How's life or how are you today?
By lovelyvelle
@lovelyvelle (639)
December 2, 2008 3:52pm CST
I don't know why I get so annoyed or pressured if somebody asked me this " how's life, how are you today?" especially when I am or was having a bad day but even if you don't ask me I would tell you I am having a bad day, and I am very fed up. Anyway, how's your day as well, if you are just about to start your day what are your plans for later if you don't mind to share? Looking forward to hear from you! Blessings!
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@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
when someone ask me about how's life i always answer the same response. "so far so good." whether it is good or not. they dont need to know the truth. i keep my own privacy to myself. if my children are the one asking then i will tell the truth. i always tell the truth to my children. i tell the world that i am happy but when it is not going my way i just say SO FAR SO GOOD.
@lovelyvelle (639)
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3 Dec 08
Nice idea, sometimes I just ignored those people who asked me how's my life? Though sometimes, I just said it's alright, even if it's my family who ask me I don't tell them the exact details. Sometimes, even I am having a bad day I still show them that I am alright with a smile trying to hide or pretend that everythings is alright with me, so they won't know how bad was it. Sometimes I prefer to hide my real feelings than to share it. Thanks for sharing.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
hi again. i dont think you need to hide your real feeling with your family. they are the only person in this world who will deffinitely understands you. i am a single mom offour children and i tell my children honestly of what is the situation or what is wrong. and when i am happy i share with them too. shared joy is doubled joy and shared sorrow is half sorrow.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Hey Hey !
Well , If is my parents they can see in my eyes that something is wrong , so I just come out and say it .Usually , I just say how I am , ya know . Like my aunt asked me how I was last year , and it was a hard winter I said well not so good and that caught her off guard . And I went on to say I hate winter and get kinda down then , and she is like spring is on the way . Blah she dont get it really LOL.
Anyway ! I woke up with my head hurting , but my mood is okay , ya know , and actually kinda feel somewhat happy .
Hope you have more better days!
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@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
4 Dec 08
try to stay warm with all that snow . we have had a little snow fall , but nothing has stuck all that much . Have a great upcoming weekend.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
3 Dec 08
Hello, lovelyvelle!
It is strange, but when people ask me how is my day or how am I doing, I will always tell them that I am doing good. When in fact it is not always like that. I can be sad, and look sad, but I will say: "I'm fine". It is already an automatic response. I want to get it off from me. I want to be able to say that I'm feeling fine when I am, and feeling sad when I am. People usually only answer that they are fine, it is like if they were being polite. But there is no need to say that you are fine when your world is coming down.
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
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@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Thanks for your response. It's nice to hear from you as well. Yes, sometimes I think answering like I'm fine all the time is just a polite answer, even when they are not fine, they still say they're fine. Sometimes I don't like to answer people I'm fine, the word itself is too boring for me to say heheheh what am I like, just being sarcastic, no offense. Have a good day to you my friend.
@faizi1 (157)
• Pakistan
3 Dec 08
my dear
lovelyvelle
the topic fpr discussion is gud well i wll say some thing about life
our life is gift of GOD and who we keep it its our duty GOD gave us the wrost day of our life and also gave happines for our life when the wrost day is coming on us so we pray and get the excsue from our god it is our exam that how we handle that days
@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Great to hear from you, thanks for the encouraging response! Yes, I think everybody has one of those days, when days get wrong and worsts life must go on, they said. Of course there are days that are full of happiness but not always, it's just the like a food without spices don't tastes as nice as it should be. So that's just one of the spices in life sometimes a bit sweet and most of the times more salty or bitter. Blessings.
@nabendu82 (53)
• India
3 Dec 08
When someone ask " how's life, how are you today?" you should always response in positive, because that's how you attract positive thing. Do watch "The Secret". It has scientific proof also for that.
http://www.thesecret.tv
@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing, yes I just opened the link you shared to me it's interesting! It's an amazing site, I am still reading the success stories of the secret of their lives and wow it's inspiring and encouraging the people to make their dreams come true and live life to the fullest, it's wonderful! I hope it works for me though hehehe, have a great day!
@mariocool (24)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I feel the some way to it is okey to feel like that need anyone come talk to me
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@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Thanks for being so kind to me, wow it's nice to know that there's a person who is willing to listen if I need someone to talk to. You're so kind, I am glad to hear that. I hope you are having a good day too, and I am here as well if you need someone to talk to we can do it both ways hehehe what do you think? Sounds good to me, anyway enjoy your day.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
Hi there!
My day is about to end..my throat is sore because i spent the day shouting and yelling at my kids..do not do this ..oh not that...yoooo..you will fall down..get down from there!..pretty tough right but yeah i am exhausted and tired..i will just take a bath and i will go to sleep..so how was i today?i say tired and sore...thanks for asking anyway.
@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Thanks for the nice response. Oh sorry to hear about your sore throat, I know what it is like when you have it just because of yelling. Sometimes kids are fun to be with it's not all bad I think. I am not a mother yet but yes, I do certainly think that handling kids is a big responsibility its difficult sometimes specially when they are misbehaving. Sometimes I do get sore throat when I am singing and trying to get the highest pitch of a note heheheh (I'm not a singer) just learning and trying to sing well. Have a good day.
@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
I'm not happy today because my boy friend don't wnt buy e new Levi's jeans
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@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Oh is that all! I know it's upsetting when you want something and you can't get it, and you know that your boyfriend can afford it, it's just simply not the right time for him to buy that jeans for you today, maybe he will buy it later just keep on asking he might be annoyed then he will buy it just to keep your mouth shut I do that sometimes it works hehehe. Enjoy your day!
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Well, I am having a pretty good day today. I won't go into too many details, but I have been quite stressed mainly because of the boyfriend for the last couple of months.
But today when I awoke, I just decided today was going to be a good day. And that I was the only one who could make it that way.
I remember when I was young and working in the banking profession. I was fresh from the hills of Kentucky, and didn't want anyone to think I was just a big old hillbilly. So whenever the vice president of the bank or someone important would ask me how I was doing, I would always say "Just fine thank you, and how are you?" I think that really helped me get ahead in life at a very young age.
Thanks for starting this discussion, and I hope you are having a very good day.
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@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing, yes I know what it is like when you are stressed especially because of a boyfriend or a lover. (wink and smile) You're response is well-appreciated it's nice to hear from different people in this site, I enjoyed it here very much especially sharing ideas and thoughts and experiences in life. Sometimes when I am very stressed I just log in and keep reading the discussions here without posting anything and responding it helps to lessen my stress about anything. Have a great day!
@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
2 Dec 08
This is an annoying thing to me - strangers say "how are you?" I know it is just a nice courtesy and a conversation started, but when life is hard it is hard to be "nice". I often say, fine, how are you? But on days when life is life and not very nice, I will say, "not to good, what to hear about it?" or something like that and of course they stumble and fiddle around because 1. they were shocked I said the unexpected and #2 they dont want or care how I am, so they don't want to hear it anyway.
I can see the "friendly" part about it, but why not say something more like "Oh, I love your sweater" or something like that. Granted it could be hte same response "Oh, this rag? I dont have anything any better, no big deal", but at least it is something tangible.
Like I said, it is annoying to me!
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@lovelyvelle (639)
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3 Dec 08
Oh good that I am not the only one who get annoyed then! I thought it's only me who has this kind of attitude or impression with this question. I think some people have the habit of saying how are you, even you just meet them, even they don't really care how you are, they still asked because they can't think of anything to say to get started. Thanks for sharing.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
If you are too ask me, my day is not right. I hate this day. It is not about the work itself but it is the working environment. It is the people, though, not all of them. Sometimes, there are really people who would do ANYTHING just to annoy you… Yeah, I got annoyed today and I almost talk back but I BIT my tongue because I don’t want to stoop down in her level. I just kept in my mind that I have to finish my bond here in my company while studying a crash course then will try to find or venture a new career for me... but still I don’t like this day. I just prayed that I will be okay until my shift ends.
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@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
I know how it feels like when you are in that kind of working environment. I had quit my job last year just because I can't cope with the people I am working with, sometimes they bully me and sometimes psychologically threatened me, the manager was very disappointed though because she expects me to stay there for good. I told her I can't cope anymore and I hope your staff will be good to somebody who will be in my place next time. Thanks for sharing and Good luck!
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
This very moment I feel sleepy and not feeling well. but I cannot leave my doings and just go to my bed until I finish it. Anyway in another term or aspect of life the truth I am now is I feel depressed with a lot of things that coming into our life due to some problems.
When i woke up I ready for all the things to do.
@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing, I know what you mean. Yes there are things coming into our life that gives us problems which causes depression. I hope your day will be great when you wake up for the next morning. Some people have this saying, Do what you can do today and leave the rest for the next day. Well, we can only do what we can anyway so they must be right hehehe. Have a great day my friend.
@suzzy3 (8341)
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2 Dec 08
Not to bad getting my strength back after the flu virus I have had it for ten weeks at one time the I infected and the doctor have me anti-biotics ,but I have now been told to wait for it to go it could take another month ,so I get a bit cheesed off at times but I am not the only one.Plenty of people laid up for months,and cannot do a thing about it.Ifeel sorry for people that have had to work through it.I am trying to keep my spirits up but I do understand all I can say if you have to many bad days have a word with the doctor.I have mangaged to go shopping today but know I feel exhausted take care.
@lovelyvelle (639)
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3 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing take good care of yourself too. Sorry to hear about your flu virus, I hope you will get better very soon. That's good that you still managed to go shopping today. I remember when I had a flu I didn't even feel comfortable to get up from bed and I even lost my appetite too so I end up losing weight as well.
@carlingtop08 (209)
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2 Dec 08
i know what you mean, but even if i am having a bad day i still tend to say that i am having a good day despite my true feelings. I am not sure why this is i just suppose that i beleive that people feel better about you if youre a happy person. Well since im in the uk my day has been good, had a good day at college and had good times with friends.
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@lovelyvelle (639)
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4 Dec 08
Oh that's a nice life having good times with friends. Is it snowing in your side as well? It's snowing much here this week, when I looked at the windows today the snow is thicker than yesterday it must be freezing outside good job I don't have to go out. Thanks for sharing and enjoy your day!
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
Well, whenever my friends ask me that question i aways say im okay, im still alive and kicking. For me Life is a constant struggle to live, being alive is already a blessing for me, i just live day by day and thank God for i could still wake up in the mourning and do things that i like.
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