would you let him go or beg him to stay?!?

I will just let go. I know it is easy to tell but hard to do. But once you started it, it will end soon. I mean if you feel hurt, soon you will recover from it. I know, because I've been there, done that, and survived.

I can tell you this, she would be better off finding someone that is true to her. If he has done it once he will do it again!!! She has been with him for 3 years so she is attached and probably wants to make an excuse. It will hurt for now, but in the long run she will suffer less if she cuts him loose now. And don't listen to the excuses that he might give. They will all be lies no matter how good they might sound or make her feel. This is just my opinion from a guys perspective. I had the same thing happen to me with my ex-wife. And the key word is ex.

I would do all I could to make the relationship work if my partner was also wanting it to work. The fact that he had a girlfriend on the side tells me that he was just playing her and not really in love. I would let him go. He has another girlfriend and that says so much about the relationship. The only time love is good is when it is both ways and in this case, it appears to be very one-sided.

It is very hard what your friend is going through, very hard. The pain and intensity of her emotions will be so much that she will hardly know what to do with herself. I have been there with my current hubby a couple of years ago and I am currently going through it again so I know only to well what she is feeling. You are right she needs to try and be rational and try and think about things to try and make the right decision but it is not easy. I fought for mine and I won but it is not always the right thing to do over a long term period, anyway I hope that things turn out how she wants them.

first she hast calm down, then make sure that he has another relation. if yes it is better to move on without him, as the person once cheated you can't be better if you forgive once.

I had the same experience but mine was a lighter situation than her. I discovered that my boyfriend have mutual understanding with another girl. I was hurt and i felt so confused. All i did was asked him about what i had discovered. He did not denied it and he was happy that my reaction was not as furious as he was thinking whenever he thinks of telling me the truth. All I did was again asked him questions such as "Do you love me?" he replied yes "Do you love her" he replied nothing silence followed but then he told me one thing... "Do you think i would stay as your boyfriend if i love her? I could leave you immediately if i do love her right?" And then I asked him my final question "If your going to choose among the two of us, who will you choose?" he answered..... my name i tried to forget everything after that. But still the pain remains. But after some times, i discovered that he send an SMS to the other girl telling to stop flirting him and that he loves me. At first, i felt that I'm so stupid, but at the end, i felt that he still fights for me.

That is so weird because i have made a discussion similar to that. But i am the girlfriend who was cheated on. I am going through a rough time because my heart keeps saying try to make it work. BUT my head says NO he cheated and he hurt you. He lied to you. he will do it again. I am going with my head this time. Because It is right. Good luck with your friend I hope she finds out what is important to her.

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i've always been one to say let it go. but when you've invested a lot in a relationship then its hard. sometimes its best if you work at it. has she talked to him? is it possible that he would be faithful from here on out?? these are all things she has to think about. also will she be able to trust him agian? its no good trying to get past it if she's not willing to let the past go.

That is hard i admit, painful but girl power, that phrase may be overrated but true, she must get over it. That guy does not deserve her since he cheated on her, if he love her truly he would not do it to her! He must respect her and love her and not cheat on her, that is love! She must stand up, pick herself up, and prove to herself that she is tough...

First she has to calm down,to help her sort things out properly.I don't believe she should go back.She can find someone who will truly love her and only want to share their life with her.If he cheated once,he is bound to cheat again. Take Care

hi, cathya i think your friend should let go and then come to terms with herself. her boyfriend may or may not be sorry for what he has done but what is important is that your friend must love herself first. this may sound like a cliche but when you let go of someone you love and he comes back to you...then think about it again and again and again if it's worth the risk. i wish you and your friend well, cathya. take good care of her ok?

Your friend should move on. The guy violated her trust by cheating on her and if there is one thing I know, it's that trust can never be regained. She will always be worried about whether or not he is going to cheat on her again. Besides that, lovers don't do that to one another regardless of how long they have been together. Your friend may love him, but he certainly does not love her. Otherwise he would never have done something so selfish and cruel to her. I have four kids with my wife and if she ever cheated on me I would be out the door in a heartbeat. The trust would be gone, the love would be tainted by a horrible memory and I could never be happy with her again. The same goes if I ever cheated on her. Fortunately for loves sake, there is no compromise on this issue. I hope things work out for your friend, Jay

Im not a girl, but if something like this happened to me, i would very simply break up with the person, the way i see it is that if you really loved the person, you would have known them well enough to know that they wouldnt betray you. The person you thought you knew was just a coverup, you didnt really love the person. Its hard but sometimes its better to find out the true nature of a person rather than find out after marriage =] Hope it helped!

If I was in that situation I would kick him to the curb. He cannot care for her at all if he is cheating on her and the next thing she will know is that she has an STD because he has multiple partners. She should find someone that will treat her with respect and be with her only.

I'd let him go. It's hard to tell how long he's had that girlfriend on the side and it's obvious he had no intention of telling her that he was dating another girl. He's not worth it in my opinion because he'll probably find another girl that he'll want to date on the side. She should find someone better than him.

It is obvious that her boyfriend is not serious about her. it may not be the first time that he has had other girlfriends. he may have been doing it for a long time. If he is not serious, she shoud not shed tears for him. good riddance i swuppose. However, men are by nature polygamous and will definitely have more than one girlfriend, but they have one steady girlfriend who they woudl nto trde for anyone else.If she is the steady one, then she shoudl not worry. the others may just be aberrations.

hi cathya first, she should calm down so that she can think of a better solution. They've been together for almost 3 years then suddenly her BF has other girl..hhmm! talk to the guy....she can ask for a reason.... if the guy has a valid reason then your friend should accept it she has to go on and move on with her life. she will find the right guy Be there with your friend cos she needs you now take care

I think your friend should calm down first . Then she should have a talk with her boyfriend heart to heart ,to let him know he has made a mistake and how serious it is . If he admits his mistake and want to make up for it , then you can give him a chance . After all she and her boyfriend have been together for 3 years , it's not easy . Every body may make a mistake sometimes , it's important that whether we can admit it and correct it .

I would ask him if who will choose between the two of us, and I will respect whatever will be his decision.