how will you handle this case?

I think it is better to go to abroad with his 2 months old son. Tell her to ask his husband to come to abroad, instead of staying with his family. If she is staying in abroad with his child, surely situations will be changed. After some time her husband may also stay with her.

I just got married and had a 2 months old son. My husband worked in abroad before and I have no experience of going out the country in my entire life. When I was still single I always wanted to work abroad. But my husband told me not to because it is better to work here in this country. He said people abroad have different culture and if you are new and doesn't knew anybody in the place you want to work, then it will be very hard for you to survive. In that situation I think the lady will leave his husband and son to work if she is really after the money she can earn that will help the family. You forgot to mention what did the husband said to his wife. In my case I still want to work abroad but if and only if I will be with my husband and son. I could never live without them and it is better to stay here than to leave them. We also have relatives who could offer us help financially but we are not that in need. We are even luckier in life status than them. My husband and I don't want to have life-long debt of gratitude if we will ask anything from our relatives. It is very hard to trust people sometimes because at the end they will tell you "you owe me one" because I did helped you when you were in need. Anyway all is in a case to case basis. I just cited mine.

what was her husband's reaction to her decision in wanting to leave? i were her, she should've received the offer of her husband's aunt. besides, i think it's not easy to leave a two month old son behind, while you go and work abroad. i think that's why the aunt offered her the business. accepting the offer doesn't mean that you are absolutely depending on them, it is just a gesture of wanting to help other people. she should've appreciated the effort very much because she's so lucky that there's this relative of her husband who trusted her on that thing, specially it involved money. my opinion is NOT to leave. just get somebody to babysit your son while you're busy attending the business. with that, you can still spend time with your child during the night or whenever you like it.

hey, although i still didn't experience being a wife and having my own kidz but, if i was in her shoe; i would try to think carefuly before jumping into the descision.. as i don't think i would leave my baby with his dad and the family to raise him especially the baby needs his mum so badly in this age.. but, if the job is really good; i would then try to convince the husband to accompany me in my journey.. but, in any case, i would consider my kid and husband before anything else... at the moment, i'm staying overseas coz i'm a student.. but, i wish to go back soon to get married with my guy and live together..although, i'm staying far away but i do miss my hometown, relatives, friends and so on.. despite the fact of getting used to stay here, yet, i do find it a bit tough sometimes... smiley,

What about the husband? Is he ok with her going abroad? What kind of a job she's going to do? I feel if her husband says ok and if she can take her son along with her, she can go ahead no matter what her husband's family says. It's not a good thing for her to leave the kid behind as he is too small and needs the mother at this age. It's better if her husband too can join her. Kid can be put in a day care until she returns home. In my case I'll never think of leaving my husband and children even if we have problems.

the baby is too little to leave his mother.if she bring the baby abroad she may can't take good care of him,because when we get a new job we must try hard to do it well at the begining.so i think she'd better give up,aftre all the baby's growth is the most important.she can find the opportunity in future.

She will have to think very carefully to make sure she makes the correct choice. Its hard but she must think of herdelf, baby and husband and what is best for them all. I hope she works it out ok

Hi becnh83, I wonder sometimes why people do things to please other people, why not do something to please yourself, it your life, not their's. I think your friend should go ahead a do what she want and not what her in-laws wnat, they are offering the business, so they can keep her under their thumb and have their claws into her son. My best advice for your friend is to get away from them and go abroad as she will regret it for the rest of her life and will always ask the question what if? and another thing, what will happen if your friend and her husband split up? they will take the business away from her and she will have nothing. You have to think ahead. Tamara

why does she not want assistance from the relatives to do a business. she is not depending on them. they are just providing her with some support and ultimately, it is still up to her to see if she can make money on her own. if she cannot even make money with some supports, then i dun think she is capable enough to by earning aboard. I see nothing wrong with some support from friends or family cos that is the way helps and assistance come by. She is not depending on them and i dun think they would offer her support again if she failed the first time. If i am doing a business, i would look to my friend and family to support me by finding clients or buying from me etc. There is nothing wrong with that

it depends on how she handle their situation being a mother to a 2 months old baby is very hard decision to leave especially going abroad, but she need to decide with his husband not to her husband's relatives since they are only there in terms of moral support not for financial support. If it is really needed for their family so why not go!!!

Depends. If she really want to go, and if she is really going to earn from going abroad. Then She have to go. But if its not best for her and she dont know about it, first she must know that it is not the best for her. If the Business is good, why not let her husband handle it?