I don't have any friends!

Yes, I don't have have friends either and I guess that I am content about it, as I have discovered that I have to be my own best friend. I used to have many friends before, but then I moved countries and though I visit them sometimes, it is not as often as I would like. I used to be single before and now I am married, so I am happy with my family, even though my friends are still there, but far away.

When I was young I had lots of friends and a few good ones. I spent years married to my craft business and have friends I am very glad to see at the shows I travel to. I see them once a year and it is great. When it comes to acual friends I only have a few. I put alot of value on friendship. You have to be a friend to have friends, being so busy with the business and traveling I didn't have time to be much of a friend. Now with disabilities I am going to have to quite doing shows and it is kind of lonely. I do have a couple of friends and we do things together sometimes. If you are happy with your life then it's cool. You say you have several acquaintances, maybe one or two of them are really friends. I don't think there is anything wrong with you unless you feel you are missing something.

Yes, actually, barehugs. I, too, have very few friends, BY CHOICE! It probably stems from being an only child and I am used to doing things my way and being alone doesn't bother me much. It also has to do with the fact that I am so tired of being used by people after becoming their 'friend'. So many nowadays are just out to scam you or use you for their own selfish purpose. I have often helped others, just because they needed it, only to then be barraged by constant requests for more help, all the time, with no offer of a return of help when I need it. Fair is fair. I can't break myself down, tire myself out, and neglect my own life, and put everyone else's first all the time. If I am able and willing, I don't mind helping others, but on my terms. I can only give what I can afford to by money or time or whatever. I just don't like it when it becomes a charity case and that seems to be the norm. So many just try to get away with working their lives around getting sympathy from others, in order to get free help, because they are just too lazy to do for themselves. I am not lazy and I do pretty much everything for myself. I very, very rarely EVER ask anyone for help unless I absolutely have to. And I also offer fair return, if not in money, then in some other way that is mutually agreeable. I do not want charity. But so many rely on it and what makes me so sick, is they EXPECT IT! DEMAND IT! And it has nothing to do with poor people only. It is most often, actually, someone who is richer that seems to EXPECT TOO MUCH OF OTHERS. For example, my husband has this friend, that is better off financially than us, but is always asking favours, for which he never returns, even when asked a favour in return. He spends money foolishly and wastefully, yet is soooo cheap and borrows and mooches(never to return) things all the time, it makes me sick. He gambles, too, which I do not like him getting my husband into and he has a little bit. They have talked about going to the casino together, and I have forbidden it, only allowing him to buy a few weekly lottery tickets.

well....its totally upto an individual....i dont understand why people just keep nagging about friendship-the most beautiful thing n all that....I have had many acquaintances myself and have been a social person but i admit that i never felt the need of having friends and all...the whole idea is a bit unnecessarily emphasized....i cant understand whom to call my friend or not, cuz i tend to have a good time with everyone...

You know, sometimes having few friends or none at all is better than having friends who are just there during your happy times and not your worst. Don't worry, it's not a bad thing to have no friends. What important is that you do not mistreat people.

I've been through periods of my life without friends as well, only acquaintances, nice people, who will help if necessary, keep you company, sit next to you in class, but who are'nt REAL friends. A real friend is something very rare, someone you know you can say anything to, you can trust, you can laugh with and cry with, you can even quarrel and know it'll turn out all right again. You can be perfectly happy and live your life without real friends (that is, with at least some acquintances, I couldn't do without any social contact at all), but for me, my few true friends are a wonderful extra in life, they are what makes it worth to get up in the morning, what makes me smile in the evening.

you sound just like my husband.he too does not have any friends.he says it is not a necessity.i find it a bit wierd.maybe he led a over-protective life in his chilhdhood.

I do have a few friends but not to many.The friends i do have is few but iconsider them very good friends..I have lot of the type like you that just wave as you go by,but those are just acquaintances really...If you are a private person and just happy the way that you are then i see nothing wrong with that.I also have a friendless brother & he says he is also happy the way he is.He gets lonely sometimes but he says friends cost money..haha...If you have a wife ,then you have a friend...So just be happy with what you have..If i had the choice of being friends with one person or many,i had rather have one true friend than a lot of so so friends....

I am in your same boat. My friends and I have grown appart since we were young as we went off to college or work & started families KWIM? I have one friend that I'm looking at letting go, she has no time for me and I am alsmost afraid to call. I am afraid to call because she is sooo busy she is a full time student, employed full time, has a large family and a live-in boyfriend to attend to and I don't know when she'd ever get back to me. It has always seemed when my friends get into relationships they have no time for me. I'm ok with it as it seem my friends are really family members I talk to my MIL & Aunt daily and I confide in them besides my spouse.

i just find it weird, knowing someone that who claims he dont have friends, maybe youre not that outgoing, but me im not outgoing too, but i dont think i dont have friends, i have lots of friends, even here in mylot, and i treasure thme so much!!!

Whether or not you have friends is most likely dependent on your definition of friendship. The word friend, as you have noted, is widely used. Like you, I know a great many people, some very well and others not well at all. My very best friend was my husband. He was the 'wind beneath my wings' and with him by my side I felt like I could accomplish anything. I didn't need anyone else. Different people have different needs and this is normal. Some people need to be surrounded by others all the time. Other people are just as content being by themselves. As long as you are content with the way your friendships or lack thereof is going no one else should worry about it.

um huh?first of all , it is not hard for me to tell huge humour from your statement above.heh,friends is those who are ready to give you fraternal love and lend your warm hands when you are in trouble .there,some friends probably not perfectly loyal and sometimes physically hurt you once upon a time,but from another point of view,are you sure enough you are not self-centered ?i will bet if you exactly havenot any friends nearby and havenot got help from them,you are unlikely able to become a successful farmer and gentleman as you have mentioned.find the way to enjoy your friendship,for you likewise have many friends compared with any one else.

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I am, like yourself,I have no real friends outside my brothers and sisters. I know that the value of a real friend is not estimable, I just no such luck.

I have to say I am much like you. I prefer to do things alone or just with my immediate family. I have found that if you have friends they tend to take advantage of you or expect things from you. I have many acquaintances that I speak to regularly but no friends that I just hang out with or do things with on a regular basis. It's probably better that way as I am too busy to add the pressures of friendship to my schedule.

Me for one has no friends, except my husband. This may sound equally funny for I guess a friend’s someone with whom you can fool around as much as you want, no offences and no strings attached, but to me my hubby is the only friend I have. Maybe I am wrong in my thoughts, maybe its more dependence than friendship, but I have no friends. Temperamentally a recluse, I dislike mixing with people with a false smile pasted forever on my lips. So like you, I have acquaintances since I go to office and mix with lot of people out there, but beyond a veneer, I know nothing about them. And I am happy this way, no issues.

Yes ,maybe you are right when you are always staying at you farm as a successful farmer.we all know ,farmers 'work are only raising the crope.there is a little time to communicate with others ,so it is not so important whether you have friends or not .if we are working out of my family ,always i am single and will fell lonely when without friends.and the life is also tedious.life fail to light ours wish and dream. meaningless for me .it is only my own opinion,don't get angry.

You cannot to talk like that.However,you are social creature who cannot live alone without the help of other people.In other timeyou feel that you need a friend.

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I think life are shareing,If we have many friend then we could tod them that we are happy or woeful.In actual,we havn't many friends i hope i have many friends then to shareing all things!