Teen Pregnancy
By Luvandpower
@luvandpower (2048)
United States
December 4, 2008 10:04am CST
If you had a daughter who was pregnant, how would you cope with that? How would that make you feel? Would you be angry? Sad? Happy? Would you offer support and help? Would you turn her away and call her a scarlet woman? What would be your reaction?
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6 responses
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
4 Dec 08
Depending on the age of my daughter would depend on my feelings. I would always love my daughter and accept her no matter what. I do not want to see my daughters getting pregnant at an early age but if it happened then we would deal with it. I do not think that a daughter should feel in the least shunned by her family. They should be supportive in what happens. Even if you do not approve, your daughter would need your help.
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@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
5 Dec 08
To some degree there would be a limit, because I would expect the father to do some of the supporting financially. But I would support her as much as needed and as much as the father does not give. I love my kids and I will help them in what ever they need.
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
8 Dec 08
would you allow them to have their own free time? like be able to hang with friends?
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
would there be a limit in the support that you would give?
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@lou_66 (909)
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4 Dec 08
i do not have a daughter who has been pregnant as i am only 19 but many of my friends had children when they were in ther teens.
becuase of this my mam was very worried that i would do the same.
if i was in this situation i would not be very pleased but i would supporther all the way.
also everybody circustances are different.
if she is in a proper realtionship then i dont she the problem.
happy mylotting
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@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Very true, the situation does matter, you said you would support her, would there be a limit of how much support?
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
well..what does the normal grandma do? I mean I am guessing like during school tiem and stuff right?
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@binacheri14 (299)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I have a daughter who is 13 and another who is 4 1/2, while it is the last thing in the world I would want for either one of them, I would be there for them. When I asked for and had my children I became dedicated to being their mother for the rest of my life. What ever they do, if it's good or bad, I try to let them know that I will love them no matter what! I may not be able to get them out of trouble or "save" them but I can be here for them. I would hope that they would try to stay away from situations where this can happen to them, but life is life and things like this do happen. I would be very sad because I know how hard it is to be a parent at an early age. I would definatly push for her to finish school and not let life pass her by. Good luck.
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
very true, life is there, she needs to live it, experience it, and just enjoy it while she can.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
4 Dec 08
As a Christian, I know that abstinence is something that I am teaching my daughter to follow. Having said this, I know that everyone makes their own way in life and she could choose to make a mistake that would leave her in those circumstances. I love my daughter. I would be very disappointed. I would be a highly distressing situation and yet I would never stop loving her. I would support her financially (if she's under 18, I can assume she is still living at home). I am opposed to abortion and thus that would not be an option. I can't imagine wanting her to put the baby up for adoption but if she were extremely young (12-14) it would probably at least be considered. If she were older, we would help her raise her child until she was finished with schooling which would help her get out on her own. As far as the boy involved, it would really all depend on the situation and the actual boy. As far as the baby goes, I will love him!!
This hypothesizing is actually rather sad to me. I would really not choose this as the start of my child's adulthood. I want her to experience college and friendships before heading down a road that will forever change her life in such dramatic way.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I think it would all depend on the friends. What kind of influence they are. That sort of thing. If she has a rebellious attitude then no way! But I don't think she should be "punished" 24 hours a day 7 days a week! Everyone needs some sort of social outlet. But she would have to make her child her first responsibility. But if it were a different circumstance where she had a husband and waited to have a child till later in life, I would be willing to babysit so she could see friends. So I guess in this teen situation I should be willing to do that occasionally too. I think this would all depend on how good a parent she is. This is why I think that some really young girls should put the baby up for adoption. A child is just not capable of really being a good parent. It would be such a struggle and really not fair to the baby or the mommy.
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
would there be a limit? I mean of course I would support her too but would there be a limit of how much? What could she do, I mean could she still hang out with her friends or what?
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@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
very true, the girl should have a life, because you never know when you need an ally in this cruel and evil world. Llfe is dear and should be cherished. Good for you.
@caskins (689)
• United States
4 Dec 08
hello my fellow myLotter, i have five daughters. if one would end up pregnant as a teenager i would be very disappointed. i would offer support and help. limited of course. they would have to get a job, can't go out with friends anymore. no prom. they will be taking care of their baby theirself.
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@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
what sort of support? and i fully agree no prom!
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@nera831 (1)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
i got pregnant when i was 19. my parents know that i'm pregnant on decenber 31,2007
they were angry at me because i didn't told them earlier.....but few days later they help me how to care on my pregnancy stage and they both happy...
actually parents get angry at first but they will forgive after they saw their grandson/grand daughter
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
8 Dec 08
yea, i think maybe it is like one of those acceptance things, where life just has to go on. But then again I am not a parent so really can't vouch either way. thanks for the response.