How To Approach An Attractive Girl?
@maverickwarrior (260)
India
December 5, 2008 12:15am CST
There is an attractive girl in my working place...
i saw her when she comes to canteen and we have locked eyes a few times..
sometimes she gives a weird look ..and i am not sure wheteher she is interested..
did anybody face such a situation...
i want to make her my friend ..but i dont know how to approach..
any ideas..plz help me...
5 responses
@anitajayakumar (1202)
• India
5 Dec 08
First prepare yourself by assessing your skills. How do you stack up when it comes to your dating abilities? [you can take the quiz referenced in the resources at the bottom of this page]. Just be honest with yourself, and ask yourself how do you stack up.
Step2
Next, get mentally ready. The reality is that there is nothing in the world that I or on anyone on this planet can teach you that will guarantee you that you will certainly get a yes from this girl. Not even Brad Pitt gets a yes from every single girl... Hence. Mentally prepare by finding it ok with yourself even if you get a "no". Just getting totally in tune with the fact that there are billions of women on the planet, and the statistical odds are... she's not your soulmate (no matter how much you think she is). So get completely in tune with the fact that it might not work out. But try anyway.
Step3
If you haven't actually approached a girl until this point, or very rarely approach women... I want you to first get comfortable approaching girls in general. This doesn't mean going around trying to get every girl in sight. Approaching simply means talking to girls of the same age and type that you are attracted to. If she (the girl you like) has friends... that's a great opportunity, befriend her friends. That way you will get both comfortable with attractive girls... and... at the same you will not need even need to *approach* her. It'll just "organically" happen as you're talking to her friends anyway. The idea here is that you're practicing your "talking to cute girls" skill, but if you do it with friends of hers, that's even better.
Step4
If you are comfortable approaching girls in general (step)... approach this girl with a very direct and honest approach. Tell her how it is. "Hey, you know... I've seen you around, and I thought to introduce myself... Hi, my name is". Chit chat a bit asking her questions about herself. Genuinely care about what she answers. Have the desire to learn what she is passionate and interested about. Once you chit-chat a bit. Ask her out by asking her to tag along with you to some place. It's that simple.
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@maverickwarrior (260)
• India
5 Dec 08
hey you made it look so simple...
i hope i am not beaten up today...i was also planning to approach her directly..
actually i had this conception that attractive girls reject you at your face if you approach them directly is that true?
@forcemaster245 (220)
• Singapore
5 Dec 08
ok try this...try to lock eyes with her again, and when she turns her head away, wait for a while. if she turns her head back within 45 seconds, it means she likes you, and you can now smile and approach her. got this from a book about getting the person you love. hope this is useful.
@maverickwarrior (260)
• India
5 Dec 08
Good idea yaar...
tell me what should i say...when i approach 4 the first time..
@forcemaster245 (220)
• Singapore
5 Dec 08
hmm...something simple like a 'hi' would be a good starter, and from there you can ask for her name and introduce yourself. you could even ask for her contact number if you want. remember, the most important thing is to remain calm and just talk to her naturally.
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Dec 08
be sure you look your best, walk confidantly and have something to say. If she is any kind of a person she will talk to you and you can see for yourself what type of person she is. Body language and eye contact will tell you if she likes you.
@infoeaglesforce (49)
• Nigeria
5 Dec 08
Just say it out, there is no crime if she say's she is not interested in you, that is a nomarl thing but is going to be dishearting if you do not ask her out at all and you let another person do that for you; so take action.
@sudhibus (134)
• Kuwait
5 Dec 08
To approach a girl you can use your legs or if you are a man without legs use your hands to walk.How simple it is.Is n't?
I was just kidding dear friend.To win the heart of a girl is to make friendship first.The best thing is go straight and ask her boldly that "would you mind making friendship with me". This shows your boldness. The very moment you will get the answer Yes or No. Ok
If you could n't do that try to get her e-mail id, mobile number.Send message.
See no girl will tell no for friendships unless they found ones character is worse.
Since you work in the same company its easy man...go ahead..Best wishes