are good enough to give your girlfriend a second chance. but if i were you i will focus on something else and let my heart rest for a while, so that you can think better and decide whether to reconcile with your girlfriend or move on with your life without her.

You will talk to her something about your relationship. In my opinion, I will let go with time and stay in this situation... :)

I think you really should talk to her, let her know how you feel. I know that's hard for guys to do sometimes but you'll really feel closer to her if you do that. I hope that everything works out for you, try not to get too depressed over it (go out and do something to take your mind off of it for a while, maybe make your mood better before you go talk to her - it's never good to get into a discussion like that when you're already upset). Good luck.

dump her,she's only 18 and cheating already so you can be assured she'll do it again,becides your only 17 what do you care you haven't even started living yet.there's plenty of girl's your age around.if ya live up north go to the ski areas and check them out,if your down south hit the beach it's tourist season have a winter fling.wake up son enjoy your life.

Oh my!!! you are too young to be serious with that. so, you are going steady for 4 years now? which means you are 13 and she is 14 when you start the relationship. Well, usually when teen agers have early relationship, it is really hard to get serious because young people changed. But during those days, people are married at an early age but they are not as exposed as the teen agers of today. You have to talk to your GF and to your cousin as well. I know how it hurts but the 3 of you should fixed it. Accept the reality whatever it maybe. You are still young and there are still big opportunities for you to find the right one over there.

that definitely hurts to see your partner doing it or just even just flirting with other people. but it will still depend on you if you will accept her or not. it will depend if your partner will be sincere this time and is not just trying to fool you. but you have to know if how much your partner means to you. if you think that y=she means so much to you that you can't easily forget her then you must forgive and give her second chance. but if she still do that i think that you better find a partner some one who will not cheap on you. but sometimes we have to understand our partner. if our partner has done that because of some weakness on their part but yet still they still love you i think we can give them another chacne but giving them chance again does not mean that we approve of their conduct or will alllow them to do that again to you or to us.

The question is.. Do you love her? If you do, then try to ask her if she love you also.. Theres nothing wrong in giving a person another chance considering that you love her ( if you really do ) :-) Who knows, what you saw on your bedroom was just a mistake? And why not ask her? Maybe she can explain that to you. By the way, after that incident, do you still feel the love that you have for her before? or did it changed after you caught her with your cousin? You know what every advice that youll be recieving here in mylot were just an advice that would help you to solve your problem, but in the end no one could help you to solve the problem but yourself, so try to think of things now.. I hope and I prayed that you'll come up with the right decision.. :-) God Bless

i think that you should leave her, she was unfaithful and you can't accept that. it will be bad for you if you go on with her because you will remember that situation all the time while you are with her.my advice is that you should get away from her, it's good for you in order to forget her and it will give you the oportunity to find another girl. see you men. danny ramirez

I recommend that you let your cousin have stuff with her but accept both you and your cousin are having stuff with her.