married life

hey i don't know much about the married life thing ... but i read some where that most of the women tend to get less careless about their looks etc after they get married and that is why husbands are less attracted to them than before. anyways, sorry if i said anything wrong .. and hope it helped u

My first husband was addicted to video games and the computer. I tried talking to him, but he ignored me. We divorced. However, if you want to work things out, which is for the best especially since you have children, try talking to him. Ask him if he would go to marriage counseling with you. If he does change for a little while then that's better than not at all. Keep talking to him, try not to nag, but explain how important it is for you that he works 50/50 at the relationship with you. Relationships are hard. Marriage is even harder. It takes a lot of work and constant effort to maintain. You have to pay attention to it and treat it like a job because you have to work at it everyday. Maybe your husband needs someone to tell him that. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you two can work things out. Divorce is so devastating for everyone involved. I hope you two can avoid that. I also want to add that I know how it is to see someone on the computer or video games all the time. You need someone to pay attention to you, your kids, and taking care of things. If you want to stay in the marriage even though he doesn't want to change, you can always look at it as "At least I know where he is." Meaning that at least he's not out running around and cheating on you. At least you know he's where you can see him.

I would try to explain the problem to him again. I f he still refuses to help you out,try this. For 1 week refuse to do his laundry,cook his meals,or do anything else you usually do just for him. Just focus on you and your kids. Maybe he will wake up and realize all that you do for him.