I can see clearly now the Anger's gone...
By taface412
@taface412 (3175)
United States
December 3, 2008 6:03pm CST
I am not one to post on here specifics of my current daily life, but today I have to vent somewhere and my poor mother's ears must be wore off by now.
I am so fed up with being the nice person. I am fed up with people tinking that no matter what I will always be th bigger person. Sometimes I wish I could act childsh like other adults who think they are always right and on a high horse. I know I am not perfect and I know at times I offend others, but I at least attempt to make amends with the person or I deal with the consequences. But I know people who do not think twie about offending me. Sometimes (and this is in reference to real life ot online life) it's not always about a person being right or wrong...sometimes it's how you talk to the person to state your case. And I know people have a bad day and at times take it out on the wrong people....but for the most part I think befoe I speak.
But I do have to say this...this one little incident that set my mind into a tail spin where I was ranting and raving made some things a little clearer. In fact, in the future I know exactly how I will handle these situations which may offend the offender but make my point clear and simple. Without leaving it to "my way or the high way" point.
So here is my question. If someone who you know constantly is negative and talks about others as if they always did wrong and you constantly hear it. And then when they get angry they turn it on you when you did nothing...is there anything wrong with saying: "Until I get an apology for _____ (fill in the blank) I do not want to hear one more word about anyone."
Would that be entirely inappropriate? I think not.
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@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I can't stand people that continually bash other people, their negativity is a downer. I would tell them if they don't have anything good to say then they should shut up. I wouldn't listen to that crap any longer, apparently it has effected you to the point of wanting to twist their head off and kick it down the street. You are right, you can only take so much.
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@taface412 (3175)
• United States
4 Dec 08
The thing is I can see good qualities in people and usually that is what I look at when they rear their ugly head, but you are right I am not up for it any longer. I look at it this way....why should I always be concerned with hurtng people's feelings that don't mind hurting mine.
Thanks for the response.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
8 Dec 08
And proactive I was. I kept my mouth shut, acted like an adult and two days later when the clouded anger was gone talked about. And I didn't even have to bring it up...my friend did. Big step which made me happy...and then we laughed about how we both ran to our moms (grown women that we are) to talk it out...
But I can finally see why everyone, including my friend mentioned, has always told me if I made to just say it...and I plan to keep doing it. It purges the soul.
@rsa101 (38126)
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
Well if it would help you then go for it. I am pretty sure that whatever we do in our life there are benefits as well as consequences on it. Just make sure that when you do the consequence would not be affect you. It should be be the benefit from doing it that you should be gaining more.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Very true.
And the only benefit I can see is the fact that once and awhile I need to stand up for myself and not keep it bottled up. And as for consequences what I would be saying is far better than how I let people treat me at times.
Thanks for the input.
