for parents: do you wish that your first baby should/must be boy or girl?
By mrbrownedeye
@mrbrownedeye (781)
Philippines
November 26, 2008 9:01pm CST
when i first to know that where ganna have a baby i do admit that i wish and pray for having a baby boy, and then later i change my mind that i must accept what ever it would be given to me. blessedly my first wish was granted and i got a baby boy and his just like me (super naughty) and second was girl. do you?
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@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
girl is a very sweet one angel just like my daughter shy help me remember anything and care me when i got sick. i hope for you to have that baby girl, strong and healthy.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I was wanting a baby girl really bad. I didn't find out till I had him what I had and I can tell you no matter how bad I wanted a girl all that dissapearred as soon as I seen my little boy...I wouldn't trade him for anything.
Three babies later and I still haven't had my girl and now I can't have no more kids due to medical problems, which is really sad, but I wouldn't trade any of my boys for the world!
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@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
there is always a hope for you to hold on. you dont have to feel sad about what is going onto you. that kids you are taking care are one of kind gifts that you ever receive and i do believe. if you can have a baby girl perhaps your baby boys can gave it soon. there is always a hope.
@bobbyjoe143 (1287)
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27 Nov 08
When I was pregnant, I wanted to have a girl, I had chosen only a girls name and I had not even considered having a boy.
I didn’t buy anything pink or any girly things, I mainly bought white/yellow/green clothes for my baby just in case I was wrong.
When people asked me what I wanted my baby to be, I answered honestly with this “I would prefer a girl, but I don’t care really as long as it is happy and healthy.
I gave birth to my SON on 28th August 1998, he was a happy and healthy child and so I was a happy mother, regardless that he wasn’t a girl.
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
we always made a choice about having a first baby but in the end we take it back and then replace to " no matter what, either girl or boy as long as it is healthy i will be thankful and that was a parents pray". as i said earlier boy was born talented from the birth you take care of him and teach him the best that you can and he will be your strength.
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
we always made a choice about having a first baby but in the end we take it back and then replace to " no matter what, either girl or boy as long as it is healthy i will be thankful and that was a parents pray". as i said earlier boy was born talented from the birth you take care of him and teach him the best that you can and he will be your strength.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
28 Nov 08
When I was pregnant for the first time I didn't mind if I had a boy or a girl. The hospital had the policy not to tell the gender. I had a boy and now he is 13 years old. I had a long gap and then got pregnant for the second time. I really hoped I was having a girl and went for a gender scan at 16 weeks pregnancy. I was so sad when I was told I was having a boy. I got used to the idea and then I found out at 36 weeks pregnancy he has spina bifida. He is now 18 months old. I would dearly love to have a daughter one day.
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
maybe if can have a girl perhaps your son can gave some but lets not lost your faith you can still have and i wished for that you wished would be granted. spina bifida have no idea? anyway i wished for your family's happiness.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
27 Nov 08
My fiance and I don't have any children. But we want children. However they are not in the cards for us right now. But when the time does come we just hope and wish that we have a healthy. It really doesn't matter if it is a girl or a boy. However the fiance would like to have a boy first. I just hope whatever it is we have is healthy.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
10 Dec 08
We are not rushing in to having a baby right now. Because it not being in our cards right now is because of medical reasons.
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
you dont have to be hurry about having a baby planning i the best way around to do for the best future for your family. but then i still wish your family growth.
@ayu_puteri (261)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 08
when i was pregnant, my hubby say he dont care if the baby boy or girl..so 1st baby i got girl..so i keep asking my hubby after this what he want..guess it..there must be a boy..me also n i always pray that will come true..
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
i like to hear that from you. no matter its a boy or a girl i wish your family a happy and strong bonding.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
I always wanted to have a little baby boy and I guess I got what I wished for. Anyway, had my baby been a girl, I would still love her as much as I love my baby boy. As parents, we should never discriminate when it comes to our children. Children are blessings from God and they deserved to be loved. :)
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
i am against discrimination having favoritism i hate that. well children should be treat fair. i hope that your wished would be granted. wished for a happy family.
@chobby3037 (170)
• United States
28 Nov 08
I just "knew" as soon as i'd found out i was pregant with my first that she was going to be a girl. my second I hoped for a boy to have one of each. no luck a girl -- my husband knew as soon as we found out i was pregant she'd be a girl. no complaints first and foremost they were heathly and secondly beautiful.I wouldn't change them in the world.
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
a happy mother you are! i wish you a happy and strong family. a baby girl is very sweet, i know that.
@loveyoohbaby (737)
• New Zealand
27 Nov 08
Hey there it does not matter me if its a girl or a boy as long as it is a healthy baby ether way I will be naming it after family that have past on if it is to be a boy it will be Henry.William.Robert.John as the John is after my father who has less then 6 months ago past away.If it is a girl it will be Annie.Agnes.Maybe Ruth after my mother even know one of my sisters also has Ruth and protested when I asked my mother about it.
Arohnui Love loveyoohbaby xoxo
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
sorry to hear about your father but i am happy that you have a name for your upcoming baby. i hope for your baby's (either a boy or girl) healthy.
@wahmivy (776)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
When people were asking me this question when I was pregnant, I always answered that it didn't matter to me so long as the baby's healthy. Secretly though, I was hoping for a girl. Well, that's what we got and we were over the moon. In retrospect though, had we gotten a boy, I wouldn't have felt disappointed at all. I'd still have been over the moon. :)
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
a gift can never tell until it was been open. you know what, when i got my first baby i didn't know it was a boy or girl because the position of my baby was unable to determine by the scan but i am happy because my baby was alive and healthy.
@arthamandiri (197)
• Indonesia
27 Nov 08
Having a baby is very importance for humankind to keep they existed,Boy and girl is same importance, but it will different if you born in some place that the culture need the boy to become most important, like in my place, Even how high the girl achieve education or career. Her must under her husband, to take care child, family.
@arthamandiri (197)
• Indonesia
27 Nov 08
In my place having a boy is a priority because the boy will be carry family name, take care the house, involve in social community. it is usual that some family have until six girl until have a boy.But some family have until five boy until they get a girl. For me for my first baby i will accept what ever it would be given to me, just like you of course as long as the baby is normal,healthy. For second child, depend on the first if the first a boy then i wish a girl.
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
yup you are right that boy is the one that carry the family name. but no matter who what it could be we should be thankful. hope that you can have both a girl and a boy as you wish for.
@AmandaBarnhart (671)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
For my fiance and I who comes first really doesn't matter to us. So long as we have one boy and one girl we'll be dandy. The most kids we will have is 3 because I personally just don't want to go through that more than once. I do however want to know what it is ahead of time so that babyshower gifts can be bought accordingly and so I can spend some of my maternity leave decorating according to gender
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
you have a great aspect on dealing your life. i just wanted to wished you a happy family.
@jenpink (5)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
When I first conceived 34 years ago, I didnt remember that I ever wishes for a girl or a boy, what i wished then was for my baby to be healthy and normal.
I think all parents, though mostly have their own gender preferences, in general wish for a healthy child without deformities.
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
i do wish also for their baby's healthy then the second was their prepare gender that it would be granted.
@manzoor1984 (107)
• Pakistan
27 Nov 08
when i get married and when me and my wife are expecting our first child i would wish for a girl cause they bring a home alive, bring happiness and a light in the house sort of speak and also because they are not as naughty as boy's ... hehe raised two younger brothers i want a change :P
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
about having a child and that you choose girl. you know is know as the sweetest angel in the family
@ayenacsi (910)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
When I was having my first born, I just knew somehow that it would be a boy even before the ultrasound results came out. I don't know but I just think that it would be ideal for the first born to be a boy so that he is the big brother and he will take care of the younger kids, sort of look out for them and stuff. My second also is a boy, he is now three and I can say that sometimes they get along well and there are times I know that he (the older one is 6) gets impatient or irritated by the younger one which I think is only natural as they are both boys and boys do tend to fight a lot. I also just recently gave birth to a baby girl (thank GOD!) who I know is dearly loved by her older brothers.
Sorry to go way off topic but I can't help but talk about my little angels!
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
it's ok. oh little angel's both and always argue it is normal bith you should put and eye on them cause sometimes they play painful. Boy as eldest can do really a big help. you are bless to have a 2 handsome boy and a beautiful girl. wish to have you a happy family.
@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
27 Nov 08
Hmmmm.. I'm not yet married and I have really not thought on these lines. But then I need a minimum of dozen around me I like girl babies. I've always felt so proud being a gal. And one true reason why I like gal babies is that we can dress them up beautifully Anyways,babies are always cute be it a boy or gal. Anything is god's gift and will accept it happily
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
cute and sweet angel. you have to and when you do have that agel on your side i wish for that a happy and healthy one that would stay with you
@agrant10 (1476)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I must admit that I wanted a boy when we found out that we were pregnant. My spouse and I wanted a boy. Our wish too was granted a healthy baby boy. Then we wanted a girl next and that would have been it. We were blessed with another boy and the 3rd was a baby girl. That is it for us.
We wanted the boy first because we wanted someone to be able to look out for the rest of them. The little girl looks like she is going to be the one to look out for the both of them. LOL
@carmelsuarez (329)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
I am no parent yet but I would love to be one soon. My husband and I was once discussing about what child we'd like to have first. Well as for me I would like it to be a boy so that he will be the big brother whol would protect his younger siblings. But my husband would like a baby girl. Its quite hard to agreed though but after a while, we just realized that we cant just pick a child its with the good Lord to decide.
Its funny but ist really true that we husband and wife sometimes argued about this thing not knowing that we cant really decide for it. Its like a gift which you dont know unless you unwrap it.
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
you were right it is a gift. but often on a gift that was given to us we do guess what's inside and sometimes wish for what was inside. no matter whats inside of and when you do settle and have a family i wish you a happy and strong bonding family.
@piya84 (2580)
• India
27 Nov 08
I think so its natures gift n we shud accept whatever we get with open heart.Its nthing wrong expecting something perticular i agree.But nthing is in our hand realy..so i feel its better nt to expect because if we get something else instead of what we expect..one may feel sad latter.
Congradulation mr brow...u are lucky guys u hav got boy n girl both...parenting baby boy n baby girls are diff experiance.. :)
@mrbrownedeye (781)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
i thank you. we should be thankful and take care of them all of the time give them the best thoughts. having a boy and girl caring alone i'm happy with that.