Love vs Family

Not being close to each others families (or on one of your sides) is one thing, hating each other is another. Hopefully you can work out an arrangement where you guys can be civil, because if you love each other very much then you will make an effort to accept the people important to your lover

I hope you can over come this because truth is it will cause alot stress in the future and if you have kids ya want them to see grandparents , right ? unless they are truly bad people and have hurt you or him i would try to give them a chance and maybe find some common ground or make peace . my fiance had a real annyoying , controling family and tat bothered me and i stayed away and things got messy . they missed their son and blamed me from taking him away from them , and they blamed me too for all things wrong with $ bc i didnt have a good enough job , so on and so on . you know they just had a prob letting go and i was hurt and staying away but once they got to know me they let go and like me , well love me now after 8 years LOL . they actually mean so much to me now and we are all close and i never would of thought . my fiance too was deep down sad that their was a rift !

Hate between families could mean serious trouble in your relationship,as they can get you and your lover against each other. Having your family and your lover's family support and knowing that all care about each other and are not against each other,is the ideal situation,but life doesn't always go that way! I have been married for 17 years and my husband's family couldn't even stand seeing me.Life has not been that easy for these 17 years as we had many serious quarrels because of them and life is very injust sometimes!If there is hatred, in-laws would come up to anything to seperate you from each other and it takes the two of you to decide not to let them interfere in your life.If anyone of you lets this happen this means serious trouble and puts a lot of unneccassary pressure on your relationship . It also takes a lot of sacrifice to endure certain situations between families, beleive me!

If you hate eachother's families and get married anyway, that's going to be a terrible burden on your marraige. Having the support of the families is much better than what you're talking about. Do you REALLY want to put yourself in a situation like that? My experience: I was married to a man who's family wasn't really supportive of me. whenever we had problems, they were all for us getting a divorce. It was terrible. My family didn't like him either and kept telling me that I should divorce him. Eventually, I did. The man I am in a relationship with now was introduced to me by HIS father. Having the support of his family makes all the difference in the world. We're not married yet but I'm pretty sure that's where we're headed. Happy MyLotting!