I PROMISE...Do you expect they will keep it??
By kissie34
@kissie34 (2294)
Philippines
November 26, 2008 3:45am CST
Do you always expect someone promises?? I know that it is hard to keep our promise because there are so many possible things might happen along the way. No matter how hard you tried to fulfill your promise sometimes, its just very hard to fulfill. When you promise someone like to your friend or kids, Do you always make sure that you keep your promise?? How do you keep it? When someone promise you something, do you expect him/her to keep that promise?? What if he/she had broke his/her promises many times already, do you still expect once he/she promised again?
Any thought?? Did you experienced this already?? What have you done??
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10 responses
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
If the promises came from a trusted person, then of course I expect that s/he will keep it. But if it comes from a person who I not know much, I not hope much also just like the politicians, right?
I not make promises unless I know I can keep it. I have such attitude because I not want to lose the trust that someone gives to me. I also avoid hurting other person's feelings because of broken promises. I believe in the saying that "Do not do unto others, what you do not want others do unto you." I hate persons who are not fulfilling their promises that is why I do not want to make unfulfilled promises also.
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@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
PROMISES WERE MADE TO BE BROKEN. THat's what they say. But it's up to you if you'll belive to that. But in my personal opinion, I prefer to believe if the promise was made by the person I knew for a very long time such as my family and a very close friends.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
Well, what if the person whom your trust and known so much had not fulfilled his/her promise??How would you feel??
I agree with what you've believe in! I also believe that too.. As for me, i admit that I had broke so many promises to the people who is closed to me since as I was mentioned above that no matter how hard we try to keep the promise still there are a certain things that we just can't fulfill it because of some things happen along the way whether we like it or not..
I do believe also that promise meant to be broken because promises can't always be kept! Well, sometimes even we believe that promise meant to be broken still we expect something from them especially those people whom we trust and known for many years and even they failed many times already in keeping their promises still we are hoping that they will able to fulfill it.. As what we sometimes doing in out presidents or in the government.. Right?? Its because we choose to believe and expect in their promises...
Anyway, thanks for the reply guys!
@moreqly27 (58)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
yes, i still believe in people's promises. even if he/she has broken some of his/her previous promises, i still believe that he/she will keep it the next time.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
PROMISES ARE MADE TO BE BROKEN
That is the most popular phrase for your topic. For me, I hate it when someone really made a promise to me because the tendency is I would expect that he/she will mark his/her word. I am the type who really stands to my promise, that is why I want other people to do the same. I won't make a promise when I know I can't stand to it.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
Well, I agree with you! Promises are made to be broken especially for those people who are not serious in making promises. It is really hard to promise someone because they will really expect that you will be able to keep it same way if we make our own promise to others.. Maybe, we just be careful with what we promise so that we won't hurt other people..
Thanks for sharing!
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I will never promise unless I know i can keep it. people depend on me and i always follow through. It would have to be something very important for me to even promise to do something. I cant even think of anything i have promised.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
that's good to know! As for me, not all of my promises I kept because no matter how hard I tried to keep it I just can't because of unexpected things happened.. It really makes me guilty if I didn't able to keep my promise to someone especially to those people I really love or important in my life.. Anyway, thanks for sharing!
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
27 Nov 08
It depends what it is. If they are promising they will be at a certain place at a certain time I will not expect because any number of things can happen to prevent them such as accidents or illness. If its something like promising to be a better person in a relationship then yes I expect them to keep that promise.
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@susan19820716 (50)
• China
27 Nov 08
Well, if i promise somebody something, i will try my best to keep it. If i don't keep it, i will tell him the reason, but i would have a bad mood for a long time, so i don't usually promise sb,if i do, i ususally keep it.
If someone promise me, i also hope he can keep it.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
26 Nov 08
I have trouble believing people when they promise me something. I'm used to getting promised things at home and then it not happening. Years of this occuring tends to make a person pessimistic and non-believing when people say they're going to do something and then they promise to do it. My girlfriend promises me things and generally I don't believe her but I'm groomed not to believe her. It's a vicious cycle.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
Well, I understand why you don't believe when somebody make promises to you.. Since as what you've mentioned above 
, obviously you didn't like your experiences before.. Maybe, many people had promised you something but they all break it and maybe you expected so much from them.. It is really hard to believe someone promises especially when you had expected something then it just didn't happen.. No matter how we hate them still we keep on being friends with them and just forget what had happened but the next time they promised we won't believe it again.. As for me, even though there are many people who broke their promises to me sometimes I still believe and expect that they will going to do it.. I really don't know why.. Sometimes, I hate myself because even I'm telling myself that I should not believe them still I know deep inside of mine I'm still expecting.. 
Maybe, I'm just very stupid.. Anyway, thanks for sharing!
, obviously you didn't like your experiences before.. Maybe, many people had promised you something but they all break it and maybe you expected so much from them.. It is really hard to believe someone promises especially when you had expected something then it just didn't happen.. No matter how we hate them still we keep on being friends with them and just forget what had happened but the next time they promised we won't believe it again.. As for me, even though there are many people who broke their promises to me sometimes I still believe and expect that they will going to do it.. I really don't know why.. Sometimes, I hate myself because even I'm telling myself that I should not believe them still I know deep inside of mine I'm still expecting.. Maybe, I'm just very stupid.. Anyway, thanks for sharing! 
@littleowl (7157)
•
26 Nov 08
Hi kissie this is a good discussion...with my children I find it hatd to keep my promises as sometimes they need to be shared to get advice about them...friends I manage to keep my promises to them unless it is serious...eg like my neighbor who at this moment I think is have minor heart attacks mainly as she lost her husband a year ago and it has coused some serious health problems...I have told her if I ever see anything I see is really serious then I will call the doctor even though she has pleaded with me not too, I truly feel that this should be shared with her family but she doen't want that and has promised me to secrecy about it...that is what I am finding really hard to do...littleowl
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
oh! That is really hard.. But I think you can broke that promise to her since you were just thinking what is the best for her and sooner or later her family will going to know.. And it is good if they know it more earlier that too late because her family might do something to help her illness like financial and support.. She need someone to take good care of her especially in her conditions..
On the kids, yet you're right! Its really hard to keep our promises to the kids.. Just like my niece I promised her something and then I forget it.. Of course, kids have a very great memory so when she asked me about my promise and I told her that I forget it she really feel bad.. And when I promised to her again she will just tell me that she don't believe me because I might just forget it or I'm just kidding.. So, when every time I told her something she don't believe it anymore unless I prove to her that I meant it..
Anyway, thanks for sharing!
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
26 Nov 08
It depends on what type of promise that they made. Some promises I won't hold to a person. Like the only promise that I will hold is to my husband that he promises to be with me forever and that he promises to remain faithful. Sometimes though if someone promises they are going to come over for a visit, but then eventually something comes up, then that is something that I can understand.
I find it very hard though when people make a promise and they continue to break it to believe them to stick to whatever promise that they have made. Like I know when I was little my dad has made alot of promises to me and never kept them.
I say don't make a promise unless you plan on keeping it. If you are not sure though that you can keep that promise then don't say you promise.
I normally stick to the promises that I make. If I think that I may not be able to keep with that promise then I normally will say that I will try and that is it. I can't make a promise and then break it.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
I understand! Me too, I sometimes don't make a promise when i know that i can't make it.. I'll just tell them that I will try my best to make it.. Yes, its really hard to believe to people who makes a lot of promises and they never intended to keep it.. My father also made so many promises to me when i was a kid but not all of his promises he keeps it only some.. So, when he promise me something I will just told him ok then I'll just wait whether he keep it or not but I won't expect so much.. Thanks for sharing...
Thanks for sharing...
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
if the promise comes from my friends whom i trusted so much then i know that i'm in good hands and i believe that they will keep their promise but if one of my trusted friends broke her promise then i would still give her another chance, that if her reasons are reasonable enough to give her another chance. in my case i know for a fact that i always keep my promise whatever it takes.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
that great to know that you always keep your promise to others.. As for me, i admit that i sometimes do what I've promise its not because I don't want to do it but because I realize that I just can't do it no matter how hard I tried..
Anyway, thanks for sharing!
