I was insulted. How would you feel?

I would be insulted. By mentioning the money, she's been rude. It is not supposed to be about money, after all, it is supposed to be about friendship and goodwill. Not everyone can afford to give the same amount. Christmas shouldn't be an accounting spreadsheet. "They gave me X so I give them Y." It seems, although I can't know all the details, that your friend was being critical of your efforts. Talking about amount of money spent seems hopelessly .. tacky.. picky.. sensitive? It seems wrong. On the other side, perhaps it would be wise to mention to this person the dollar amount you've set aside for their family's Christmas. Then, buy their gifts off Ebay and repack them. So long as your friend has a perceived high value, you can shop around to get a gift that seems expensive but was less so than appearances. That, however, seems political.. I don't like holidays to be so sensitively charged.

Wow that was really rude of her to say that. Consedring that christmas is about giving. I would feel insulted if that ever happened to me, but then I don't have to worry about that. Because with my friends and I we don't care what we receive all we care is that we kept each other in mind around the holidays. I hope that she will relize that she was wrong and apoligize to you because no one should be treated like that just because of spending money on your christmas gift. Happy Mylotting

Hello ersmommy. I am so sorry that you felt insulted this way when your friend informed you that she had spent too much money on you. I don't think that she is nice to say so to a friend of hers because it hurts. Were I in your situation, I would also feel very upset for this. Anyway, let bygones be bygones. Next time you could buy something nice for her two sons if you have a chance to be with them again. Cheer up, friend.

I personally would not be offended by it. She just can't afford anymore.

You don't call that a friend if someone informed you that she has spent too much money on you and your daughter. Who told her to pay? Did she offer an effort to pay or what? That was very rude of her to comment such thing. Christmas is for sharing, but I could see that your friend worries about financial matters. If she's really worried about spending too much, she should hang around with you some other time.

Then I will tell you I feel silent and happy because your son did a good job. Your son create some beautiful ornaments and then someone would like to spent for it that is the happy thing and you shouldn't feel bad or feel insulted. Feel happy always and think the other side. Ok?

I would be insulted and hurt as well. I would also tell her to return what she has bought and set up a spending limit so that boundaries won't be crossed like that again so they won't feel as though they are getting the short end of the stick when it comes to gift giving. For me the money issue shouldn't count as they are the ones who choose to spend what they did on you, It is not like you told her exactly what to get. Gifts should be given for the pure pleasure of seeing someones face light up with happiness,not for what we get back and how much it was worth. For me sometimes the least costly gives me more pleasure and more use then something that was more costly.

I would feel insulted too.. I don't think that was very nice of her to say...YOu gave what you were able to give and she gave what she was able to give..it's sad isn't it. Some people are putting too much stress on the price tag as the love with which a gift is given..

Is she a "true" friend. I would honestly doubt it. I would do better without such so called friends. A true friend would not remind you how much he has spent on you. © ronaldinu 2008

Whoa! A very person your friend is! She could have done it in some other way if she was just joking, well, if. If I were in your position, I would definitely get even at some other time,where she least expect.

all i can say is that im thankful cause i had a friend. being mean to me. theres nothing wrong if she/he delivered it in a nice or bad. i should understand because she's my friend.

hmm...not sure if I read this right. I would pay my own way for my child if it were me and not expect anyone else to. Times are tough for everyone. The reason I am not sure if I am understanding this right is that you use the term, "we". Did she pay for your daughter's ornament and gift card? Was it agreed in advance that she would? I don't know. When I get together with other's with kids, I just expect that I'll be paying my own way for everything and doing it with a friend or family member just adds to the fun of it. I would not assume anyone is going to pay for anything for me or for my children no matter how close. If I couldn't afford it, I'd just tell them so.

that was a mean thing to say. maybe she didn't realized that what she said was kind of offensive to those who are listening. that is why we always have to be watchful of what we say for it may hurt others. if i am on your shoe i would feel bad too.

Ouch! Seriously, what kind of friend says that?! Did she mean it as a joke or was she really serious?! Even if it was a joke, that is very rude and uncalled for. If she thought that she was spending too much:- 1. dont spend anything on each other. Friendship is about love not about money. 2. Dont freaking tell the person you are spending too much on them. If you spend money on someone, its because you love and care about them and you want to show them how much you value them. Why bother spending money on them if your just going to humiliate them and make them feel like crap?! I didnt really understand the whole situation, like how you giving her kids gift cards was her spending too much on you. It seems like you were spending money not her, but I didnt really understand. Either way, she sucks for saying that because it was uncalled for and extremely RUDE!

she is your,so she was being open to you.atleast she didnot gossip.maybe she felt honesty is the best policy.

Well, it would depends on what the friend meant. If you both were paying for your own kids. Than she said that...she could of meant she has spent more money than she intended to spend or more money than she had to spend. If she was paying for everything, I think she was way out of line and she should of never of said it. I would of been insulted as well.

That is terrible. Why in the heck did she do it if she could not afford to do it? She should have kept her thoughts to herself. That is so rude.

That is a some stingy woman. She shouldn't said that. Its good to give something once in a while rather that receiving. I hope she would change her attitude soon.

Well what did you say to her? You should have said something. A "What?" would have given you an answer if she was serious or not with her comment. You said you are so close with each other. She must have just blurted that out of sudden realization or she must just be kidding. Why not give her a call to find out?

well that will be good for all of you to spend time with one another. you all have a wonderful time.