Is Marriage Really Important, or it is just a piece of paper?
By chupangina
@chupangina (90)
Philippines
December 4, 2008 11:30pm CST
I've been through several relationships and none of them have lasted, on the average about two years of being steady. Until now I am still single at 40 years old. But you what? I think I am blessed because I realized that it was a blessing in disguise that I have not gotten married to any of my failed relationship because in our country and religion, it is more difficult to divorce or legally separate than to get married. Aside from this it is more expensive to legally separate. Now, I ask, is marriage really important, or it is just a piece of paper?
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32 responses
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
..well, i think you will only be able to realize the real value of marriage if you experience it specially when you have kids or when you are alone facing your problems.. However, marriage is not easy.. it takes wide understanding, long patience and undying love to make the marriage last long.. It's not happiness all the time.. Remember, we have our differences, weaknesses and strengths.. Actually, its the same when you are in a relationship.. you have to understand each other for the relationship to work out.. Marriage life is a very challenging but happy part of life.. However, as I've said, you'll never understand and realize the essence of marriage unless you'll experience it firsthand..
@bhag570 (109)
• India
5 Dec 08
I agree and I have the same opinion. Actually men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Both are different entities. But after marriage and with children, the life is simply different. If you are positive and starts enjoying with the right spirit of FAMILY, then its a heaven. or if you are negative and thinks why this and why that, the life will be miserable.
As an example story, a saint asked a married couple, what happens if the metal piece thrown out and it was raining ? then men said, it will rust the next day. woman said, it lays as it is or washed away by municipality.Then the saint asked, What happens, if you through out gold piece instead of metal? The man replies, gold will not rust and remains as it is. But women says, I am not a fool to through gold out side, even though I through, it will taken away by any passerby and will not be there by the next day for sure.
This shows, both have different onion, one is logical one is practical.Only understand and respect each others views then the marriage is a real heaven. basically respect each other.Ego is the enemy to marriage.
@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
For me, i don't think marriage is important because like you say, it is just a piece of paper. The most important thing is True Love.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Well I'v never been married before as of yet, and everyone has different feelings about marriage, I have mixed feelings about marriage, because a part of me thinks marriage is the right thing to do, and the other part feels like getting married is just a fancy ceremony and a piece of paper, and when it comes right down to it, getting married dosent garutee that the person your married to will treat you well, or wont cheat or leave you for someone else, but like most people I was raised to believe that marriage is the best thing for me, and any kids I might have, but part of me still thinks that marriage isn't for everyone some people are more suited for marriage then others, I do however, defiantly believe in monogamy and commitment, but everyone comes from different life styles and different up bringings and have different feelings on the subject of marriage, and I respect anyone who chooses to get married, and even though I have mixed feelings about marriage I'm still open to getting married once and I hope that if I choose to marry someday that it will last forever.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
I think marriage is really important as this bonds the couple into one. When you're married to someone, you are committed to be faithful, you are committed to fulfill you're obligations thus your relationship has a direction. Marriage make you feel comfortable living with your loved one, it makes you feel secure having a relationship to look up to. When somebody married you, you feel you're much valued and you can walk with your head up high. Marriage is sacred thus you take good care of it, so you're careful to do things that would affect it. To avoid getting separated just be sure of the person you're getting married to. You should marry the one you truly love, someone you are compatible with, someone who has manners, someone who respect and love you. Lastly he/she must be Godloving and Godfearing.
@kuzzon1960 (118)
• United States
6 Dec 08
to some that do not take marriage seriously, it is only a peice of paper. but if you truly,deep down in your heart, know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is your soul mate, then there is no question.marriage is a sacred act between two people that have VOWED to be there for one another through every adversity no matter what.so my suggestion to you is ,if you have never felt that way, then it is probably wise to stay single.no offense
@hitesh576 (41)
• India
6 Dec 08
marriage actually it is important one in every person life.we should not live alone in our life so somebody will there lifelong this relationship is comes by marriage.but with out marriage also we can live bit i ill be very boring life...and just for the romance some ppl will marry..
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
6 Dec 08
Marriage is a promise thats impossible to keep. Its not your fault that your marriages ended in divorce. A Marriage Promise is based on the assumption that all things remain the same, which on this plane is an impossibility. Everything on this earth is in a continual state of flux. The only constant is Change. Even the stones on the beach, washed up by the waves, are continually wearing down as they are tossed around by the water. Nothing can, or ever does, remain unchanging. However let me say," I've been married to the same woman for 53 years."
@galaxy999 (57)
• United States
6 Dec 08
It is just a piece of paper cause when you get married the person does not change. You will think that marriage would change people, but it does not. I know how it feels it is like that in my family but my mom broke out of the mold and im sure i will to.
@rrvillarosa (57)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
As catholic, once you choose to be in a marriage life, it is important for us the commitment that you will be going to promise. Do everything just to save and to have a strong foundation of marriage. It is a matter of choice, don't force one's self if the person is not ready for a lifetime commitment. Also, make sure that you are ready to whatever challenges that comes in the way. Marriage life is like a roller coaster. To test how strong is your relationship to one another. In the long run, marriage is important to those who has plan to get into marriage life.
@alyssakenzie (462)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I have never felt like marriage was that important but that is just me. After I had my first daughter people tried to push me into getting married but I felt that it wasn't the right thing for me. After we had our second daughter people really started wanting me to but still I didn't feel the need to. My youngest is now two and I still have no desire to be married. People have come to accept my choice they don't always agree but they have come to live with it. A lot of people would introduce me as though I was married and I was fine with that so there was no explaining to do. I really don't ever see myself getting legally married.
@ShortyAkbar (384)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I think it depends on the people in the relationship. There are some people who actually love each other and marriage is important to them. Then you have people that actually say that they're only married on paper and don't really care about the person that they're with.
@ledeenz (25)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
i am a single mom, before i told myself i should be wed before having a baby. its one of my simple wish during my teen age days. it is important for me that a certain relationship must be sealed by marriage before..but having a man that is not responsible--so why should i be tied up with him for the rest of my life..in my experience when i found out that the father of my child is having another affair..i decided, i rather not to pursue a married life with him even that i got pregnant. Marriage is still important-but make sure to vow with the man/girl that really wanted to spend life with you..."who love you truly" or else your marriage fails,,and correct its more expensive to file a legal separation...also what if you have children too, pitty for them.
@wanted123 (121)
• India
6 Dec 08
i am just saying my point of view ...Marriage is a bonding between a pair and marriage doesn't make any sense if it a piece of paper but sometimes it becomes ...love is only most imp factor of marriage if love is not there then it is a piece of paper and i think without marrying only most of the fun will be happening and after marriage usual family is having fight between each other so i think marriage is nothing but a piece of paper if the things happening are in this situation so the marriage only depends on love nothing else so make ur luv true and marry
@xavier_sh (222)
• Nepal
5 Dec 08
Every persomn have his/her view positive or negative in all matters. well about marriage i think marriage is one of the important part of our life. its not a piece ofpaper but holds a great valuse in our life. gettinmg married mean to have legal, spiritual, emotional relation with other person and it is a promise to live with each other sharing all the happiness nad sorrows. u'll have a partner to live a life who will never ever leave u alone if he/she really loves u. but there are many people who donot get married and is livng his life with full satisfaction. But nver think marriage as aagreemtn made in paper only.
@prinzess1515 (1341)
• United States
5 Dec 08
If all marriage means to you is a piece of paper then yes that is all it is but if you see it as a life long commitment then it is going to be important. To go in front of your friends and family and promise to be with that one person the rest of your life is a big deal and it should be a big deal. People get divorced left and right because marriage doesn't matter to them. People just don't take it seriously anymore.
@pmspratik (202)
• Nepal
5 Dec 08
Well, you should know that marriage is a bond and you should know that it is not just merely a piece of paper. God made us so that we could be in union with our partner. Thats why you see there are almost equal numbers of male and females in this world. Do you think all of this could just happen by a chance. Well marriage should never be takes lightly. If you think that a relationship is not going well you should marry that peron or try to improve your relationship before blindly marrying that person otherwise you might evnd up devirsing at the end. Devorsing is only permitted if a mate comits fornication non other. The world is cruel and you should not divoce a person just because he or sha has a bad breath or farts too much. Well all this just think wisely and you will have a good life. Be slow to anger, learn to forgive, choose your desteny wisely, be fast in listening and slow in speaking.
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
It is, marriage is important. It serves as a rope that bind two souls in one. Well marrying someone is not just like something that you want and after you are tired of using that, you can dump it. Marriage means alot. So it is really important. An aside from that, when you marry someone, ofcoures you take vows in front of God, therefore, God is witness of that vows and he will th blessed the two of you with your relationship as a couple.
In your case, maybe the reason of failed relationship is that, it's not yet your time to be with someone. God always have reasons for everything. Be patient! trust him. Happy mylotting.
@harlydudesn (16)
• United States
5 Dec 08
Hello,
Sorry for the unsuccessful relationships although I am sure you had some very good times. Those are good thoughts that you are blessed not to have entered a bad marriage, but who knows if all would have been failed marriages. Many times couples get married and the love grows even stronger. You seem to be the type of person who knows what to look for, but have not found it yet. Marriage is a leap of hope and faith. Sometimes people just take a chance which is not always a good way to go, hence many are divorced because of this. I believe GOD put us on the earth to be happy, people are the ones who screw it up. Marriage is a good thing and very sacred according to GOD. Our modern times require a certificate of marriage which satisfies the government, but also you are telling God this is the one you expect to live with the rest of your life. Sounds you have not found your soulmate yet. It will happen when you least expect it to.
