sad at ciao today

When someone asks to be my friend, I send an e-mail thanking them for the invite. I also spell out that I ONLY rate reviews I am interested in, only add people to my CoT that I trust their reviews, and do not send out e-mails asking to read my reviews. Likewise, I expect the same of them. It's worded nicer, but I hope you get the gist. I also have on my status that I am deleting people who send multiple "please review" requests in a day. Since I starting doing that, my Ciao spam has decreased. If you are worried about hurting her feelings, send her an e-mail explaining your position. If she keeps it up, delete her. Sorry if that sounds cold, but this person did not worry about making you feel bad.

wow that must be annoying. I surely would find it annoying. It would be bothersome as well. "You scratch my back and I'll scratch yours." Seems like he/she only 'scratched' your back a little bit xD. If I were you I would possibly take her/him off my friends list.

It is a really big problem at Ciao - people adding you as a friend and then expecting you to read and rate them as well as spamming you regularly to say they have a new review. I have no problem with people saying hi in my inbox and asking how things are and telling me what they did at the weekend but asking me to go read their newest review is a bit annoying. I try not to let it wind me up too much, after all, most people do it without realising that it's against the rules but generally I will tell people who ask me for reads that I will only read and rate reviews which fall within my interest areas and randomly I read reviews from the new review list. Just because someone is your friend on Ciao does not oblige you to read each and every one of their reviews and if they're not doing their fair share of reading and rating around the site themselves, well they'll soon find that their friends list will automatically decrease as people realise they are not actively participating in the site. One thing a lot of people over there don't realise is that by reading other people's reviews it can only help you improve your own reviews - you can learn from other people's ratings what sort of information people like to see and also what sort of information people don't like to see - this can only help you in your own reviews and therefore help you get better ratings - so it's to everyone's advantage to read and rate as well as write their own reviews. As for your friend, well you are obviously too nice to delete her as a friend or report her but if she's not careful someone else will which could lead to her account being put on warning or just terminated...

Hi there. I can understand how you feel. I hate those PMs soliciting for reviews! I call them SPAMS! Usually, this group of people will add many friends and then PM everyone to ask them to review. With so many friends, do you think they have so much time to review ours? I don't think so. They are only seeking for reviews. I always delete such friends. A few of my friends always support my reviews and give me true opinions and I gratefully appreciate it. I do likewise for them.

Well, your so called 'friend' will get both of you banned as this is a violation of the guidelines... I ignore all such PMs

Just make sure you tell your friend, maybe that will solve the problem. Getting upset and ranting about it will not solve the problem. And if all else fails don't forget the delete button.

Is she a friend you've known for long time, or you knew her from ciao? I've seen many people sending general message like this, and I've heard that this is not permitted in ciao. So, I don't really respond to them, unless I really want to read their reviews, coz some of their reviews are really quite poor, and I can't rate them good just because we are friends, right? This is violating the rules of ciao too. I'll always check if my friends have new reviews, and I'll read them during my free time. Don't be discouraged by this! ^_^

I usually delete those type of messages,... You should report her to Ciao for harassing you to rate her reviews. Because if I remember correctly what she's doing is totally against the Ciao Terms Of Service and she could get banned if somebody reports her for what she's doing . Some guy use to do that to me all the time on Ciao then one day he was gone because a lot of people complained about him harassing other Ciao members/friends to rate his reviews.. This girl that is bothering you is breaking the rules . You need to go read Ciaos "Terms Of Service" because it states that no user is to defame or in any other way harass other participants.. Just report her since she's harassing you .

Ha!ha!ha! So this friend is forcing you to be very supportive when she is not even that supportive to you. My goodness my dear don't be bothered about that kind of friend. You can always delete her if yo find her too annoying already. I mean it is alright to be reminded that she has new reviews but reminding you 3 times a day is already a disturbance. Actually if she is only visiting your reviews and rating you regularly she does not need to send you private message about her new reviews anymore because I'm sure you are already reminded of her once you see her rating your own. That is what I am doing at Ciao. Whenever I see a friend rating my review I'd immediately to to her page and rate her new reviews as well. Even if I only had one new review and I saw that it was rated by a friend. I'd go to that friends page and rate all her new reviews for the day just to return the favor. I mean it should be give and take and not just thinking of my own benefit. If I want to earn, so are the other so I make it a point to give my supportive friends the chance to earn. as well. There are other friends though who just busy making their reviews and despite being rated by me regularly, they don't even rate mine. So after some successive days of rating them faithfully, I stop and go to other reviewers so find new deserving friends. By the way if you want to add me as friend...my name at Ciao is ladyli. Just add me and send message so I'd recognize you. I can be the best friend to all who know how to return the favor. Cheers!

aw i wouldn't like that either. why is she forcing you to go rate it and she doesn't do in return. I think you should try talking to her nicely and see how she feels about it whether she knows that you really comment her and rate her. Good luck and hope you can keep using Ciao and solve this problem :]

I think this is an ongoing thing on ciao, members bombarding you with mails asking, requesting, pleading, ordering etc; to rate their reviews.Frankly, i find it disgusting.We all know that we need to write reviews and rate others reviews.That is how the system works.But this somehow makes it cheap.And they write some rubbish 200 word review and expect you to give them a 'E' or a 'Very helpful' rating.if you rate according to the quality of their review, they revenge rate your reviews- pathetic , i must say! when will people grow up and behave like mature responsible individuals? In that respect ciao.uk is much better and much more dignified..

It's okay for you to feel sad about what happened but that feeling should not last for long. Just think that what you did for her is being kind. Let us not expect that everyone will return the same favor you did to him or her. We all have our own choices and we may choose to not please everyone. Just try to ask her about the situation. Maybe she was too busy that she was not able to read, rate and give comments to your review. Just do not mind those people who are very pursuing. Remember, you have a choice my friend. Happy lot! Please add me as your friend in ciao. My username is maroseqf. Thanks in advance!

Hi! I have the same feeling sometimes when some members force me to look at their reviews. And sometimes it seems they check my reviews just for the sake of getting their reviews checked! I have a certain friend who reads my review, rates them always the same word "Good Review" so that in lieu I rate his reviews too. God! I am too sick of people like that. Ok the fact that it's a site to earn money justifies them to ask others to rate their reviews but sending a PM with the line you have mentioned above is intolerable! Seems like money has taken its toll on everyone. You dont worry about it. Everyone has become so much money-minded and you can never judge anyone truly when you meet them on net. Just ignore the messages and only visit the reviews if you feel like. When they can try to be over smart then let them have a piece of their own cake. PS- I have received the same message too from (I think) the same member!

I know what you mean. I also have this girl in my friends list who sends me endless messages saying that she has a new review out and asks me to rate it. I didn't mind it at first when I was starting out at Ciao, thought it was normal for members to be doing that, and then I read reviews from other experienced Ciao members that it is against the rules to ask someone to read and rate your review. I'm still deciding on whether I'd report this girl, or suffer receiving endless messages from her, which by the way is starting to annoy me. I've read and rated her reviews but she hasn't rated mine! I'm thinking that maybe we're talking about the same girl here... hehehe

[i]Hello ik4man, Yeap, that happened. It is so annoying to see such PM. Anything force is not good to the user and the doer. Better tell her what you feel and assure her that you will do your part of the deal or whatever you two have. There are friends that so engrossed about their self preservation that they don't bother to think of the right thing to do. Sometimes you have to wake them up to realize that what they are doing is not healthy. Just continue what you are doing and let your friend know she doesn't have to send such a PM. Regards.[/i]

Same here. I received lots of message to view or comment on their review. There's one that keep sending me PM so I decided to send her a message not to do that but she keeps doing it so I just remove her from my friend list. I don't mind commenting or reading other reviews but for me to do will not be tolerate. Besides it is against the rules of Ciao to ask someone to read or rate your review.

aaw! hope you sort this problem out :( i just joined ciao a few days ago and i hope that it will be okay for me as well.

that is sooooo bad... don't bother reading her PMs.. and don't rate her reviews either... she is so mean to you, its unfair for your side.. but do keep posting, what is your ciao account anyway? my user name in ciao is the same as here.. PM me, if you like... ^___^

hehehe...i rated 2-3 guys negatively ..when they pass such a remarks...loll then they delete me and never ping again

Sometimes people add me and do the same sort of thing. They rate 2 or 3 of my reviews and then they send me messages asking me to look at theirs and rate them 3 or 4 times a day. It is the most annoying thing when people sit there and message you to rate their reviews when this is illegal on the site to start off with. The site should be about genuine reviews not just rating other peoples so others can rate yours. I know that money is on e line so people are highly competitive but still a little courtesy would be nice.