Do you believe long distance relationship can work out?
By Lee Ka
@kaka135 (14931)
Malaysia
November 28, 2008 1:55am CST
I actually did not believe in long distance relationship, or I thought why want to have a long distance relationship? If two people really love each other, they can wait until they get near each other, then only they started the relationship.
Well, this is what I thought before I was 20 years old.
I started going out with my husband when we knew we were going to stay far apart from each other for at least 3.5 years. Both of us were really good friends from high school, then he went to another country for further studies, and I stayed in my home country. We started to fall in love when he came back for holiday. It's kinda weird, I knew that he has to go back and study for another 3.5 years, at least. I always didn't like long distance relationship, but I fell into it. I gotta admit that, that's LOVE!!
Although I believe long distance relationship can really work out, it's kinda suffering sometimes, when two people stay far apart from each other, and calling to the other country was really expensive those days. He didn't have computer or Internet access at first. We always wrote letters to communicate, and we called each other once a while only. Luckily, later we were able to chat online.
Now, I gotta say, when there is true love, I believe nothing can pulling two people away from each other. When there is love, there is trust too. Now, I'm married to this guy, and having a happy family. Though we have been together for about 10 years, we are still in love with each other. We are expecting our first baby in next February. 
Do you have any stories to share? Do you believe in long distance relationship? Will you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend if he/she needs to go overseas? Will you start a relationship if you know you two have to be far apart?
Do you have any stories to share? Do you believe in long distance relationship? Will you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend if he/she needs to go overseas? Will you start a relationship if you know you two have to be far apart?4 people like this
14 responses
@ArmaDino (34)
• Moldova
29 Nov 08
Hey kaka135,
at the moment I have a similar experience. The thing is we used to date, but we had to split up due to mutual consent. Not so long ago we met, and one thing can be said for sure, my feelings for her haven't changed one jolt. So I decided to see if there was any "fire" left in her. The thing I noticed was that every time I got near to asking her if she had it for me, she like on porpose changed the subject. I found only 2 things that would explain her behaviour:
1. she didn't like me
2. she liked me, but the fact that in 2 days she was going to Germany was holding her back...
Nevertheless, she want to Germany, but she still was reluctant to an open conversation, so I chose an other tactic(the one I was advised by me cousin).. I'm just pretending to be a simple friend, for the moment.. but the thing is I still have feelings for her,i'm thinking about her every day.. so if you have any advice, or any other myloters.. please reply
Thanks
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@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 08
Hope the tactic your cousin taught you will work out!!
It's a good idea to start with a simple friend first, then slowly find out if she still have love with you. Sometimes, when two of you are far apart from each other, then only she may realize you are important to her. Or she stepped out because of long distance?
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Nov 08
Yes it can but it involves more work and more commitment than the rest of the normal relationship. It involves a lot of trust and a lot of patience. I know that a long distance relationship poses all this type of difficulties and if possible I would opt for someone closer to home. © ronaldinu 2008
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@loveyoohbaby (737)
• New Zealand
29 Nov 08
Hey there I have been in a few long distance relationship but I do not really think that they work.
Arohnui Love loveyoohbaby xoxo1 person likes this
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
It my case it didn't work out. I had a two years relationship then and we need to part ways due to his job. At first it was OK but, as time goes by, our relationship went to hardships due to distance and sadly, we drifted apart.
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@cynthia0329 (44)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hi..
I have also experienced long distance relationship and unfortunately it didnt worked..
huhuhuhuhuhu =(
he fell inlove with other gurl who always there for him physically..
i love him so much but he did not appreciate it..
at first we both happy on our situation but as time goes by he finally decided to end our relationship..
it hurts.. but i need to moved on and go on with my life..
now im happy with my life and i want to exprience true love long distance or not as long as we love each other..
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@neha211985 (779)
• India
28 Nov 08
I belive in long distance relationship i cant tell u more know. just pray for us
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
28 Nov 08
hey kaka135!
I am in a long distance relationship now and it worked well to me. We have been talking on the phone and chatting online for 3 years before he finally come over here and marry me. We just got married and we've been together for 1 month before he went back to Florida again. Sad to say I can't immediately go with him for some immigration reasons.
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@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
29 Nov 08
Yes I do.. Though I don't hae any experience in that field. Still I persoanlly feel that the distance will infact increase the boding between two souls and in no way wud reduce it. Physical distance is not a concern for LOVE. Love is beyond all such restriction. If the two people in the relationship are really genuine and caring for each other. I guess there wud be no reason to say that long distance relationship won't work.
Cheers 
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@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
hi, kaka135
i believe that a long distance relationship can work out if both parties are willing to make it work 
that both of them exert equal effort in keeping in touch and staying faithful to each other. just like what you and your husband did -- writing, calling each other every now and then, chatting...
congratulations in advance for your coming baby. wish you and your husband all the best. take care! 
i believe that a long distance relationship can work out if both parties are willing to make it work that both of them exert equal effort in keeping in touch and staying faithful to each other. just like what you and your husband did -- writing, calling each other every now and then, chatting...
congratulations in advance for your coming baby. wish you and your husband all the best. take care!
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
28 Nov 08
Hello my friend kaka135 Ji,
I have strong opinion to believe that, a rall lov ewill not bother about long or short, would also not care for waiting time to return, would always wait, we say for seven long lives, real love has no barriers , as real love does not have foundation of selfishness. It believes in giving and nothing to take back, it always wants to sacrifice, in your case both of you have sacrificed waiting to recieve replies ythrough normal mail, so you get now fruits in terms of instantaneous surfing, you may use even latest some cell-phone, where you may see him appearing on cell phone while you are gtalking in person. This is all due to your reall love. may God bless you both, have a great time.
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