Traditions: Parents interfering to personal decisions

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I have a cousin who married the man that she didn't love. Her parents were the one that was so eager to 'give her away' to a rich, established man. He's not that filthy rich... He's a pure blooded Filipino but a citizen of America whose ancestors were known to our family. My cousin actually has a boyfriend for almost three years who was an opposite of that Fil-Am. According to her, she loves him the way he is. But her parents, especially father, strongly disagree to their relationship. I met him twice and he's not bad as they think. He's just misunderstood because of the way he carries himself. He's a rocker, a guitarist but I believe he has dreams other than that. I have met his family and they are pretty well-off. He welcomed us in their house and let us stay for free at their lodging house when we had our vacation in Boracay. Even food was free. That Fil-Am and my cousin got married after two weeks that they met each other. And for that two weeks, she cried every night. She feels so hopeless because she can't disobey her parents. She's scared that they might disown her. I just hated that Fil-Am because even if he said he loves her, why then did he let them force my cousin to marry him that soon.. and she have a boyfriend. I was hoping that he will give my cousin time to know him more and not get married that soon. Or time to have closure with her lover. He took advantage of the fact that her parents want him so much for their daughter. Hate him! In my opinion, it's nice that we consider our parents in making our decisions but talking about lifetime, they won't be the persons dealing with that person whom I get married to. If I give my parents what makes them happy at the moment, will it still make them happy if they learn that my husband abuses me (in any form) after years of marriage? They barely know that person to begin with. All they know about him is that he's a Fil-Am who belongs to a family with this business and blah blah. If love is not enough... then money isn't enough either.