stay or find a new one?
By wenny1224
@wenny1224 (29)
China
December 2, 2008 11:24pm CST
my bf and i are schoolmates.after graduation,he went to work in another city and i stay here for further study.now distance becomes a problem between us.we cant see each other and we talk through the telephone.sometime i find so upset about this.do you think i should keep with him or find a new one?
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7 responses
@ms_sumbody (29)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
hey girl....if u love him so much then why shud u find a new one...??u cannot do that...it seems like u r not loyal to him...omg i cannot believe it...dont do anything that can break his love to you...pls stay with him..
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@wenny1224 (29)
• China
5 Dec 08
well,sometimes i just cant believe in him.maybe its my problem.because sociaty is so complicated and full of enticement.many people have changed when they enter into sociaty.
@ms_sumbody (29)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 08
u must have confidence in ur life..if u luv him so much then try to stay with him...dont u ever think to find another one...u wont regret if u trust the one who loves u very much...
@rpluangco (23)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
To love and to be loved is not just a paper once became dirty u have to throw it to somewhere else. If you really love the person why you have to look for another. If you have already the evidence that he is not honest with you, then maybe that's the time now to try looking for someone who would be there for you all the time. maybe He has reasons why you dont have any communication between the two of you..
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
3 Dec 08
If you have doubts about your feeling for him and vice versa, then there's no reason for both of you to stay together. But if the distance is the only problem, you have to think twice. As long as the communication, trust and love are still there and strong then there's no reason at all. You have to think about it first. People may give advices or suggestions but the decision still relies on you. 
@wenny1224 (29)
• China
5 Dec 08
thanks for your advice.i really have doubts about him but maybe its my own problem.he treats me well.its the distance that makes me unconfident.i can only know something through telephone.i dont know whether he tells me the truth.i know i must trust him but sometimes,i just cant do so.because working in sociaty and studying in campus is so different.sociaty is so complicated while campus is more simple.
@loxion (1553)
• India
3 Dec 08
Sounds like you do not trust your lover, if you really love him then you should appreciate that your partner is away on important things
I mean if you really love him then you should be on his side no matter how far in the world your partner is, no matter what problems they are having.
But if you find yourself in a situation where you think that you want to break-up with him then i suspect that one of you never really showed love
@wenny1224 (29)
• China
5 Dec 08
do you really think that love can help us conquer any difficulties we face?in my opinion,it just will happen in the movie.do you think there will be pure love without condidering anything?
@zabawaus (1730)
• United States
3 Dec 08
hi wenny ,
you have s weird discussion,
you can't decide these kind of things , if you already making plans to leave him means that you are not connected to him that much,
I am married and i was away from my husband almost 3 years in our 5 years relationship but i never even once think about to find someone new!
