Who would you choose, a man who is 20 yrs older than you or one of your age?

I would follow my feelings. I'd rather be with an old man who'll give me happiness and comfort than be with a younger man who'll give me pain and sufferings. I've known quite a few couples whose partner is 10 to 15 older than the other but it is never an issue for them. Society may dictate us on who to choose but in the end, we are the one whose deciding on where we would truly be happy.

i think you should go with your heart but bear in mind the future too, cos the person 20 years older would be 80 when you are 60 and 100 when you are 80. while i think that love has no age barriers, sometime they do play a part in making a decision but whatever it is, it is your decision and you are the person going to spend your life with him so choose the one that your heart tells you and not let others influence you cos they are not going to spend their lives with him

That is a very good question for me to answer. I dated guys my own age but they were too immature and wanted to date other people. My now husband, is 15 years older than me and we hit it off great.

hi honeylore,for me i will choose my heart desire,,so that i wont regret in the future goodluck have a nice day,

Honestly speaking, I prefer a man who is older than me rather than a man who has same age or younger than me. For me, I don't care if he is 20 years older. As long as I love him and he loves me is enough. I want a mature person as my lover. A man who can understand me and can help me deal with difficulties I am facing.I want a man who is independent and can handle a relationship. I once had a boyfriend who has same age with me and we often come into trouble. He not know much about relationships and I am always the one who is always taking good care of it. I am always the one who do the understanding and I find it so awkward. I find that I am more mature than him. It makes me feel he is so dependent with me and with the decision making. I find such kind of relationship so boring.Although we can be called a "perfect combination" based on our physical attributes, but I not find it a good reason to stay with him. For me, a boyfriend is not like a thing which is for displaying purpose.I not love a man because of his physical appearance or because of his age that must be close with mine. I love a man because I feel a satisfaction with him in any aspects of the relationship.I love him because I can feel a security of being loved and being cared always.

whenever i chose a guy to be my boyfriend i always chose the one that made me happy, age for me don't matter at all, what's important is your love for each other. i don't care what other people say about me, after all it's still me who will going to end up with him. your question is, will i follow my heart or follow what i think is right and practical? my answer is, i will follow my heart, because in the end my happiness would suffer if i will just think of practicality but not my feelings.

I would definitely follow my heart. I have finally grown and realize it is so wrong to make any decision based on what others want. Only you could know in your heart who you love and only you will live that experience. If you make the decision to please parents and friends then your living what they want and that does not make sense for me. I wish you luck and hope you can make your decision by what is the right fit for you.

Actually age doesn't matter to me. If there is feeling between you then no one cares i don't care, why should others.

Hi! If this happens to me, I will follow my heart because that will make me happy (not miserable). Should the people who opposed my decision were right all along, then that will be a lesson learned. Life is a learning experience so there is a need to learn from bad experiences. The important thing is that it was your choice and you are willing to suffer the consequence of your actions. Happy myLotting!

God morning honeylore23 and happy first of advent to you. I would probably choose a person in my own age. Sometimes it can be fun with someone younger, however, you have different values, and therefore a person in your own age would be a better chose. You have someone you can discuss same issues with and probably values the same things.

Follow your heart always as you will be together for a long time. My partner is 12 years older than I am and I see no problem with this at all. It might also depend on the health of the older man. Some people age well and some do not. If you are 40 and he is 60 or 50 and 70 you might find that you end up caring for him as a patient rather than as a husband. It really is up to personal choice. Some men are wonderful partners and the age is not difference at all. It is up to your heart to know who is right.

Hi friend,We dont love people after finding out their ages.When we select our spouse we select only the person whom we fall in love for.So age comes next.It is the chemistry between couple which is important and not the age.We dont have that feeling with others,so following our heart is only right and practical. thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.

Hi honeylore23! I do believe you should follow your heart. My husband is a lot older than me in fact more than 20 years older but the difference is he is a foreigner so he still look younger than his age. I never tried to have a relationship other than my husband but I think men who are the same age as ours is immature and not serious with their life and with the relationship. Older men are more mature, responsible and when you start to date a man older than you, you're sure that he is really serious with you. I am very happy in our relationship. When he came here in the Philippines to marry me, I don't think people criticize me because they can see that I really love the man and that he really loves me so much. I love him because he is patient with me especially when I am grumpy/grouchy in the morning. He even said sorry to me everytime we have our misunderstandings eventhough I know it's my mistake? And he said he would die if I left him which I know won't happen because I love him so much. See? It would be better to have a relationship older than our age because thye love to spoil us.

Since I both like them, I would rather choose whwt my parents and friends want for me. The man of my age, because I believe that he can understand me more because we live in the same generation. We can appreciate each other's likes. Unlike a man who is 20 years older than me. Maybe we can have some problems when time comes. Like dealing with each other. I dont know if he can understand my wants.

i would definately choose a man close to my age...why in the world would anyone go for a man who is 20 years older than you are....when you will be fifty he will already be too old to even sit properly and talk to you sdo basically at the age of fifty your life would be mostly lonely or rather taking care of your way too old husband.....and then when you grow old there probably be no one to take care of you....cant really trust the children of today..... they have a life to live too....

A man of my age. i do not think its good to be with some who is too much older. I can't be very well adjusted with him.

Love is hard to find.If the older guy loves you just as much as you love him then be with him.The younger guy may love you but if you don't love him, it won't work. Follow Your Bliss.You should be with the one you love.

age should bear no meaning whatsoever in deciding who you should be with.. but emotions alone. age is just a number set by society to categorize people into groups for statistial purposes, nothing more. folow yer heart, youll be happier.

It would depend on the men. All thing being equal, I would pick the one closer to my own age. But if older one was nicer, kinder and loved me more, I'd pick him.

Well I am 26. It depends on how old. I think my limit would be 30 years old. The youngest I would date is 24. This is all my opinion. I think old old men are too set in their ways. Men of that generation expect their women to act a certain way and dress a certain way. I like to dress like a 26 year old woman, not an old maw maw. I like to go out and do my own thang, but they probably wouldn't want that. I think they are bossy (as all men are), but they are worser. I don't have the time or the patience to sit and play housewife to them. The only positive thing about them, in my opinion, is that they know what they want. Younger men don't, they always want to play cat and mouse with women.