Forgiving someone..
By Blackmanta
@Blackmanta (5)
Philippines
November 28, 2008 10:00pm CST
My mom's ex-husband(stepfather) has a cancer(stage 4) and he is just relying on steroids to prolong his life. According to his friends and co-employees, he is getting weaker everyday and it really affected his job and his life. The reason why he is still hanging on is that he wanted to talk with my mom for one last time. He was trying previously but my mom would not want to talk to him anymore after what he have done. My guess is, he wants to ask forgiveness from my mom before it's too late.
Here's their history, my mom(a widow) loved him so much and she agreed to marry him. But he was not really honest with her. When my mom found out, from another people, that he was already married with someone else previously and she caught him having a relationship with his ex-girlfriend whom he has a son and never told my mom about it, she got so furious and my mom felt betrayed about it and it cost them their marriage.
So, what I wanted to discuss is, if you were in my mom's situation, would you forgive someone like her ex-husband not considering that he is already weak? Why has he not tried it before when their marriage is still intact? But I also consider it that my mom also has a lack on her part. What can you say?
4 responses
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
they should have a heart to heart talk so that they will be able to resolve the issues they have with each other. and since your mom's husband is dying its better for her to forgive him already for her to have peace of mind. if our god knows how to forgive our sins why not you mom right?
@chevill (316)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
all sinners regrets to the last time. I think you should convince your mom to visit him and give her forgiveness because it might cause her pain too if your stepdad passed away without forgiving him. It's better now than to feel guilty when his gone.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
29 Nov 08
I think it would be good for both of them if they talked and were able to get past the anger before your mom's ex passes away. He needs to ask for forgiveness and she could probably use some closure. Why carry anger around that you don't have to carry? This man is going to die...he is going to stand before God and is trying to do the right things now while he can. Your mom should allow him to do this. Whether she really forgives him or not, she should have some compassion for him and let him die in peace.
@echosoundz (856)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 08
I guess when it comes a time when someone finally reaches his final moment he will somehow ask for forgiveness to all his doing during his life. In this matter you should persuade your mom to see him for the very last time. This is the only time that he's available. Even with all those history in the past that doesn't change anything and its just to give some courtesy in giving forgiveness. Its a good cause though.
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