im now HOPELESS!! do u think i must quit or end my life by myself?

hi! i'm daydreamer2... Don't ever quit in giving yourself and your parents with something special... Loving them more is already a gift to them. Hey you still have your life take it easy don't take it hopelessly... God has a reason in ll the things that happens to you and to your family... You're parents are growing old but the hope of having a job is still there ok? deal with it and make yourself a gift and that is being thankful with what you have and keep praying and do something, don't just stand there if the doors are close windows of opportunity will open for you. Just wait you'll see. happy mylotting!

Dude, I am gonna be frank with you. All of you should be a shame of yourself you are all adults and allowing your parents who are in their 50's to work and feed you all plus the grandchildren. It is really not fair to them after all they did their best for you all so now it should be all you who should be taking care of them. You and your brothers make those decisions on your own. As for being a homosexual person, man God condem such actions, men were made for women visa versa but not man for man nor woman for woman, the Bible clearly state that and I know God is not pleased with your decision, maybe that is why you are going through such bad luck. I am not here to condem you but to let you know that was not God intention for a healthy relationship. Think about it man. Anyway there is hope I believed that you should ask God to forgive you of your ignorant actions and ask for His devine direction and He will lead you to success. Also you can also do something for yourself. If you are good at doing something positive you can use that talent to do business for yourself and earn if you cannot get a job. That is the best way to earn some money. Have more confidence and self esteem for yourself, if you don't it will be a hinderance to your success. Pray my friend, trust me God will hear and answer your prayers and you will begin to see the difference just have faith and hope. Your parents will be eventually be proud of you. I will be praying for you. God bless you.

I hope that now, you would have told us a different story, that two years ago, your life has changed already - for the better of course. its just sad that everything turned out really bad for your family but it is not your parents' nor yours fault that your siblings married young. they should already have their own lives and your parents should force them to go and get a job themselves because they already have a family. your parents should be able to retire!

Don't lose hope, okay. Don't do something that will not do good like harming yourself. it's a big NO, NO. it's gonna be a big mistake. there's a saying, that a mistake cannot fix another mistake. do you think harming yourself will help your parents? Do you think that if you're gone, do their lives will change and become much better? i think, it's not. Why not just find more job (try and try until you succeed, AJA!), even those simple job even if you're just earning small amount, it can help rather than not having one. I know how you feel, coz i dont have a stable job also. i am not able to give or help my parents in terms of financial matters. but, with my little ways like helping in our household chores, etc, i still show them that i care. Maybe, it's not just the comfort of living where we can show our parents/ loved ones our love to them. but even through our simple deeds and simple actions that make them smile.

dont be sad and take the burden of responsibility just because you are the eldest

Well depression is common in this busy world..though its bitter fact. So dont take it emotional to heart and try to come out of the past. Please dont give up confidence. Do yoga, you will feel a great heal and confidence. God bless you friend! Things will be better soon, dont give up.

I think first of all you should get away from that enviorment and find a job, no matter how small it is, seems you want to feel sorry for yourself, that doesn't work any more, you need to get a job no matter how small and find a place to live on your own. Do you think you are a disappointment to your parents because you are gay, and the rest of your brother's have brought children into the world? And at the age of 16, what you see in your brother's is what they will be the rest of their lives. When you go to look for a job do you flaunt the fact that you are gay, I know it should not make a difference but some employers don't like that and don't want it put into their customer's face. Did you finish school? I don't understand your father that allows all this to go on in his house, what happens to all of them if something should happens that he can not go to work anymore. When you say something special, do you mean another child, out of wedlock, or the fact that you are gay, and that makes them ashamed. I don't quite understand what you are saying when you say black sheep. I never could do anything to please my mother, but I did not stay there and make us both merisible, I left and found a job, it was a small one to start, but I made it on my own, there has to be something out there that you cand do, even if it is cleaning offices, houses, digging ditches, McDonalds, some thing that will put money in your pocket, if you feel bad because you are not contributing to the family money, why should you support the brother's who don't work. You need to get up tomorrow and tell yourself that you are a person, that you matter in this world whether gay or straight, go out and come back with a job, we can not do anything by laying around and feeling sorry for ourselves. You have to take charge of your life, and make one for your self.It appears this family fell apart a long time ago. And you can not fix it so just go on and make something out of your life. You are a good person I bet and I think you feel that you're being gay is somehow wrong. And you are beating your self up for it. But only you can change your life and only you have to care about it enough to get up and do something to better it. There are a lot of people that still don't like people that are gay, as for me I don't believe in it, but if that is what you are, then it should not stop you from being anything you want to be, go back to school, learn something that will give you a good job, you have to do it do you understand that? It appears that you can not get any encouragement from your home. There was never any there apparently or you would not have 3 brother's at age 16 having babies and moving more people into your family home. I would be glad to be out of that envirement and move on and make that life, show my parents and everyone that I can be whatever I want to be, but like I said you have to care enough to want it, having a pity party will never get you anywhere. You are worth it, and only you can change it.

I had feelings like you, but they were opposite. During the times I graduated from high school, two community colleges, and an university, I had a hard time finding my identity and being only person who had multiple jobs the hardly last three months.I never had a major career to live, but I kept depending on my parents. Of all, both of my parents and my older brother have jobs, and I am the only one in the family who is still unemployed. Both of my parents and my brother graduated out of high school, but both my father and brother went to the military and hardly went to college. My mother graduated from an university, but she was three credit hours shy of getting a master's degree and now works as a social work supervisor. I'm 31 years old years old and I don't job and I am asexual. What I would mostly do is make an appointment with a guidance counselor or a life coach and seek help in finding ways to make my life enjoyable, and receive information for my career field interest for job seeking.

Hi gaylalou, Ending your own life is never the best thing to do. You cannot help the fact that you are homosexual and do not think any less of yourself because of it. You are as good as any other person and your lifestyle has nothing to do with it. You must first learn to respect yourself, then see if you can find a job. Someday you may be able to help your parents, but they are not old yet. Do not condemn yourself for mistakes that you have made in the past, you can't do anything about that now. I sincerely hope that things will work out right for you and your family, and please stop saying that you are hopeless because it just isn't true. Blessings.

First, don't give in or give up. Always keep trying. Things always seem to take a turn for the better just when you think there is no way out! Your being homosexual is not bad luck for anyone, including your parents. You are who you are. It does not change what you can do with your life or contribute. No matter what prejudiced people out there may say. You aren't obligated to give a life of luxury to your parents or anyone else. I find it commendable that you want to do so. But don't put that pressure on yourself. Just find a job, any job to get you through while you pursue something you really want to do. If you have extra, give it to your parents then if you would like. Everyone goes through hard times and many of us are living in hard economic times right now. No matter how helpless we feel, we need to find a way to persevere! Good luck to you!

always be positive in life . even if the unemployment index is high , company do need people who do really work , be positive and motivated , Thomas Edison got just few months of formal education still he did achive because he had right attitude . read good books and I strongly believe that you should read "You Can Win"

no matter what the circumstances, keep living. you might regret it.

Do not do anything to harm yourself. From what you say here you are a great person. You are the one thinking of how to help your parnets not your brothers and sister who should be thinking about it because it is their kids placing the burden. Keep your head up and keep trying to find a job all the while knowing you are doing the right thing becuase you are. We have no control on how others treat the people we love we only have control over our own life and actions. Have you discussed with your family how you feel? If your parents seem annoyed with you maybe it is because you have not taken time to open the road of communication. Just hang in there and don't give up. You will have your chance to prove how great you are.

Who sticks won. No one in the world is useless if only he tried. Never give up hope until you find the right things you could do. Parents are always the person who love you most, if anything happened to you, they would be the one who get most pain. No matter how worse the situation is, just don't give up your hope and you will succeed finally. Good luck!

You are only 24. That is not very old. The predicament your parents are in was brought on by themselves. They should have made your brothers go out on their own and provide for themselves and their families. If they were too young when they had children, that is their fault, not yours. You are taking on everybodys problems, when they ar not yours. The best thing for you to do is find out what you need to do to get a job. Do you need training? Try to find a job where they will train you. Do you need schooling? Get a loan and go back to school. Take control of your own life and then, later on when you are successful, you can help your parents. You are not responsible for their mistakes in taking in your brothers families. Good luck is not what you need. You need courage to get out there and find your place in life.

Hello gaylalou. You are not hopeless and you should not give up. I am sure that you will be able to find some job so long as you are persistent. Also I don't think that you are wrong being a homosexual if you feel happy for it. But it is true indeed that you take the responsibility to help your family trying to be a responsible son to your parents and your siblings. Light is always ahead so long as you move forward. Never give up and be full of hope, my dear friend. Good luck to you and take care.

You are being too hard on yourself. I too feel your pain ofnot having a job and I 29 with an 8 year old daughter. I have to thank my mother because she is working and she helps me with my daughter. Back to you...please do not think negative thoughts because they will get you nowhere. There is something out there for you. You can not sit around and feel bad about how things are going. Like they say there is someone elsewhere that is doing alot worser to you. All I want to say is please do not give up on yourself, it is not worth it. Just pray for things to get better, that is what my auunt tells me just put it in Gods hand and he will make a way and I believe that so much because like I said I too am unemployed and is having a hard time finding a job. A new year is coming in and things is going to get better. Please take care of yourself.

I can relate with you.. I am jobless too but the only deference is that I am not hopeless... Take this opportunity as a learning experience.. I have learnt a lot from bad experience.. Remember one thing.. The problem you are facing is not unique.. There are lakhs of people who are jobless... there are lakhs of people who were jobless and there are lakhs who will be jobless in the future... Trust me this is just a bad phase of life... I keep saying that good times follow bad times and I can be happy at this time becoz I know what will follow is good times.. Handle this bad phase with dignity and make sure you are good in heart even in bad times.. this will help you the best in these days.. Dont worry both of us will see the day of light soon...

don't quit or end your life coz LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL, just always SMILE and pray always!

I dont want you to ever give up, life is getting tougher right now, i want you to try harder, even if you can never live up to your parents expectations, you must be happy with your self! Make yourself feel like a winner, Try being optimistic towards others and yourself. Do not give up. Nothing comes easy!