what If you saw your ex-friends who were spreading rumors bout you???
@jenniferyvette (137)
Philippines
November 28, 2008 12:31am CST
yesterday at school I saw my former "friends" and they were hanging out together.. And seein them just made my day horrible.. after what I did for them I'm still the bad person in the end?? they are users, and the last time we had a fight I turned out to be the wrong one and she had to spread rumors bout our fight saying her side making me look bad on our other friends but the truth is that she was the reason why that fight grew big!! She called me a backstabber because I told her some things that I found out about her from this other guy friend which is with her yesterday.. Well he loved her and he Protected her eventhough he knew how bad she is.. now I'm left alone.. I didn't told anyone about my side.. I had kept everything by myself just to prove to her that I am not a backstabber like she told me.. She told me that I am A NAGGER, AN DOMINANT PERSON, ATTENTION GETTER, AND DESPERATE!! how dare she call me that?? when the truth is that she's the one who have those characteristics??? and yesterday when I saw them it's as if they were mocking me.. I have no one to turn to so I hid on our school news paper team.. Now all I'm thinking is that I want to have revenge on them.. I won't spread rumors.. I will join our school paper and Post the mean things that they told me. I don't deserve to be treated that way. I told her those things because she's too much, She's abusing us in every way..
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
28 Nov 08
I am so so sorry that your ex friends are doing that. It sounds very immature of them, and it doesn't sound right of them to do that. I think that you are better off without them. You will make new friends, because not everyone believes what others say and I am sure others realize what kind of a person this girl is. I wonder why the guy still hangs around here.
I used to have friends that were users and who liked to stereotype. I moved in with my fiance and his parents into another county. I live in the country, and my ex friends refused to come here, only once did one come. She didn't come back because of a one time thing that never happens unless the police are looking for somebody... So in any case, one old friend basically called me, and my friends hicks. The truth be told, when I was friends with them I started to conform into what I thought was "cool" but in all honesty after meeting my fiance, I only realized was squelching of my own personality...
To make a long story short, I realized I didn't need them, but knew I still had people who loved me. You will meet people who agree with you and who won't insult you or hurt you...
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
29 Nov 08
It's hard to influence people into doing good unless they want to do good. I'm sorry that you tried to help her become a better person but she wasn't having any of it. Some people just don't want to change.
Again, I'm sorry!
@SeishiroX (1093)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
I have an analogy for you. Try to take a bottle of white and black colored poster color. Now, we know that white and black turns into gray when mixed right?
Now, add a little amount of black to the white ink. Now introduce the same amount of white to the gray. You'll be surprised at how difficult it actually is to arrive at a lighter shade of gray. It takes a little black to make a dark grey but it takes a lot of white to lighten a hue.
It's really difficult to influence a person to turn into the light, figuratively speaking, and most people end up being influenced to go to the dark instead. Cheers~
@jenniferyvette (137)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
I know,.. and now I feel sorry for myself.. I've wasted my time trying to fix her. I thought that if I wouldn't leave her I'll influence her to do good but instead I was influenced into doing bad things..
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@SeishiroX (1093)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
As for me, if I'm not at fault, I wouldn't mind. I'd let them work their mouths away on things that are otherwise not true. 24 years in this world, and I've learned to let low lives spread rumors about me that are otherwise untrue. Well, maybe it's because I don't care what the world thinks of me and I don't waste time bullsh*tting with people lol.
Cheers~
@SeishiroX (1093)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
I see... if it's that bad, stand up and defend yourself. But, sometimes, you have to realize though that not at all people can be convinced. Sometimes you just have your own sense of correctness to console you because some people are AMAZINGLY one-sided. Take it from me, I learned it the hard way. Cheers and good luck! Don't let other people bring you down, and believe in yourself.
@jenniferyvette (137)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
many people pity me for letting them destroy my name.. Some of these people believed her. :'(
@gtdonna (1738)
•
29 Nov 08
I understand how you feel, BUT, please don't do what you are thinking to do. That's joining the newspapers team just so you cna post mean things about them. To me, if you do that you are taking yourself down to their level and will be acting like they are now...what you have to do si show them you are a better person than that.
When you see them as much as it hurts, smile, give your most biggest smile, think about something that really makes you happy and just laugh as you pass them by. They will wonder what did you find so funny, and trust me, bit by bit their nasty attitude will stop.
Also, shoudl you join the newspapers team, let it be for good, do your best on the team and put yourself out there as a positive hard working person, you don't want to be known as the person who wrote stories to get back at your ex-friends.
@jenniferyvette (137)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
I know, I'll just prove to them that I'm tough and they won't break me down,.. thanks
@gbeast95 (505)
• United States
28 Nov 08
hmmm........that is sad. i say you should compramise(reach an aggrement where no side is completely satisfied) and try to be friends again. usually i do that. however, if that oes not work i do not know what to say. maybe if that does not work then i would say it is time to make new friends and move on. anywayz hope everything goes well and i wish you the best of luck.
happy mylotting...peace out -gbeast95
@jenniferyvette (137)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
I wouldn't compromise with them. I'm not the one who started the fight. after all the good things/ favors I have done I am still the bad person in the end.. 1 mistake erased all our good memories.. and that mistake wasn't mine. I just had enough with them and I had to be frank for the 1st time.. They've ignored me. And just calls me when they need me. And they treated me unjustly. It's as if when I'm around I'm like a ghost. They are selffish, arrogant, and materialistic. from the start I didn't know what that girl thinks of me.. She's a plastic person. I never knew her real attitude.. even though I we've been together for almost 7 years I never knew she could do that to me
@SeishiroX (1093)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
IMO, it's not worth your time to hang around such people. They're not really your friends to begin with. When things have cleared and their "injustices" exposed, don't waste your time with them again. Cheers~
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
29 Nov 08
What a drama parade! I have never really had a lot of friends, I have always been a loner, though the friends I do have are like sisters to me, and they would just never do such a thing. I see you're still in high school too, and I know how that is! Even people who aren't my friends who I never really did anything to can be very b*tchy, that's just how it is!
I hope you're not terribly hurt by them. High school is going to be over in a short period of time, enjoy the great people and leave the snobs behind. There is nothing they can do to crush your spirit. You know who you are and you know your life is worth so much more than this.
I think it's just that when someone is hated and judged and pushed down like that, it changes her as a person. It creates empathy for the outcasts and people who are defenseless. Stand up for who you are!
@jenniferyvette (137)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
I was a loner before because my real bestfriends wheren't here in our place. And when I started hanging out with them i thought I was with the right people, So I tried to get along, never minding all the burdens I am facing with her. but lately I realized that I was wrong,.. I wish I didn't brought her to our summer job last April my biggest mistake
@krishna4suman (9)
• India
28 Nov 08
First of all i wanna say u a hi ........
den i wanna inform u dat da same thing had happened wid me before few months ......
First i tried 2 compromise wid her(da 1 wid whom i had a fight) , but wen she showed her bad attitude , i said dat i dint wanna frndship in wich abusiveness n bad attitude is present ......... i broke my frndship wid her ....... n henceforth i dint talk 2 her..... n tried 2 cross her in every field of life ....... n make her loose in all da competetions of life .....
Hope u wud get some useful tips from my life story
GUD LUCK.......
@jenniferyvette (137)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
thanks,.. that's what I'm planning to do.. I want her to eat every bad word she had given me..
@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
That's happening to me perhaps up to this day.Well,it kinda pisses me off but I don't really give a damn.That guy is such a loser anyway.Almost everyone in school doesn't like him for that attitude of his.I think he's already getting his karma for being bad.And he won't be graduating with us.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
30 Nov 08
i think ignore them and move on. u dont need them.
join the school newspaper and think about your future and career. maybe even start a school tabloid section and write about the crap in ur school like them. or write a "dear abby" section in the school newspaper for students who have problems and dont have anyone to turn to. you can print their problems in the paper anonymously and provide a solution that can help them deal with it productively and successfully.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
I understand how you feel. this sounds like it just happened recently. But i am not sure if your school newspaper would let you write this haha but it does sound like a very good revenge if they read it. However, if such things really happened to me i won't sit down in my corner and let this hapenn. At this point, they don't deserve respect. So now she just proved that she is herself a backstabber by telling everyone the wrong thing. I would talk to them loudly during the break so everyone could hear about it. Then the students would be curious and hopefully they will see her true colors. The students will spread the truth themselves. If my school has a newspaper or something like that, I woudl do the same thing. Goodluck :)
@worldbestwriter2008 (1633)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
well, i'm sad after hearing those words from you..you know my dear mylotters, why waste your time to them. Live the way they want it to be. Do your part as a good person. Don't take a revenge us easy..why not try to open your problems to a guidance counselor in your school. I think he/she can offer a great counsel to the two of you.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I would do exactly what you are planning on doing.
Sad thing is, it may take a while but all the friends she has will realize what she is like and she will lose them as friends too. Give it time. I wouldn't keep my mouth shut just because she said you were a backstabber.
Usually when someone down grades someone else it's because they want to higher their own self-esteem. So it made her feel better to say that and it's true she may be all those things and she knows it's true.
I know what it feels like to see people you use to be friends with....makes it an uneasy situation.
I think your idea of getting back is really cool...Have you ever seen the movie cruel intentions? If not you need too.
I would also say don't get too frustrated over it, in time everyone will see the way she is like.
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
This thing that happened between you and her is very frustrating. Friends must love and take good care one another. But in your case,the exact opposite happened.It seems that your friend did not understand your real intention.Have you tried talking with her heart to heart? Explain your side and be sure that she is in the mood to listen.Listen to her also as she says things. I believe that both of you are old enough to know and understand what is good and bad.Be calm and open minded and know how to balance things. I am hoping that your friendship will be back again for good.
@jenniferyvette (137)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
She wouldn't let me talk.. and she told me through text that If she sees me she'll hurt me as for me I won't let that happen I will fight back but I am still thinking of what my parents might say. So I decided to hide from them.. I'm not coward. I just want to prove everybody that my intentions were not wrong
@bellamommy (192)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Well, I am confrontational by nature, so I would probably demand to know why they are doing this. I am not saying I would pick a fight with them, but if someone, especially if they were once your friend, is saying nasty things about you, you have a right to address those rumors. They must have unhappy lives if they have to be trying to wreck yours!
@jenniferyvette (137)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
yeah i guess so.. everytime I see them together the guy looks very unhappy but once they have seen me they will try to pretend as if everythings all right
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
29 Nov 08
I would be disturbed hearing that one of my ex friends is spreading rumours about me. It happened to me. We fall out and this ex friend did spread rumours about me that I was a bad guy and that I tried to take advantage of his friendship which was not true. However some people did believe him until they experienced him themselves.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
29 Nov 08
i've got a few right now doing that-
and the funny thing is one of them was crying about people picking on him,but yet thinks absolutely nothing about doing it to someone else.
what would i do?
walk away.karma's a b**ch,and it will catch up.
they won't have any friends left eventually.
@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
30 Nov 08
I am not sure what to say about this. I feel bad for you because those kind of things were said about you. I have been in similar situations in the past and it is not fun. It would hurt my feelings if someone talked to me the way that they talked to you. The way I see it though, is what goes around comes around.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
29 Nov 08
Growing up is tough. But as long as you continue to play your part in this confrontation it will continue. Ask yourself what you are gaining from all this and then decide if you want to continue it. It's all negative and counter productive, the best thing to do is let it go and get on with your life. Good luck
@mlh8087 (368)
• United States
29 Nov 08
I'm so so sorry about how your ex-friends are treating you. Growing up is tough and it doesn't get any easier because the same stuff happens with grownups.
Don't seek revenge, it's just going to make you feel worse. Ignore the little ingrates. That will be the best revenge. Put on your acting hat and let people see that you are stronger then the rabble rousers. Don't talk trash about them, and definitely don't print anything about them. Make new friends, do some charity work, and move on. There will be other friends.
@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
29 Nov 08
Don't damage your good character by trying to get back at her. The time will come when her bad character will be found out. Backstabbing and lying people usually cut their own throats. If your ex-friends are siding with her instead of getting the whole story, they weren't really your friends and you're well rid of them.
