Being Single during the holidays?
By DoriLentrich
@DoriLentrich (1016)
United States
December 5, 2008 6:21pm CST
How do people feel about being single during the holidays? We all know being single on Valentine's isn't pleasant, but what about this almost two month long holiday season? Is it better or worse than being single during other times of the year?
5 responses
@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I think a lot of us feel the same way. Empty inside is a good way of putting it. Without that person that makes us feel whole, we do feel a bit empty. And the holidays seem to shine a bright shining light on that. I feel it more during New Year's than during Christmas. I think Christmas is more about family and those relationships, but New Year's with the traditional kiss, is more about our personal relationships.
@cienna (50)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
well, i had experience being single during the holidays many years back. i consider this season to be the most important event of the year so it was pretty lonely and of course depressing to be alone during these times. but, because my family and friends were around, i got through that lonely stage. thanks to them for being there always. :)
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@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
12 Dec 08
Family and friends do make the difference. Being single is a state where you have to rely on sources outside romance to give your life completeness. Romance can fill a lot of needs, but still, you need those friends and family to make a whole. That's not to say that you aren't "whole" without a romantic relationship, but it can be a lot harder to find the same satisfaction. I think most people long for the companionship of a romantic relationship, thus the feeling lonely when you don't have one. The holidays bring that lonliness out more because it is a time to celebrate our relationships. With family and friends it's a lot easier to make it through.
@gtdonna (1738)
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6 Dec 08
It is really no big deal for me, gives me time to go out there and help others, thus in a sense I take my gloom and doom self out and bring smiles to the face of needy kids and folks. I would honestly be single than to be in an unhappy relationship. It is just a passing moment - the holidays - thus, life goes on.
@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
10 Dec 08
You're right, it is but a passing moment. But life is made of those passing moments. And while dwelling on how the present sucks is no way to live, wanting to make it better can be a healthy outgrowth of the present suckiness. Sounds like you have a great way of funneling the energy into something productive. Helping others is often the best way to help ourselves. I applaud your generous spirit. And being single is a far better alternative than a bad relationship, but there are good relationships out there, so it isn't an either/or situation. Keep up your very wonderful work! It's always heartening to hear about people giving to their communities.
@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I dont like being single around the holidays. Its depressing seeing other couples happy n being able t ocelebrate together. Here you are lonely and watching them. I hate holiday time. But then I am happy to be single bc I don't have 2 deal with all the drama crap and jealiousy. So theres only 1 good thing about being single. But I deal with it!
@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
8 Dec 08
We all do. What choice do we have? You're right about the drama. And that's not a small plus. When you're in a relationship there is a lot of tug-of-war during the holidays. Being single you avoid all that. But, it sometimes feels like a small price to pay when compared with the lonliness of looking at mistletoe.
@pheonixstar1982 (2307)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Being single during this season doesn't bother, what upsets me is the fact I have no children of my own to celebrate with..no children of my own to buy gifts for, string pop corn with, decorate a tree with, take to see santa, and all that kind of stuff. But what i do have is a very spoiled niece who i try to do as much as possible with. In fact she is coming over tomorrow hopefully and we are going to decorate my tree.
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@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Children are a big part of the holiday. Their view of the world is so fresh and they make it so easy to believe in magic. It bothers me too, that I have no kids, but hopefully one day that will happen. In the meantime, it sounds like you've got a great little one to spend time with. Hope you and she had fun with the tree! :)
