He promised...

I think your last line said it all. In this life we have to be prepared for the unexpected. Because he owns his own business he has a huge priority and that's keeping the company floating. NOt only that but it's not like this is a venture he went in alone. He can't just leave his partners hanging. I know it hurts and I know he promised but sometimes we can't help but break our promises. I think he's told you about this so that you can be prepared for what may happen. This isn't to say that he's not coming but I think it's best if you prepared yourself for that 'possibility'. I'm sure he's just as hurt if not more than you are sympathize with him on that as well. Nothings more painful then having to know the person you love is in pain and all of it was caused by you and a situation you had no control over. Relax. It's a birthday you will have many more after this. I understand you want him there but maybe it's just not possible. That's the thing you have to understand with Long Distance relationships. This will happen and it's something you should get used to now so you don't get hurt many more times down the road. I was in a LDR for 4 years this happend many times. I learned to never expect things even if he promised. I took them as bonuses and if something came up I understood. Nothing was worse than having us both down and doing nothing about it. It puts a damper not only on the relationship but on your own lives. Buck up and cheer up be thankful your having a birthday and that you will have people you love there at your birthday. Just because he isn't there don't let it dampen the importance of all the other people who care about you as well. Like I said Understand where he's coming from. If I were you I'd ask him. "With the way work is going for you are you not going to be able to make it for my birthday. I just wanted to understand if this was a possibility or not so I could prepare myself. In the end though I Understand this job is your main priority. you have my support 100%." Those are the words he needs to hear regardless of if your mad or what not. He can't help this hun and neither can you so there's no need in getting upset over a situation neither one of you has control over right?

yeah dear u ryt "womans having that intuitions in there bone"........if he wont tell u that he is not cumin to celebrate ur birthday wid u due to hes that means he luvs u very much and he dont want to break ur hear...........and may b he is trying to come nd celebrate your birthday with you.......

[i]Hi kaliyha, I understand your situation and we women, tend to be emotional so it's hard not to be hurt....How about visiting him that day? so, you will be together even for lunch or dinner? and if ever it is not possible, then maybe his call will just make up his physical presence! Enjoy![/i]

It is so painful to be away from someone you love for so long. I know exactly what you are going thru. My boyfriend went back home 2 months ago, which is 950 miles away, he said he would try to be back in two weeks. I wasn't expecting this absence, so it makes it even harder. Could you go see your boyfriend since he can't come to see you? Do you think this would be acceptable? I can't go see mine because they have already gotten 20 inches of snow, and are supposed to get 60 more inches this month. It is so sad. I hope your boyfriend will come home to you!!! Good luck and Happy Birthday!

if i were in your shoes, i'd feel the same way.. i'm sure your bf feels upset too.. if he really can't come over to see you then why don't you give him a surprise visit before your birthday? i'm positive that he's longing for you.. sometimes, we need to adjust in order to make relationships work..

oh how sad. This is teh problem with long distance relationships. You wait and wait and wait, but at the last minute if some thign happens you feel really bad about it. Why don't yodo one thing. you go over. Wouldn't it be a good surprise for him? it willalso be achange for you. you can go if he is unable to come.

why wont you come to him instead of him cuming into you? that way you wont feel you being hurt bjy him. and you can consider it know him completely by going to where he comes from learning and checking what kind of person he really is

Hello kaliyha! Some promises are made to be broken, but who knows? He might surprise you by coming to your birthday and spend time with you. Do not think much about him, divert your attention to other things to keep yourself busy. It is a long distance relationship, time will tell whether your relationship will work out or not depending on how the two of you handled it.

You made me remember something when were just starting. Well I promise her that time that I'll be going to Manila to work. But suddenly my mind was changing and asking for an extension, we argued about this and she cried. I felt bad really bad about it. I should be working in Cebu then here in Manila but I think my love for her is great so I did not accept the job offer in Cebu anymore, I really went to Manila just to be near her, God made a way for both of us. I think you should talk to him then to expect nothing. Now it's up to you what will you do if he decides not to go. I know how my fiancee felt that time. My conscience was bothering me. Talk it out. Advance Happy birthday to you!

LDR takes a lot from a couple to make it work and the first of them is being understanding and also trusting. While he may be swamped with projects and you are feeling he probably can't make it, who knows if he is not planning to surprise you after all? I would say that until he actually tells you that he is not coming, just have a Plan B in case he can't make it, to go out and enjoy your birthday with a group of friends and do activities that when he do see the photos, he would wish he was there. Happy Birthday in advance

i felt the same way too, but were not islands apart..i hate when he made a promise and then wont do because of certain jobs needs to be finished or so...although we dont know what gonna happend on that day but why do they make any promises?hhhhmmmm.....sounds confusing.lol anyway i will just let him what he wants to be if he says he cant go because he has some more works to be done then i will let him be...

Hey there kaliyha, we have something in common I'm in a long distance relationship to my girlfriend is in manila and im in Cebu City, and the only thing that kept us each other (for its been 6 years now..)is that constant communication and the most important there is TRUST. We all know that long distance may had a conflict with each other, there's a lot of temptation comes a long everyday. Well in my case I kept myself busy with something, I'd formed a band that would kept my attention every day thinking someone there is someone loving and she's in manila. I dont make promises to her I just make things happen I suprised her a lot of times I even suprised her last year in her birthday I went to manila alone and that suprises everyone in her family.. Here in cebu I have friends and most of them are female and most of them knows that I have a long distance going on and nothing goes wrong. She is still the one in my mind and in my heart.. May be I know your boyfriend, cebu is not that kind of big you know I live in the city and people get along so fast... Well, keep in touch with your boyfriend and maybe your intuition is right or maybe it is wrong, just know your boyfriend by heart, how he feels then you'll come to trust him and if he does things you don't like just contact me and I'll beat him up here in cebu.. No just kidding...