What should I do? Please help me...

As much as I understand where you're coming from, I heard someone once saying, "If you truly love someone, you should be unselfish enough to give them what they want." Even if you don't fully understand her reasons, you said that you love her unconditionally. Therefore, as hard as it may be and difficult to do, you should let her go. I apologize if this may sound mean, because it is certainly not meant to be. It's not my intention.

Hello, Jhordie. I can clearly understand why is she saying that she is not ready. You love her too much. You are hers. It is like if you were on your knees, giving yourself to her. Love is not like that. You cannot give yourself like that, you cannot surrender just like you are doing. Let her go. You do not need her to live. You weren't born with her, why do you need her? Love and need are different, man. Let her know that you will be fine without her. Let her know that, no matter how hurt you are, you will get your life on and be as happy as ever. Before letting her go, make sure you can let go of her. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Relationship?? Are u intending to bring the relationship further by marrying her, and thus she feels that she's not ready?? If so, that's very common.. If not, it might be for the past 7 months, everything has been going too smoothly to be true, and she cant accept that it's true.. PLus, maybe she has been badly hurt in the past with a long term relationship, and she's scare to go thru that again.. If u really love her, u should give her time, think about her, think for her, and never think about yourself.. Because love is about bringing happiness to your love ones ^_^

There's a saying that I feel is very true: if you love someone set them free, if they don't return it was never meant to be. But if they do, your love is true. Well, maybe, if you give here some space to figure out what she feels, she will return to you. Sometimes a relationship can be overwhelming and if you aren't really in touch with your feelings, it can be difficult to understand them. Maybe that's the case with her. Let her go, if she does love you, she will return. Have a nice day

you know it also happened to me... at first I became confuse too, I can only suggest is to talk to her seriously and privately... ask her what is the real reason why she changed her mind. And what took her to decide to tell that to you in just a short period of time. And if her reason is reasonable, then let her go... but if it's not then fight for it... But don't fight the girl, coz she might go away from you, and she might never return to you. Incase you let her go...tell her if you could still be friends, and ask her to continue your communication with each other. This might help you to overcome your feelings to her, and be sensitive, if you find a way to court her again I suggest do it once and for all. So that no one could get her from you... Establish a strong friendship first before you court her again. Give her time to decide, and be generous let her to think hard.... Just don't lose hope... and I almost forgot, while you are establishing your friendship with her, accompanied it by impressing her, so that she will be attracted again to you. I hope I was able to help you.

Wow you really sound head over heals for this girl! Good for you! You don't find a lot of guys like that around here. There's a saying out there that says if you love somthing let it go. To me that saying is a bunch of crap! Don't let her out of your sight. But if she is willing to give up that easily maybe she's not worth your time. Find sombody that loves you the way you loved her.

How cruel is she to make you feel that way...Whew! Anyways, does she have a relationship before you? Perhaps, she has not get over yet with her past. Sometimes, that is one reason. If the answer is yes, then better let her go. Relationships should be a mutual understanding, it isn't a one way affair. Give her space, if she realized that she did love you after that separation then she is yours.

My boyfriend dumped me for the same reason (an excuse actually) after 6 months of being together. Maybe your girl has a genuine reason. If she's not ready, give her some time. If you guys are meant to be with each other, she'll come back to you else the world has many more fish.

It sounds as if she needs a little space. Let her know how much you love her but also give her the space she needs. Let her go and make sure she knows that you will be waiting for her when she hopefully decides that she wants to be with you. I know this is hard but you also have to prepare yourself in the event that she does not come back. Sadly there is that possibility. As much as it hurts, I would not recommend sitting around waiting and crying for her for any length of time. Above all, don't call her or contact her. Give her complete freedom and with any luck, she will come back to you but it has to be on her own. Good luck & I hope this all works out well for you.

I don't know how to answer some of your questions without sounding cruel. I don't want to be cruel at all but possibly cruelty is best. Let her go if that is what she is asking for. There is nothing you can do to keep her if it is her desire to end the relationship, truly nothing. If you do anthing other than this you will become a door mat for her. She will think less of you and will take advantage of your willingness to be used. This is true Jhordie, it is not supposition but the truth of human nature, most especially true of the nature of young women, who are selfish and generally self-centered. She is trying to let you down easy without hurting you more. She is not ready. I think she is not ready for the relationship that you want with her. From your posting maybe you loved her "adored" her, more than she did you. I don't mean for that to sound heartless, really I do not. So here is the hardest part. Time to man up now. It is not sucide it is not the loss of oxygen. It hurts, yes I know. But it is not the loss of a limb. Your heart is not going to stop beating and the breath in your lungs will not stop moving in and out. This feeling of broken heartedness will pass. I promise you it will pass. You will move on with life. There will be other girls. Someday there will be a woman; the right woman. In the meantime, you are young and have a life ahead of you. Enjoy it.

Well friend this will happed as this is also a part of life so dont get too worry. Now what I uderstands from your statement is that your girl friends is not ready and you just not uderstand her. So first of all give her some time try to be not forcing her, try to understands her, takes things little lightly, make more and more conversation with her. I hope you will get understand her and your problem get slove soon. Best of luck!!

There are instances when we feel that we are so in love that our love can move mountains. But we have to understand that the best way we can show how much we are capable of loving is by waiting for the time the person we love is raedy to love us in return. I agree that it is very confusing and difficult to wait. But if she completes you and she is not complete in herself, you may bothe end up unhappy. And this may lead to either one of of you (oer even both of you!) to fall out of love. Hang in there. If she is really meant to be with you then it will come to you. Good luck!

I guess you have to let go. If you really love her you will not deprive her of the chance to grow all by herself. If she is really the right woman for you, she will be your at the perfect time and place. Besides, if you will fight for your love, nothing would happen if she is not willing to stay at your side until you won the fight. The definition of love is not holding on alone. Love teaches us when to hold on and when to let go. I think it is about time to let go.

hi jhordie I dont know exact situation ...here are my few suggestions First i want to tell you dat she like you dats the reason she started relationship..but there can b few reason nt to commit. she may be scare to commit you for longer time ..... may b she had baggage or bad experiance of previous relationship....in this case i think u shud give her enuf time to judge you dat u are nt going to hurt her in anyway...n ur love is true...stop aproval sicking behaviour... are you doing some of the fallowing mistakes? TOO MUCH CONTROLLING ?spying? Too much in to relationship???we all need our alone time ...are you becoming too much SENTI sometime??? evaluate ur own behaviour..if you dont find anything wrong..then set some time line like 1 month or few weeks..n let her go..if she dunno come bak then better you move on

She isn't ready to be serious? To get married?You two can be together without be serious.I am coming to this a little late but if you can, ask her if she wants to see you but to keep it light and casual. Or does she want stop seeing you all together.Then go from there.There is hope if she just wants to keep it light. To me that sounds like she likes you but it isn't serious for her Yet. But if she wants to break up, then there isn't any hope. I am keeping my fingers crossed that she just wants to keep it light.

Hi dear did u ask her" She is Not ready" but "FOR WHAT" she is not ready for love or she is not ready for relation Clear it and then convey ur message to her ur feeling to her and tell her that u r not complete without her and u can wait for her Take care and wish u all the Best

don't give up if you love her so deeply,tust yourself and give youself enough courage,i'm sure you will be successful.good luck

Well that girl is just sending you a hint that she does not love you anymore. Believe me Jhodie...I am also a woman so I know the strategies of women. Of course she can't tell you pointblank that she does not feel the love anymore because that will hurt you all the more so she just tried using a more subtle way of getting out of the relationship without necessarily telling the obvious. Well, forget about her my dear. You are a man and you can always find another woman worthy of your love. When a woman does not love you anymore, do not insist. It is not worth it! Believe me!

Maybe your girl is frightened the relationship is getting very serious, and she doesn't feel ready for marriage yet. Lots of people are frightened of commitment when they are young, so it might be a good idea to give her a bit of space for a while - even though it's a very difficult thing to do. Maybe a bit of time apart will make your girl realise how much she misses you and wants to be with you - but the only way she will find this out is if you give her the space and freedom to do it. I really hope it works out for the best for you both. Good luck.

Have you borthered asking your love "what she is not ready for" and maybe both of you can work over it. I would also say that you should give her some space and let her be for a while but you should be friends with her. Hang out with her as much as you can but only as her friend. Be a good boy and let her know what she is miss and she will come back to you.