Do you believe that after a relationship, you ex can regard you as a friend?
By ArmaDino
@ArmaDino (34)
Moldova
November 30, 2008 11:44am CST
The story goes back to last year, when we met for the first time. It was at a cruise. She was 1 year older than me, but despite the age difference, we had a relationship going on. At the begining everything was fine and dandy, but it didn't last. Due to our busy scheduele we brok our relationship. This summer, we met, for the first time in 7 months. One thing was for sure, my feelings for her haven't changed one bit. On the contrary, they became even stronger. We had a chat, we had some great time, but one thing I noticed was that every time I got to the part about our reltionship,she, like on porpose would change the topic of the discussion, and we never got to talk about it. A few days later I learned that she had to fly to Germany and continue her studies...I was devastated and all... Not so long ago, I had a word about this with my cousin(she's a girl too afterall)..so she gave me an 2 interesting theories: "she didn't want to pursue the relationship because she had to go to germany" and "she didn't want to pursue the relationship because she regarded me as a friend". What do you think? Please write as much comments as you can. All your opinions are accepted good or bad. If you have a similar story, please share with the rest of the comunity...Thanks for your attention.
4 responses
@iluvmyjames (84)
• United States
30 Nov 08
IT DIDNT WORK FOR ME, MAYBE BCUZ my ex hurt me badly. but not his ot of my life and im married now.
@iluvmyjames (84)
• United States
30 Nov 08
his even my first love, we supposed to get married, but he hurt me so badly w/o expecting it to him, i guess this is what make me hard to deal with him again. but thats nice that u and ur ex is freinds.
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
An ex can steadfastly regard as a friend if you ended the relationship smoothly and agree that you better off as friends. But the process is too long that when you bump each other there's still some awkwardness along the way. In other words, it is so difficult to regard your ex as a friend right away, maybe it takes a couple of time before it happens.
An ex can regard you as a friend but not that close maybe, or if he/she is in a new relationship, maybe the past relationship can be converted into a friendship, but I don't think you become good friends again without the feeling of discomfort. Whatever happens you need to be civil and put bad feelings and anguish aside and move on with your life.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot. in my case i never be freind with anybody from my past relations. i just go on, move on. we didnt work as a couple then there is nothing to work out as friend. the tension will only build up if we try to act like friends. some girls still say something about yo specially when they know who your current partner is. so to have a free tension life i dont communicate anymore to any past relations. i am sure you will have more friends. maybe you are just at the right feeling but at a wrong time.
@ShortyAkbar (384)
• United States
30 Nov 08
If the two of you ended on good terms, then yes. She might have cared a lot about you, just not in that way. The thing about her going to Germany could be true too. Some people don't like long-distance relationships. She might have liked you, but would ave had a hard time being that far away from you. Hope that helps.
