what will you do whenever you meet failures in exames continuously?

Vietnam
November 28, 2008 12:01am CST
I know that I myself am a potential student but be honest with you,I have met many consecutive failures during 2 years.Im very sad and disappointed very much,you know, I tried hard to gain success as my dream but...after a long time for thinking,I recognised that actually my sould and my mind didnt save for learning properly but all are late.My heart is still hurt so much but I will get back square one to repare my mistakes.Sometimes I fell breathless because of the pressure of busy life and my responsibility for a good child in the family.I am afraid of friends'disdains in particular and of people in general.For now,Im rehabilitate step by step but it is difficult to forget some past things.WHAT DO YOU THINK AND WHAT TO DO IN THE CASE OF MINE
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18 responses
@moonight (249)
• United States
28 Nov 08
hmm i am not sure what i could do, i think is better if you have some real people you can talk to to lessen your burden, such as family members, friends or go to church. or maybe what you are doing now is just not the right think for you. try to look at other sides and see what you can do instead of what you did do. Like for the exams, maybe the class is not for you, try to take others if you can. I have this before, i just breathe in and out and just spent one day the whole day for myself, do what you like the whole day, jog, read, play games, listen to music just do something fun the whole day and after day make a promise to yourself to keep working again
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@killkiss (14)
• China
28 Nov 08
sorry to hear that you are so disappointed... not like you, every exam was not difficult for me for these many years... but what you get in the marks did not illustrate what you really learnt. take it easy, but please do not give it up. everything is going to be better.
@luoke1 (377)
• China
28 Nov 08
I totally agree with you,exam don't necessarily tell how much you've learnt.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
29 Nov 08
Looks and sounds to me like you've taken more than you can handle. There are only 24 hours to a day, and one can pack in only so much. You need to make a decision on what you want to get out of life. That will help you figure out how to spend your days. Are you working as well? Working and being in school at the same time is always hard. Talk to your parents about your timefor work and chores, both in the house. and outside (if you're employed). It helps if they know how stressed you are, and could be supportive of you. Hope this helps.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 Nov 08
If I were in your situation I would try to figure out what went wrong. Did you fail your exams because you can't find the time to study? If yes, what can you do to change the situation? Is it possible do things in a different way so that you can spend more time on studying? Did you fail your exams because the subject isn't right for you? Would a different subject be better or easier for you?Are you in a study group? Sometimes the other students can be a great help. Did you fail your exams because you were too nervous or not able to think clearly? These are just a few examples. You are the only person who is able to find the answer, but I think it is important that you think through the situation, hopefully you can find a solution which will improve your chances of passing the exams.
@becnh83 (806)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
hi, dont take it seriously boy, i mean all students get along with that, thats normal if you failed then try to study it more, dont be discouraged, enjoy your self leave all the worries...Pray to GOD,HE NEVER LEAVE YOU....
• China
30 Nov 08
I really understand you.... sometimes I would be in such a trouble like you. Last two weeks, I finished the exam GRE and TOEFL and both of them spend me more than 4 months in prepare.However, the results were so terrible and I could not accept them. I did not bebieve the continuous efforts finally left me nothing except depression. The day after the exam, I decided to relax oneself. Then I chose to climb a high mounton, which might be the only way that can give me confidence. So, find an event can give you confidence and be eager to complete it. Bless you.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
28 Nov 08
it is true that hard to take it. better try to retrospect what went wrong. try to focus on the points that can ease it up. hope it helps you to pass next time.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
28 Nov 08
Hello, jimmy2404. I am sorry if this sounds rude, but the first step, in your case, is: stop telling you are a potential student. If you are failing, then it is because you are not a good student. There is no other way to put it, and the only way to start getting better is when you admit you are not where you wanted to be. No, you did not pass. No, you are not a great student. Try to find different methods of studying, and tell your parents/family that you have problems studying. Start looking for help. But before you do, you must admit you need help. You must step down of the stairs and see that you are not as high as you wanted to. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
• India
28 Nov 08
Since I was a bright student, i never faced this problem in my life. Its okay. If you fail, don't worry. Try once again. Work harder. You will surely win. Happy Mylotting.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
i guess you need to set your goals and work harder.. the best thing you can do now is to relax, unwind and ready yourself to face the challenge.. after all, it's not too late for you to make things right.. help yourself then ask for God's guidance.. good luck
@stiener (735)
• Singapore
28 Nov 08
Failure is a part of success...all you need to do is to think back on all the factors that may have contributed to the failure. Failure is nothing to fear about...the worst part of failure is failing to understand why I have failed. When you cannot resolve to problem of failure...think again...have you identify all the cause of your failed attempted? In reality, many people who kept making the same mistakes are those who do not address the problem. The problem may sometimes lie within oneself then external factors. One classic example is that when one person is frequently late (habitual), he may give all sort of reasons like, there was traffic jam,the bus came late,the train was too packed that I couldn't board etc. But the main thing that they do not blame is themself. If they make the effort to walk up 15 minutes earlier, would they be bugged with these problems. The main point to note is that why do people blame on things that they have no or least control (external factors) when they could change the outcome by making changes on things that they have most control (internal factors). This may not have been your problem...but who knows...maybe you haven't thought of it yet. Maybe you could have prepared for your exams months earlier or you could have used another approach of writing or you could have a misconception on the core ideas of the subject... Hope that this helps...Happy MyLotting...
• India
28 Nov 08
yeah once it happened to me. after taht i completly changed my lifestyle n routines nad became a better student
@Zezloler (497)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Nov 08
I can't tell whether you still have time to improve or not, so I'll assume you do. =P You sound like you're pretty serious about your studies and that's good. I know people who fail constantly but don't care at all and don't bother to improve because they don't see the value of education in today's world. This is a foul attitude to have, and it's great that you realize that you have to do your best. You need to think about what you're doing wrong. Is it the way you're studying? Is it a problem with your test-taking skills? Or can you not concentrate properly during class and miss important information? When you've thought your process of studying and test-taking through, pinpoint these mistakes and then work on improving them. This may take time, but you might be able to find exactly where you went wrong. The most important thing is not to be lazy and try your best constantly. You have to put your best effort if you want to produce the best results. Try to mantain a positive mood and not lose hope of improving. Good luck and I hope I helped. ^_^
• India
28 Nov 08
Well, please do not loose heart. You have filed only two times. But you should not become disheartened. If you read attentively from now then you must come successful in the next time. I am sure about this. I have seen many students who fail in the first time. But if they try, they come successful for a second or third time. You have failed. You should make this failure your energy. So that you can come successful next time. You can take help from your teachers and other good students who are meritorious. If you follow my advice you will do very good next time. Thanks.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
28 Nov 08
I was never a good student when I was at school, I just didn't have a good memory for what I was supposed to remember for exams, some people just do do well in this area, I think it is a shame that people are judged a good student just because they can rmember a lot of names dates and such, i think practical learning is what is important and if you really like that area you will do well...I hope you do well in the future, I guess all you can do is study more and hope for the best...good luck to you my friend..
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
hi jimmy! well, what i can say is that, you have to make assessments on yourself. why are you failing? is it because you are really not suited for your course? or you are not just studying enough? if the first, then i guess, you will have to make drastic decisions in pursuing what you are areally good at. if it is the second, do try to manage your time wisely so that you can be able to study. then ask help from others to help you study. every problem has a solution. this one surely has. hope you be able to identify it soon before you fall into the trap of self pity. take care and God bless you!
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
There's something you have to understand. Life is full of failures but it's not deadly to life. I remember when i was in College, my mom was pushing me very badly to become a doctor. She had so much expectations on me. i did try my best and I got good grades. However, my marks weren't high enough to enter med school so I could only go to biochemistry. I must say that the school fees were very expensive but i had loan and bursery so it helped me a little. However, I failed every courses. The highest i would get is 40%. I just lost taste into science and there was to much DNA studies for me. I even got a letter that i could get an expulsion because of my grades. At this point, that when you should go to an alternative way or go to plan B. My plan A was to becoem a doctor and it didn't work. So now i am in plan B. I am now becoming a mathematicien and I am doing great getting grades of ranges from C- to A-. It's not the top but I know that carrer is very in demand and i am going to get that diploma. So it could mean that your study field is not made for you. It doesn't mean that you are a bad student but it's just that you should consider something else, another carreer. You still have life in front of you so don't give up. When i told my mom I would study in actuary, she wasn't happy. It was only when my uncle who said that the carrer of an actuary has twice much salary and more respected than biochemistry that she felt better. So just look up and try to thin kat what you are good at. When you were a potential student, what were your skills? Things aren't easy but if you try your hardest, I believe you wil learn it. Goodluck.
• China
28 Nov 08
I think you needn't worry about the exam ,it just a test for a student,can't be used to evaluate a person in all aspect . Everybody have their own value ,maybe you just still haven't find the thing you are interested in .If you have try your best to do one thing ,i think you needn't regret on it.