7 years old nephew still wetting the sheets at night

Philippines
November 30, 2008 3:59am CST
i was shocked when my brother told me that his son is still wetting the bed at night. i mean my son is turning three on january but he mo longer wet the sheets. he will wake us up to bring him to the toilet. i think this kind of cases has psychological problem. i dont think it is normal. do you know anything about a case like this. is this psychological? is there anything my brother needs to do to correct it? any experience regarding this?
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24 responses
• United States
30 Nov 08
Actually this is normal. There is a hormone (I forget which) that is not triggering your nephew you wake up in the middle of the night, and he therefore wets the bed. I babysit for a family with two girls and one boy.. and the oldest girl age 8 still wets the bed. They finally figured out this hormone problem and she now takes a pill before bed so she doesn't wet it. She also still wears a pull up.
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• Philippines
2 Dec 08
well wearing pull ups is one good suggestion so they wont wet the bed. i dont like the smell of wet sheets. and the soaked cushion that became dry.... har har har. well with your response it made me feel at ease that it is not a psychological problem. thanks a lot for the response have a great day
@gemini_rose (16264)
30 Nov 08
This is actually more common than people think as I found out when my now 17 year old son was little. He had this problem you see, I took him to the doctors and the doctor told me that some children suffer with it and it is only a problem if it continues after the age of 10. My son stopped when he was 9 all of a sudden, it can be that the bladder is not waking a child up to go and sometimes it takes longer for the bladder to work properly.
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• Philippines
2 Dec 08
glad to read your response and a little information as well. at least now from this discussion i know that there are cases like this and some are more than 7 years old. i am happy to know that in proper guidance my nephew can get over this situation. it would be embarrassing if he became an adult and still be wetting the sheets. thanks a lot for the response
@Calais (10893)
• Australia
30 Nov 08
Im no expert, but is does not sound normal at all..Im feeling that there may be an underlying problem....And I wouldnt say thats its just laziness...
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• Philippines
2 Dec 08
i agree har har har. knowing my brother i know he is lazy. he would rather sleep than to guide his son to the loo. so we can not blame the kid to be as lazy as his dad. i think it needs to start with parents. like house said what monkey see monkey do. thanks a lot for the response
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
30 Nov 08
i thinng its a normal thing specialy lots of action or playing during the day and he is very tired to get up and going to tiolete for peeing.try to waking him up to pee but does he did it every night or it just happened.
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
lucky us we dont have any problems with our son regarding peeing. though my wife still let him wears his pull ups when we are going out. o think sometimes it gets to the point that a child needs more attention. i hope the parents can give that to my nephew.
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
you have a good point there bombshell. maybe my nephew is really tired that he is in a deep sleep that even hos gall bladder ca no longer wake him up. har har har. thats a good piece of an information. but still there is a part for my brother to be blamed for he is not guiding his son to stand up and pee. thanks a lot for the response
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
3 Dec 08
thanks.what i did to my little girl was if she is not peeing 3 nights she will have a nice toy.so what she did was before bed she went to toilete to pee and then first night was not sucessful then second night she did not pee and she was proud of it till now she never pee on her bed.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
1 Dec 08
Hello Se7enth,I have heard of such cases where older children wet their bed at night.I think your brother should consult a peadiatrcian rearding this problem his son is having.Only then will it be clear what problem the child is facing......
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
i found this out three weeks ago and still my brother is not doing any actions. what a total jerk. i am talking with my wife regarding this and we want to step on this problem that my nephew have. the mom will be arriving next week and we will see if they are going to do something about it. thanks a lot for the response
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
18 Dec 08
Yes its best to seek some medical help as soon as possible.It may be just a small problem which may even subside if he gets proper care and attention...Any way good luck to your nephew.....
• Hungary
30 Nov 08
Hey.... Its not psychological. I had a friend in high school that still wet the sheets.... but they later discovered that it was his bladder that had a problem and couldn't hold the urine for longer than 2hrs... Have u done any tests on this Kid to find out the scientific (medical) implication of this disaster???... I think that's the first step to take.... Good luck.
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• Philippines
2 Dec 08
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot. i havent done any test for my nephew for the reason that i only knew it a few days ago. that is why i wanted to ask views about people who know anything about this. i told my brother also that he needs to bring his son to a doctor for them to detect the reason why he is still doing this at 7 years old. thanks a lot for the response
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
1 Dec 08
Personally this is abnormal for someone at 7 to still be wetting the bed, and that to me would mean I would think either a Psychological problem of some sort, or a Medical condition that needs to be looked at as well. I know sometimes as well I have heard of kids doing this to gain attention as well. But it does sound like they need to get down to the bottom of why this is happening and learn to deal with it more as well.
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
thanks for the response. that is what i have in mind too. my son is two but can hold his bladder specially at night. if a seven year old can not then i really feel that there is something wrong. my brother ( i think ) is just ignoring the causes and the problems and (maybe) wants it to be solved by his child alone. i hope he sees a doctor as soon as possible or it would really be embarrasing to see him doing that when he is much older than what he is right now.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Dec 08
my sister wetted the bed until she was 18 she was scared that if she did wet the bed my father would whip her, this made it worse for her.i remember one time i took her spanking for her because she was so scared of getting spanked for doing it.eventally she stopped but after mamy years of being in fear.so for the seven year old here he could have some sort of fear,this is why he still wets the bed.fear can sometime come from what we create.
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
18? wow!. that is a big issue. my nephew also tells me sometimes that his dad spanks him or sometimes hits his head. that is the reason why i am asking about something about psychological. my nephew also complains that his mom and dad often quarrel and maybe that is one of the points too. i know my brother has reasons that he is not telling me why he is not bringing his child at the doctro. afraid that the child might blurt this all out. i will twist his neck. thanks a lot for the response and thank you for sharing a painful part of your life. thanks for the trust
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
1 Dec 08
Yes, my daughter had this problem. She was extremely tiny and had small kidneys. She was born premature and they also told me that the part of her brain that controlled this had not yet fully developed. She did outgrow it by around 6 or 7. I have seen this with much older kids and Im sorry but I can't remember the exact explanation for it but there is a medicine to help control the problem. Your brother should talk to his pediatrician about it. If he does not get any answers, then he should seek advice somewhere else as there is something that can be done to help his son.
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
thank for the very good information you just said. but i am very angry with my brother for i found out this 3 weeks ago and still he is not doing anything about it. some parents are really very irresponsible, and i hate to see that he is my brother. thanks for the response
@scyzyyyy (94)
• China
1 Dec 08
I also did so when I was 7 years old,I don't know when I didn't get wet any more,maybe I have not wetted since I was 8 years old.so I think the matter of your nephew is not serious,ask doctor for some suggestions.
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot. that is very brave of you to say that. thank you and i felt assured that it is not really a serious problem. i hope he can get off with this as soon as possible. thanks a lot for the response and enjoy myloting
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
1 Dec 08
This is not necessarily a phycological problem. I had kids that wet the sheets as old as 13. Sometimes it is just the body. I think that he should just wait it out. You can also buy underwear for just such an occasion. They are called goodnights and they work good. I hope this helps.
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
thanks a lot for the response lisa. but i think the goodnights you are talking about is only sold in your country or in US and UK as well. we dont have anything like that here. you had a kid who wets the sheets as old as 13.... does he do that nightly or just in occasions? thanks again for the help
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
5 Dec 08
My child wet the bed almost every night. It just took a bit of time until my child grew out of it.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
30 Nov 08
I feel that it is not normal, but at the same time many children do it.I think it is that they feel insecure for some reason or the other.And if the parents or the others are constantly reminding them about it, i feel that it only makes things worse.It is better to make sure that for a few days he is made to wake up in the middle of the night and asked to relieve himself, and once they start making friends it automatically disappears..
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
he has his own friends already. he is seven years old and is in the first grade. well i wish someone can remind him. knowing my brother he is not that hands on, his wife works abroad. i hope that he can bring his child to the doctor so he and his child can work this thing out. thanks a lot for the response
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
2 Dec 08
You are most welcome- i sincerely hope that with time he is able to kick that habit.Believe me it is quite a common problem and not what one can say abnormal. it is just that he needs a bit of care and love and time may be from his parents, so that he is reassured.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
Hello friend! My mom told me that my aunt still wet their sheets even if she's already married! Only to find out that my aunt had a urinary track infection. I think your brother should have his son checked by a doctor. Maybe his son and my aunt share the same sickness. Godspeed...
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
see.... now we are getting somewhere. maybe its something about the urinary track. i will tell my brother about this. though i told him to bring his son to the doctor for the doctors knows what to do and how to help his child. i just hope my brother do something about it. poor kid. thanks a lot for the response
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
you're welcome friend!
@burnek (101)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
Maybe he should start training his son to uses the bathroom just before going to bed. So he wont need to use it at all after bedtime. And avoid giving him liquids 2 hours before going to sleep. And I think different children have different times when they stop. Eventually they will, But it's better to train them while they're still young.
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot burnek. i hope he can train his son. i know my brother he will only say yes but does not do anything about it. i dont know if he will give time for that. i hate parents who has no time for their children and i hate him more for he is my brother. thanks a lot for the response
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
sometimes this case is first ask to the parent. does your brother or her wife gets up and guide the child to get up and go to the toilet? are they letting the child pee before going to sleep? if the answer is yes then i think they need to go the a doctor and ask for advice from the expert. they can do something about this. i can say that it is something psychological but the doctor needs to prove it first. cant just jump to any conclusions.
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
those question you just asked is I dont know the answer, second if we will baesd it on how well i know my brother i would say that he does not guide his son in the middle of the night. har har har. just like i told him he needs to bring his child at the doctor. the only problem is when the doctor tell my brother to guide him in the wee hours in the morning to pee then that i dont know if he can do it. thanks a lot for the response
• United States
30 Nov 08
Everyone's night time bladder control develops at its own rate, so it may just be that your nephew's bladder hasn't caught up with him yet. It doesn't have to be psychological. I had a similar problem with my son until about 5-6. The part that puzzles me is that he doesn't wet the bed anymore, but he will not go to the bathroom on his own. If left to his own devices he will moan in his sleep until morning. The problem with that is, I started getting him up when I heard him moaning, so now I am awake when I hear the moaning, which I let him do because I want him to go to the bathroom on his own. If you find a cure that will get him up to the bathroom and not just whine about it all night let me know!!!
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
i will try to find that out for you through my brother, but my nephew does not stay with us so i guess it will not be easy to observe on how they can solve this problem of them. but as soon as i know i will tell it to you how and what. thanks a lot for the response
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
1 Dec 08
Kids develop at different rates. Physically their bladders may not have fully developed. Or a kidney may be enlarged like a child I know, therefore processing urine at a different rate. Some children are deep sleepers and don't wake easily to the need to go. Approximate bedwetting rates are : * Age 5: 20% * Age 6: 10 to 15% * Age 7: 7% * Age 10: 5% * Age 15: 1-2% * Age 18-64: 0.5%-1% http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bedwetting you can read up on it at the link. It doesn't mean he has a psychological problem. And he isn't alone by any means.
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
thank you for the information and thank you for the link as well. maybe it is not normal for me so i jump into conclusion that it is a psychological problem. it is nice to open up discussions like this at mylot for i really do learn a lot from all experienced mothers and fathers as well. thanks a lot for the response
@Anne18 (11029)
30 Nov 08
I don't think there is naything ot worry about. My son still wore pull ups at night at the age of almost 6. My freind's son still wears pullups at the age of 11. He'll grow out of it when he is ready. My daughter's guide leader still wet the bed at 15 most nights so don't worry
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
thanks for reassuring me that this is okay. i know my brother has a problem regarding my nephew and i know that my brother too is not that attentive to my nephew... but hearing parents from mylot saying that this is not any abnormality or any psychological problem then i feel okay. thanks a lot for the response
@chandu245 (647)
• India
30 Nov 08
Every body is not having the same way some body may wake up on that time or some may not possible for them to do so. it's common because of their mentality.
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
what is that mentality you are saying? can you give me more explanation or information regarding of the mentality you are saying? thanks a lot in advance ofr the info you are going to feed me. for me if you say it is about mentality then therfore it is psychological problem. please correct me if i am wrong on understanding your response
@agrant10 (1476)
• United States
30 Nov 08
I actually wet the bed until I was 13. I do not know what it was but as soon as I turned 13 I quite. My son always wet the bed until he turned 13. When he turned 13 he did not wet the bed anymore. I have no explanation for this.
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
ohh, you didnt even went to see a doctor and find out the reason why? okay atleast i am rest assured that my nephew is just like other kids and teens as well who can not control their bladder until a certain age. thanks a lot for the response and have a nice day agrant