Are good men hard to find or are women looking in the wrong places ?

@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
November 30, 2008 6:28pm CST
Yes what about the dorky guy sitting in the cubicle next to you who you know will do anything for you and you often see him staring at you with those humongous spectacles.Yet the only time you see him is when you want something from him and then you go over there ,press up against him,rub his head and say in the nicest voice with flattering of eylashes can you buy my lunch for me and he says yes automatically and runs like crazy to get your lunch.You probably dont have to give him any money ,he is long gone anyway and within seconds he is back.Will you give him a chance no,he is not cool enough.You probably opt for the cool guy who wears skin tight jeans and has an ear ring and drives a jaguar,the cosummate playboy who all your friends want.The one you know cant be faithfull,the one would rather spend a thousand dollars on his car rather than a dollar on groceries.The one who will cheat with you a week after your wedding with your bridesmaid.The one who will steal money from you and gamble and spend it on other girls.The one who will stay out late and come home the following morning with a trillion excuses and women's perfume on his shirt. Now tell me are good men hard to find or are women looking in the wrong places.
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@ltsaxcash (197)
• United States
1 Dec 08
Sadly enough people in general, not just women, are very superficial. One of the first things I notice about a guy is a great smile or how handsome he is. By nature we are very superficial creatures. I try not to judge a guy by how dresses or looks but it is sometimes difficult. Lastly, i think men are slightly more superficial than women. You are more likely to see a couple with a okay looking guy and gorgeous women than vice versa.
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• United States
1 Dec 08
i am not saying that looks are the only factors that I observe but naturally they are the first ones. There are some guys that are great on the inside and out.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 08
Maybe men are more superficial and maybe its just people in general but then if you make choices by these superficial qualities ,then you have no one to blame but yourself for the outcomes
@eshwarik (180)
• United States
1 Dec 08
Yes, good guys are difficult to find, however we should learn everything about their activities, how they talk. I don't trust the man who drives a posh car, who wear clothes like brand names for work, who languages is not good. We should learn about their family. If you notice that someone is watching you and asks you to buy him a lunch, if it was me I would not have any relation with him. First time when you go out with a man, he has to buy lunch or dinner. Take your time study him well before you commit to a relationship.
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 08
Well it sounds like you wouldnt make a decision about a man based on his looks and other superficial things .
@mindym (978)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I think they are out there, but are probably already taken :( If they are out there, apparently I am looking in ALL the wrong places.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 08
Thats an interesting point too ,some of them are taken and some are right there in front of you too
• United States
1 Dec 08
Hi ronnyb!! Well i dont really know where i can find a good man!!! lol i think the good mans doesnt exist :(!!! or maybe i am looking in the wrong place beucase i have never see or find one!! just one.... But i dont really know it :), well have a nice day and hope you will have a very good week ;) see you soon :) and bye bye :D
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 08
Maybe you are looking in the worng place and thanks for the compliment (I take it you are saying I am a good man) but maybe if you saw me with my big spectacles ,you wouldnt think so
• United States
1 Dec 08
Sounds like some personal angst held up within you. Or perhaps you are an angsty teen. Regardless of the situation I think that many women are skin deep when they choose guys. I am not one of the spectacle donning "geeks" but I have friends who are. Sure chicks don't immediately pursue them, but their personalities are usually golden. I think women should care less about what the guy looks like and more about who he truly is. I also think you shouldn't generalize and state all women are that way, because it is simply not true.
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 08
Not a teen by a long shot and I dont think I dont think I have any agnst in me,at least none I am ware of - but maybe that could result from years of being the geek in the cubicle (not saying I am that now lol ).I take your point about generalizing, that wasnt my intention,I was just speaking about the kinds of women who make decisons based on looks and then wonder why their life are like that.