Is anyone alone?
By lagirl1966
@lagirl1966 (709)
United States
December 4, 2008 9:44am CST
I am alone. I have been for years. I was involved with this guy online, and to make a long story short, he constantly lied to me, unfortunately, I fell really hard for him, and the day I found out what he had done to me, I had a breakdown which caused intestinal and stomach problems. I still suffer today, everyday, with them. So needless to say I have given up on love. I guess it just wasn't meant for me. Is anyone else alone?? Without a mate?? And do you get lonely? I am just curious if anyone else out there experiences the same feelings as me. After all, we are only human!!!
8 responses
@gxtiantian (208)
• China
7 Dec 08
I have the same situation with you, I am alone. But, I have to say, I am not lonely since there're still many friends around me. Yes, you may lost your boyfriend or girlfrind some a time, but you haven't lost the whole world, you still have your family and other friends to back you up. Am I right? I wish you will feel better when you notice this and good luck.
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@lagirl1966 (709)
• United States
8 Dec 08
Thanks for writing. I am not lonely, I have my son with me. Actually I prefer being alone. I just wish I didn't have all this stress in my life. You cant even imagine what I am going through. Sometimes I just wish someone was there that really cared. Do you know what I mean?? I don't want to put my son through it and my family either. They have their own problems to. Thanks for writing. I hope you are doing fine to.
@lyx4920 (19)
• China
6 Dec 08
yeah! we are only human. we frequently feel lonely, empty.
before, I got badly in emptiness.without any reason, I felt so bad that I even cried. I turned to my friends ,but still felt lonely and lack of love. I had a boyfriend who loved me, but I found him annoying ( It was not his fault.) It seemed nothing was interesting, nothing could appease me. I was extremely depressed.
but now , I no longer feel empty , but happy from the bottom of my heart.
you wanna know the secret?you can find it in Lord Jesus!
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@lagirl1966 (709)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I know how you feel. And I agree with you about the Lord! He is always there for us. Sometimes I wonder why he lets all these bad things happen to me, but then I know he dosent "let" them happen, but he is there when they do.
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
4 Dec 08
i'm not lonely, but i do know of a person who got divorced back in '89 and never decided to remarry or get into another relationship. in fact her ex husband still takes care of her financially because of that. but yup, she says she's alone and happy rather than tied down and miserable.
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@lagirl1966 (709)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I am not lonely either. I like to be alone. It is better than being treated badly. I was divorced in 99 and haven't remarried either. But I have had my heart broken since then. I would rather be alone than go through that again.
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@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I'm not alone but two of my closest friends are. Both of them were divorced over ten years ago and neither one of them has any desire whatsoever to get married again. One of them dates but makes it very clear upfront that she is not looking for any kind of long term relationship. The other does not date but always seems to be busy doing something. If you really don't want to get involved with a man again, try getting active with church groups, volunteering, and becoming involved with causes that you're passionate about. Who knows you just might meet someone who has the same interests as you do and you might change your mind. If not, you'll still have a great deal of fun.
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@lagirl1966 (709)
• United States
5 Dec 08
You are right, that could happen. But unfortunately I have to many health problems to be involved in anything right now. I am concentrating on taking care of my son, who is now a teen. And trying to take care of myself. It is very hard being a single parent, you don't know unless you have been there. I am happy being alone right now, you don't have to answer to anyone else. And you can do what you want.
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@lagirl1966 (709)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I know and understand. I feel the same. Trusting I mean. It is hard to trust anyone these days, especially when you have trusted before and been betrayed.
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 10
Well, i do get tired of being alone sometimes, but for me, it's a little different. I am living in foreign country right now. I do have lots of friends and had some relationships, but for the most part, i am alone most of the time.
To keep myself busy i take walks, watch movies online and etc.
Just don't think about it too much and keep yourself busy.
@lagirl1966 (709)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Albert1989,
It has gotten better for me lately. All my health problems has been keeping my mind of it. I have decided I have to be alone. I really don't mind being alone because I can do what I want. Yes it would be nice to share a life with someone, but I don't think anyone would be around someone that is always sick. I was in a nother country once and I didn't like it at all. I think the language made me uncomfortable.
Take care
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
16 Sep 12
I used to be lonely when my ex-girlfriend broke away from me. Later I found my true love and ever since we have lived happily with a happy family of four. Love falls on us when we have found a true one. I wish you to soon find one to get away from the loneliness. Good luck to you, lagirl.
@Mgoodson (82)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I am alone at 40 years old. I chose to do this because I have had several bad relationships , which I'll admit I was to blame for some of the breakups because I was young and inexperienced in love. It's not the greatest thing being single, but it beats going through the headaches and heartbreaks.
There's no one to cuddle with, no one to whisper sweet nothings to, or make love to. But in all aspects of life, we must take the bad with the good when we make decisions like this.
@lagirl1966 (709)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I agree with you. I choose to be alone. It is better I think than going through the stress of getting hurt. It is not that much fun being alone, no one to share anything with. I was always looking for romance and I never got it. I realized though that I wasn't going to find what I was looking for. I am 42 and have decided to stay alone. I am sick, and wouldn't want to subject anyone else to what I have to deal with on a daily basis. I dont think anyone else would want to. But I don't mind being alone. At least I wont get hurt again.
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