Gay Son or Promiscuous Daughter?
By Ind3p3nd3nt
@Ind3p3nd3nt (182)
United States
November 26, 2008 12:09am CST
Sooo...interesting topic of discussion came up today. I was talking to "Joe", of the earlier Joe/Bob discussion, his wife, and a few mutual friends.
**By the way, for all of you who invested time and interest into that discussion, Joe has decided to let Bob stay with his family over the holidays. He's set to come into town Wednesday night, so thanks for all of your help.**
Anyway, we were having a somewhat joking conversation about Joe's uncomfortableness with homosexuality and how he's going to be with Bob in the house when someone randomly says, "Would you rather have your son be gay or your daughter be [promiscuous]?" (She didn't use that word, lol.) Shockingly enough, Joe said he would rather his daughter be promiscuous! I couldn't believe it. I mean, I know how bad some gay people have it, but would you really rather have your daughter hooking up with every random she meets?
2 people like this
3 responses
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
26 Nov 08
I would far rather have a gay son personally. But I'm a lesbian and don't have a bias against gay people. For me, I know plenty of gay men who aren't promiscuous, so I wouldn't worry that my son would be like that. But having a promiscuous daughter would be horrible, because I hate women like that so much. There are a couple people like that where I work and I don't think I could stand to have a daughter like that at all.
1 person likes this
@Ind3p3nd3nt (182)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I totally understand where you're coming from. My only worries with having a gay son are with his ability to basically survive as a gay man in our society. There is so much ignorance and intolerability in the world...I would hate for my son to fall victim to hate crime or something equally as tragic.
Thank you for your participation in this discussion. It is greatly appreciated.
1 person likes this
@trillan_20 (183)
• Canada
26 Nov 08
EEEEEKKK...this is a really really tough question!!!! I have nothing wrong with gay people, actually one of my very good friends is gay. I have nothing wrong with promiscuous women either, my sister in law has actually mastered it! But having two of my own boys, I am really hoping they grow up straight, especially because I am looking forward to being a grandma one day (in the very far far future) and by that I mean biological grandchildren, hopefully they dont end up having a promiscuous mother!!! Granted I dont have a problem with promiscuous women because they arent my daughters, if they were I would kill them! I really cant decide which I would rather.
1 person likes this
@Ind3p3nd3nt (182)
• United States
27 Nov 08
It's actually kind of surprising to me that this is a difficult decison for some. My initial reaction was to say that I would much rather have a gay son than a promiscuous daughter, but the more I think about, the less sure of that I am. Although, I would constantly worry about my daughter's liklihood of contracting std's and everything else that comes with promiscuity, the way she chooses to live her life is her choice and hers alone. However, I believe homosexuality to be a predispostion and I would hate for my son to have to endure the stigma our society has for gay men. I realize that he also has the power to choose how he lives his life and he could choose to lead a heterosexual lifestyle, but I wouldn't want my son to hide or be ashamed of who he is. So, idk now...it really is a tough decsion!
Anyways, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
1 person likes this
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Dec 08
i wouldnt care.. i think having a gay son may be easier to deal with for some reason because he at least cant get pregnant but i wouldnt care one way or another.. i would love them both
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Dec 08
i think it would really depend on why she is that way.. if its addiction or wanting attention or to get something etc.. if its addiction you cant just turn that off and she will always have issues dealing with it some how..
@Ind3p3nd3nt (182)
• United States
3 Dec 08
True. And, for the sake of this discussion, I suppose she would in fact have the addiction. It's really a tough predicament to be in. One can only hope to be a strong enough person and parent to be able to handle either situation.
Thanks alot for your input.
@Ind3p3nd3nt (182)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Awww. Now see, there's the right answer, lol.
I agree; I would love them both regardless of their situation, but I just think it'd be a lot tougher with a gay son because of all the things he'd have to deal with and go through. The promiscuous daughter could easily turn off the promiscuity and there's the end of our problems. You can't turn off being gay...
1 person likes this
