What do you prefer for a spouse; single, divorced or widow/er?

Single or widower would be my vote. Ex-spouses, especially if there are children involved, never go away. They will always be hanging over the marriage. However, it all depends on the individual. While I may prefer a certain civil status, if I'm not open to all varieties, I might miss out on someone good. However, having dated all the above except widower, I find that the extra baggage is quite a hurdle to overcome in a relationship. But, then again, who is without baggage? Really?

ahahah this is a very good question. In my long years of being single, I dreamed to marry a single man and I have my own reasons for this which will not elaborate too. But the problem is, I am very choosy. LOL. There are some single men available around me, and they are showing interest but they are not my type. hahaha..As the years go by and I am getting older .. I end up marrying a divorced man but he is really my type. We have the same line of interest and of the same faith. What I can say in choosing a partner is that, it's up to you and your choice. It doesn't matter is he/she is divorced,single or widower as long as you can get along well, and you love and respect each other. That is the most important thing. And above all you are compatible.

Well, each group comes with there own problems...single men are new to the whole relationship thing and therefore there's alot of "training" involved...divorced men have an ex-wife to contend with and possibly children, child support, alimony, ect. to deal with...and widowed men have the memory of the late wife and possibly children to contend with. None are an easy situation. If I had to pick I'd probably say a divorced man with no kids or no contact with his kids or a widowed man with no kids. Most divorced men realize what a bad marriage is and will work harder to have a good one but you still have the ex-wife and possible kids to deal with. A widowed man usually knows a good marriage, understands sticking with someone till the end but you also may run into him comparing you to his late wife all the time. My Hubby is a divorced man with an insane ex-wife and a grown son...neither of who we have to have contact with now. He knows a good marriage and so he takes care to make sure we have one and he knows that it's important to have a wife that's sane. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

As a young single lady, of course I would prefer a single man. I have nothing against the divorced or widow but if God's will all is okay though if given the chance, single man is what I prefer. Take care and have a great day!!!

yes a widower for sure. they miss being married usually and they are already trained if they are single for so long theres usually a bad reason for it. also the divorced ones.

First-off, I am twice divorced. My first husband and I had never been married before, so we were starting-out on the same ground I felt. My second husband had been divorced once as well, so for some reason I thought that would work. The man I'm in a relationship with now has never been married because he never wanted to go through a divorce like he saw his parents go through. He figures that I've been through my misakes and have learned my lessons so am a good candidate for marraige. His first and only, my last. Happy MyLotting!

its not a big deal to me if the man is divorced widowed or single. for aslong as he will love me he will be responible he will be a good father and a good husband and of course who has good moral values, i really won't mind whatever it is.

I preferred what the God give it to me, its widow, divorced or single. Now God send me a man having a child's with his ex-partner, even I ignore him many time still his there and the funny things is when I try to erase him totally in my life by leaving in the country we both staying for a while, there are many happen that make my leaving postpone for several months. Then here he is again, so I'll give him a chance to know me and now we planning to get married this coming 2009... He always say "wow your so hard to get"... Our life are not defend of how we wanted but it how God let it happen.....Good day my friend

Good discussion however I don’t think it can be answered entirely as proposed without analysis. This is because I tend to look for a specific set of traits and might just find myself falling for and ultimately marrying from any of the above categories ,single divorced or widow. It also means that any of the above categories may possess traits that may be annoying it just depends on the individual. Each category may present advantages that may be absent from the other category. A single woman for example may not be carrying the baggage of a former relationship as say a divorcee who may be bitter at times against her ex-husband. This bitterness may result in mistrust in the your relationship. however a single woman may be single because she is difficult to handle. A divorcee like I mention above may have baggage from the previous relationship but on the other hand she may just be appreciative of a good thing since she has had the exact opposite. A widower may not have baggage as a divorcee would have but then she may have had a very good husband and may use every opportunity to compare you with him. Consequently its difficult to stereotype either category .However I personally and in ideal circumstances go with a single woman because I tend to want to avoid the baggage from the other two categories and the baggage I am talking about are emotional as well as children.

Single,widower,divorcee. If i love the person i don't mind of what is his status in life as long as he loves me too and can provide of what i want. I married a man who is divorcee and no child at all so no problem of that.

I prefer to be single, because it will be the youngest. Although, sometimes a divorced woman can be young. Still, I prefer to be single.