Need some help here!!!

Malaysia
December 5, 2008 8:04pm CST
Hello there my friends... well, i have a problem which i think i want some opinions from you guys before i decide anything on my own... well, here it goes... i love a girl for 1 year already... she's staying pretty far away from me which i can't visit her if i want to because i don't have the transport... we've been in love in very lovely mood... until her parents found out that i'm loving her... they took her phone away and she didn't sms or call me for past 6 months... imagine that... until September, her uncle bought her new phone... she sms and called me once in a while only even though she have phone ready... the problem is, she don't want to message me or call me... only after i sms her then she will reply... i'm confused because of this... then last week, it's been long time since i talk to her so i sms her on night... she reply me back interestingly... i ask her where she is... she said at the restaurant... and her parents is in the house... WHAT??? her parents is in the house and she didn't bothered to sms me... i'm very worried because of this situation and she's behaving like this... imagine that... it's been many times i cried for her because i miss her so badly... i hope you know how much the pain is if a guy cries... i understand that because of her parents, she's afraid to sms to me but when she's at the restaurant and her parents is in the house, can't she sms me during that time also? isn't that weird? so here's what i want from you guys... please give me some opinion on what should i do this next... i asked my friends and all them saying that breaking off with her is the only choice... is there any other way to solve this problem? i'm seriously hurt because of thinking about this very often... any suggestions, my friends??? thank you for sharing your opinions... really appreciated...
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maygodblessu44
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
6 Dec 08
Hello my friend kumaresan Ji, To start with in very frankly, I want to know about your feeling beyond your friendship/loving. What is your ultimate gameplan. If you ever think of getting married and I think, you might have under-estimated her, the proof lies with you, that she was in restaurents and her parents at home, and did not SS, because She never prefered to meet you, so I think, it i sone sided love. Never mind, I think, you should meet once in person and disclose everything about your feelings, and be prepared for refusal, with full determination that you would not react to her, never harm her, nor your self. After knowing her ideas, you can meet her parents. But one thing is not cleared, you told initially that She lives far away, how then restaurent comesin between. May God bless you and have a great time.
Kumaresan
@Kumaresan (450)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
hello there... well, why people do love? just for fun or passing time?? (even though some people think like that) of course not... i love her and also i want to marry her... that's my ultimate gameplan you've asked... the second one is we both love each other so there's no one sided love... finally you asked me how the restaurant comes in between... well, she lives in a town where all the facilities such as hospital, resaturants, pub, market, shopping malls and many more located... so she went there to take dinner and at the same time happens to be that i sms her... then story continues as of my first post up there...
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maygodblessu44
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
26 Dec 08
Hello my friend kumaresan Ji, I am vey happy that you have cleared your all points and at this stage, why both of you either approach for blessings from your parents individuaslly or together to get Ok, untill some have reservaionbecause of multi-factor like religion/cast/likings etc. I am talking from bottom of my heart, where I declined under similar situation even against the will of my hubby for our younger son, who later on married with his liking partner, our condition was that tehy would never get seperated,whatever may be the conditio,as we ar married since 40 yrs. Nowfirst approach your parents and then disclose to your friend. ay Godbless you and have a great time.
teguhys
@teguhys (40)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 08
I think the time has come to take your decision agains these girls because this concerns the life of you. We can not live with the uncertainties Damon uncertainty that will make us more worried and perturbed can damage us. Many still that we should not issue because of uncertainty later we stop and creativity is not good for us. Make decision soon to continue what it does not end the relationship or marriage to pursue or not at all. We hope to find true love..