How to avoid a friend who causes you pain?

@jlamela (4897)
Philippines
November 27, 2008 3:35am CST
I want to avoid my friend who causes me pain. I felt that he just exploited my feelings towards him, how can I possibly avoid him? What are some valid things to make alibi not to talk to him anymore and cut our communication?
7 responses
Rainegurl
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
hi, jlamela just be "unavailable" for him. say things like you are "too busy", "have some things to attend to"... eventually he will get the message. and maybe confront you about your evasion. if he does, talk to him honestly. be frank and get it over with. just be strong. take care
jlamela
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
Yes, that is what I am doing right now, just "unavailable"everytime he needs something. I am hoping against hope that will get a message and stop associating with me again so that he cannot exploit me anymore. I already keep distance from him and hopefully he will understand and respect my "chosen" privacy. I did not gain anything from our friendship, he is the one who keep gaining by exploiting my kindness, why there are men like him?thanks for your opinion.
kaliyha
@kaliyha (591)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
It would be better for you both if you'll tell him about how you feel rather than hide. But won't understand your point, I think its better if you walk away. Take some time away from him to stop encouraging him.
subha12
@subha12 (18441)
• India
27 Nov 08
avoid means just do not keep any contact. delete all the things with you associated with him. then do one thing. never take it hard to forget. then you will remember him mostly.
moreqly27
@moreqly27 (58)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
if you really want to cut him out of your life, you would need to tell him frankly otherwise, he would just find ways to talk to you especially if he wants to make up for something.
abyin007
@abyin007 (426)
• India
27 Nov 08
its better to tell him directly. if he is really your friend he will understand you. But u should not be angry... and dont stay away from him since he/she is ur friend..
arialgrs
@arialgrs (130)
• Greece
27 Nov 08
Avoiding him, dont answer to his calls, or even you are too busy for seeing him. Eventually you can also tell him , that you are not available to see him or talk him.
sunny7758521
@sunny7758521 (339)
• China
27 Nov 08
Tell him your feeling and let him not to disturb you. If he do it again, tell him you have something to do or no time.