How Do You Deal With Someone Who Continues To Lie?

Hi relundad! That's exactly what happened. She started with a lie that was so absurd that she kept stumbling on to the next and that's when I flipped and hung up on her and haven't spoken to her since!

The really good liars, have to believe their own lies. So they are pretty good at it, and conviencing them is almost impossible! They really believe the BS.

BTW this information was told to me from a liar. I just asked him one day why he does it and holds to it, when everybody knows that he is lying. The above was his response...can you believe that?

Hi annjilena, I'm sorry that the problem is with your son. That makes it a different story. My father was a pathological liar so it makes it harder for me to accept anyone who is a liar. But, in your case hopefully your son will change, I hope so for your sake.

Hi opal pathalogical was the word I was looking for and yes I truly understand your predicament and how you must feel..it is a shame your friend doesn't seem to want any help..hugs littleowl

Hi littleowl! My father was a pathological liar and that's why I have such a problem with anyone that lies to me. It is a serious sickness. Since I lived with it most of my life I can't deal with it, not even little stupid lies. I'm sure that you understand.

It does sound as if you've come to the end of your tether, Opal. I agree - time to be tough and tell her what you really think. Enough's enough - life is stressful enough without other people's baggage - especially if we're not directly related to them! Time to move on - good luck!

Hi guybrush~The lies are stupid, but they are continuous and I just can't deal with them anymore. She has alot of issues but I have given her allowances for them before. She just won't learn and nothing is going to change so I have to keep her at a distance. Right now she has no idea what she has done to make me angry and when I tell her she will get angry and be in denial. That will give me the out that I need.

Opal, Manic Depression is Bipolar Disorder. The problem with Manic Depression is that it often takes the persons whole life trying to find medications and combinations that work for them. But even if that is the case, you can choose not to be a part of it. Bipolar Disorder is a serious mental illness and takes a lot of patience and love to support someone with it. Even though my Son is on his medications, sometimes things trigger an episode and he completely loses his control. He gets very angry at me and blames me for everything that is wrong with him, even though when he comes out of the episode he apologises to me for treating me badly. He doesn't remember a lot of what he says, he just knows that he was in a bad place and usually takes it out on me. He tries not to answer the phone when I call so as not to have to deal with me, especially if he is in a real manic state. I'm just telling you this in case your neighbor exhibits this type of behavior. Like I said sweetie, even family members will turn their backs on one with Bipolar Disorder, so don't feel like you are obligated to take her abuse. You have enough to deal with. I'll email you soon. Love Leenie

Hey leenie! Miss you too! No she's not Bipolar. Possibly manic, but I don't think she's Bipolar, although I could be wrong. She definitely is on alot of serious meds. But, that still isn't an excuse for lying. I don't think that is part of her sickness.

Hi quinnkl, That is the point! She doesn't even realize that she is doing it. But, I have given her enough chances to stop. I had stopped talking to her for over a year already. I gave her another chance and now she is doing it again. This time I've had enough!

You are so right. She does live in a world of her own. And I think that's why people don't remain friends with her for long. If I try to explain it to her she won't understand anyway.

Oh, I have no problem telling someone that they are a liar! It's just that she won't accept it and own it!

Hey max~I'm not sure that she is capable of that type of understanding. When I tell her what she did she will just deny and lie some more. That is the problem which leaves me with no choice but to end the friendship.

Hi anne~I am going to have to tell her sooner or later why I'm angry. She will deny it and get angry and defensive and I will just tell her I've had it with her. Nothing else I can say or do. His birthday was ok. I took him to pick out the sweatpants he wanted and he went downtown to Manhattan with his friend this past Saturday. I think he's finished celebrating it now!