another heartbreak.... friend in need.. tiring?
By maggii2687
@maggii2687 (79)
Philippines
November 28, 2008 3:31am CST
These year has been the year of breakups among my friends. Some almost committed suicide some just play it cool. Just last night I couldn't sleep due to the two cups of cafe latte I took while being the shock absorber, the middle man, the bridge of my friend and his partner. Being the adviser of all this heartbreak. Making me preach like a priest just trying to save the relationship which isn't even yours is very tiring. Its not that Im complaining but its really hard to be a friend at times like this. Sometimes you dont know how react when tears starts falling. What to say when the situation got worse. Or the right words that will actually make you feel better. I not an expert when it comes to advice but I believe being there and listening has been helpful.
But then sometimes you just cant help to feel tired with all of the situation. Specially if you've been telling the same line, story situation, your rants, over and over again. Can help to feel irritated, and put the phone in place with no signal. But then Im a friend. I might get tired of the situation, but still Im your friend.
Dont you feel that sometimes, friendship can be really tiring..
2 responses
@Customized (15)
• Indonesia
17 Dec 08
friends is everything.. but u can't rely everything to friends.. try to be the one they cannot forget.. if u tired of listening of their same problem, it's just what u think of.. coz, even they told u the same stories, the answer is not always same.. try to understand from their personality.. i love them if they tell me their problem.. coz its not only help them.. its also help me.. if u tired, try to think hard.. its worth or not?
@maggii2687 (79)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
*sigh*... sometimes i wish i can be selfish.. be since im their friend I ought to be a selfless kind of friend..
thanks for the reply..
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
Hi maggii.. I cant recall of an instance that i get tired of being a friend to someone. Maybe getting tired of giving an advice to a friend who do the same mistake over and over again. I know what you mean that sometimes almost the same lines your friends are ranting over some break up and relationship issues. One thing I've learned that whenever I will give an advice, I should not take only one side but to welcome some possibilities of why things become sour or why the other party involve did this or that. Sometimes also its best to just listen and dont make any comment especially if my friend is still in so much grief on a break up because sometimes they might feel that I am oppose to the relationship she had had or worse might talk back against me by which my intention is just to make her feel better.
@maggii2687 (79)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
I know.. But sometime you cant really help it. Specially when you have your own problem. Friends might be a big pain in a butt, but you cant live without them.