Should you tell someone how to spend the money you gave them ?

It depends on why I gave it to them. If I gave it to them for a specific purpose, like to pay their electric bill or rent, I would expect them to do just that, and if they spend it on something else, then I'll be really upset and disappointed in that person for using me. On the other hand, if it's a gift or just a loan without a specific purpose, then that's fine, they can do whatever they wish to do with it, because it's now theirs and I have no more part in it. If there isn't an agreement on where the money is going or what it's for, then help yourself, you have all the rights to it now.

hello ronnyb, i don't think someone should tell someone how to spend the money they gave them. don't give someone money if you are going to hold it over their heads.

If the money was given as a gift, then I would not say anything at all. But if I passed them money so that they can pay my bills or whatever, then yes, I would be quite crossed with them if they used the money to do otherwise. Well, first of all, it's my money, and you're doing me a favor and paying my bills. If you can't do so, don't say you will. Because if someone ask for a favor from me to pay their bill, the money will be paid and used for the bill and nothing else. One, it's not my money. Two, it's a favor to help a friend. Are you supposed to not pay their bill and use their money otherwise? is it right?

It would depend on the situation. If someone asks for a loan for a specific purpose you have every right to expect the money to be used for that purpose. If, however, you are feeling generous or it's a gift, the person who receives the money is free to spend it as he/she sees fit.

It depends on the situation, I think. If I am almost broke and one of my friends asks me for money saying she needs to pay an important bill, I don't expect her to go shopping and buy an expensive dress instead. Of course I would help her out in an emergency situation, but if she spent the money on buying luxery things I would get upset and I would think twice before helping her again.

If s/he did earn that money, then the money is hers/his and I have no right to tell him/her how to spend it. If unearned, I will give money only if asked and if I am certain that the money will be spent on something useful and good. If not, I will not give money.

no i wont tell...i think thats the way to guide them...and they know how to utilize money