disable/down syndrome person in family..

Hi Rexdoron!! I know very well how you feel about how the society treats people with special needs. I managed to be an advocate of special children because I graduated with a degree in Psychology so I've studied and understand these conditions. Besides, I also am a volunteer of a group here in our country that caters special children, providing them Big Brother and Sisters who takes care of them and love them unconditionally.. To have a special member in the family does not mean that you are cursed, instead he/she is a blessing to consider. Even though he may have special needs and to some they see this as a burden, don't contain yourself in this mentality.. This may be your purpose in life. To understand and love your brother despite his physical and mental disabilities so you will also be able to understand, accept, and love other people with the same condition.

It's very sad that some people feel this way they obviously are the ones missing out. My daughter has special needs and everyone who meets her loves her she can be a very sweet and caring person. We are having a very challenging time at the moment because of the impending holiday she;s so excited about it she has a hard time focusing. We also have a neighbor with down syndrome she just turned 30 this past summer and loves to come over to visit she's a very sweet lady and we enjoy her company immensely. She and my daughter are very much alike and like to play the same way they have a great time together.

I dont see disability or people with disability as a gift or as a curse and even less as a discusting or shameful. They are people above all they are just like everyone else except they might not look like everyone else or act like everyone esle and they might need special help and care. But dont we all. We are allowed to be different and thats fine but people feel that people with disability are too different. It would need a long time maybe it would never happen when people with disability are equal.

Well my own real life experience is that I have a 24 year old special kid termed as mentally retarded. My eldest sister thinks that it is a curse to me as I got married without my parents' permission. My late grandfather thought that I conceived him by making love when I had my menses. He went to a 'shamam' to cure my son. My parents thought that my son was inflicted by some kind of a disease. Scientifically he just lacks certain vitamins and minerals for his brain and nerves. He had high fever when he was a year old. To have him is a blessing in disguise. Although sometimes I lose my patient in taking care of him, it helps me to be more understanding of others.

Don't let anyone bring you or your brother down. I have a child with a disability and it is very challeging. people don't understand what ablessing they are in our lives. people tend to forget that all gods creature should be created equal upon judgment day they will hear all their falts and one of them is mis treating these beautiful (disabled) people that make our lives whole. Don't be discouraged my love and be your brothers support he will need it and appreciate it more than you will ever know. holla at me if you need a friend.

in my point of view they are special creation and they are gifted with many other qualities,GOD have created them to be loved

It's so sad that society can be so cruel about people with disabilities, just because they're "different" to most people they come across. I suppose it's human nature to be suspicious and mistrustful of things that we don't understand, and prejudice and discrimination come from this ignorance. I don't have anyone with Down's Syndrome in my family, but I hope that if I did, I would treat them like any other member of the family, try to help them with any prejudice that they encounter and attempt to educate people about Down's Syndrome so that they understand and can be more sympathetic and understanding. I know this is easier said than done, especially when I'm not actually in this situation. I with you good luck and hope that you can ignore peoples' prejudices. I'm sure that your brother has lots of great qualities that other people just don't see because they're blinded by their ignorance.

I have a nephew with down syndrome. I am not ashamed of him. He is three years old and goes to school. He seems to be a happy and loving child. I think people tend to feel ashamed of special people because they do not understand them, they just look at their differences. Don't minf what other people say or think, he is your brother, just give him the love that he rightfully deserves.

I have to say that I think that people with Downs-Syndrome are fun! The people that I have met with Downs-Syndrome are so outgoing and loving. I also have a really good friend who has a mild case of cerebral palsey. She lives a normal life and is not in a wheelchair, but she walks different than most of us. When we used to go to the mall (or wherever) when we were teenagers, people would just stare. I finally would say outloud "take a picture, it lasts longer." As stated in another response, people with disabilities are people too and should be looked at for their abilities, not their disabilities.

Honestly, you shouldn't care what other people think of your brother. Only your relationship with him counts. I don't think you need our approval for liking or disliking him. It is your choice. I don't think I'd hate my own brother unless his action forced me to. I certainly wouldn't hate him for his appearances. Obviously you have to be more patient with someone that has down syndrome. I'd probably be more inclined to forgive him if he did something bad to me.

i don't have any down syndrome person in my family but those people who say it a curse is a very bad thing.God does everything.If you have someone down syndrome in your family its the will of God so be Happy and thank ALlah for the other gifts.

Ah sweetie, it's sad that people feel that way. How do you feel about your brother? Do you love him? I like to think of downs people as being angels. I'm not a churchgoer of Christian or anything like that but I do believe there are angels out there. I like to think of them as 'Angels on Earth'. Ignore what others say. Disgust and shame is for the ignorant. Just love your brother for who he is. Just simply that "Your Brother". You will feel a whole lot better about him and yourself. Bless your heart