why do women need pampering

I'm sorry, I'm not actually responding to your topic, I am drawing your attention to the response from thambit, which is a copy of part of response #2. I have reported him 10 times for this in the last hour since this is how he answers every discussion, and it's time somebody else had a turn. As for your problem, I can give you advice, from the ripe old age of 64 and with 4 ex-wives behind me, but you may not like it. Dump her and find a genuine woman, not a spoilt brat. Lash

You've been in a relationship for three years, and you think it odd that your girlfriend might be miffed when you don't talk to her for three days? Three years is a commitment. You two have invested in this relationship and it sounds like your girlfriend feels that you are just using her as a placeholder until someone better shows up. From what you describe, she might be right. I believe that you love her, but just loving her isn't enough to make her feel loved. There is a big difference between action and words. If you aren't willing to do the actions to show that you love her, then do you really love her? I am a bit skeptical about your description that you have to treat her as "fragile." I think your girlfriend wants to know through your deeds AND words that she's number one with you. It is understandable that you are busy with school. We all get caught up in things. But my question is, are you so caught up in the studies that you don't have time to take a shower, drink a soda, do something for yourself? If that is the case, then disregard the next sentence. If you do have time for any of those things, then you have time to ring her up and say "Look, (insert term of endearment), I'm really busy, but I wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you and I love you. I'll talk more as soon as I can. Bye." Trust me, that one little phone call will go a long way to making your girlfriend feel that she matters to you. If you can't call, send an e-mail, anything, but every day say or do some little thing that makes her feel you care about her. Or, if that's too much, then you need to think about whether you want a relationship with anyone right now.

You can't talk to her in 3 days?! Hey! Anyone who says they love someone shouldn't be gone in 3 days without the person missing the other, right? It's right for her to be hurt when you don't show up in three days?! I guess it would be okay if you did tell her that you'd be busy (and explain what you're going to be busy about) and please have the sensitivity to at least get a good 10minutes (the least) talk with her before the day is over. Three years! And yet you could do that?! How insensitive could you get!?

Three years is a long time to be in a relationship and not be close to the other person. You do not sound close to her at all. Have you talked about your schedule? I am not a fragile woman but I would be missing my partner if he did not contact me for 3 days. I would not be worried that he does not love me but I would be concerned that he might be in trouble unless I knew why there had been no contact. When he was away doing his studies I knew I would not see him during the week. We discussed it ahead of time. He was going for 6 months and I would only see him on the weekends when I drove up to spend time with him. I missed him but I knew the score. Have you talked this out with your girlfriend? Maybe she is a spoiled child and needs too much attention for someone like you but most women will want contact of at least an email or a phone call just to let them know you are ok and busy. If she writes to you and you ignore it then she might be concerned. Some girls are brought up to distrust men like that. Bye the way you do not 'handle' women. You either make them a friend and form a good partnership or you treat them like a doll you show your friends but that is the recipe for a failed marriage.

well u r right ,girls really need pampering ,i am in a relation for double a time u r in ,what i think is that there is no solution for this :) execpt of keep doing what u r doing and ,like if you say ,ok i will msg her doubl time or like that her demands will keep increasing as well ,so the solution is be patient she will adjust automatically ,but it will take time ,her expectations will lower down with a passage of time

A relationship, a real relationship, is work. When it's one that has been going on for three years, it's a lot more than just calling her up for a date once a week or so. You need to sit down, and find out from her what she expects of you. Then you need to decide if you can meet those expectations or not. Then you tell her what your expectations are of her and she decides if she can meet them or not. From this point, you two negotiate to try to find some middle ground. If middle ground can't be found then you both walk away. It really doesn't take much effort to make a quick phone call, or to send a quick message, to let her know you're thinking of her. After all, you are thinking of her each day, right? If after three years, she doesn't flitter into your thoughts on a daily basis then you don't love her and probably never will. And if you are thinking of her, well there is no reason in the world that you can't take the time to let her know that.

Don't worry, you will never understand her totally. None of us can understand everything that is going on inside our partner's minds. We just have to look for clues, sometimes. I'm sure she understands how important your studies are to you, maybe she just needs reassurance that she is important to you also, not just someone who is there when you have time for her. Make some time. I don't think it would take all that much time to give her a quick phone call once a day to let her know you are thinking of her. You must take a break from studying once in a while!

Well first of all I dont think all girls need pampering. At the same time not to hear even a word from your partner in 3 days would make most people wonder, male or female. Relationships take work, that is just a fact. I also find it kinda funny that your in this relationship for 3 years and can go without at least a call to let her know all is alright. You also wrote, "yet it could be that am very busy with studies". So was you busy with studies? Or was it as it was written IT COULD BE? Either way it isnt hard to pick up a phone and just say something like, Im in the middle of studying but was thinking of you. That would make anybodies day! If she is to needy for you that is another thing all together. If that is the case it might be better to break up and find someone more like you and that isnt needy like that. Good luck!