I hate painting walls, fuirniture, etc.
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40192)
Canada
December 6, 2008 9:13pm CST
Today my husband decided to paint the base undercoat on the rails to put on the walls besides the inside steps. Now I did do some painting of woodwork in the basement, it was oil based paint like this was going to be, and I got this splitting headache. Now my husband thinks I am making it up, but I was literally sick. So he was complaining all the time that I should have painted the base undercoat, but I told him that only way was if I was outside, there was plenty of air around, and of course it being minus six F. not a good idea since I have a cold already.
So should I go and put the regular paint on the railing even though I will get sick and have this horrible headache from the fumes?
I am thinking of my mother who probably told my dad, that she was sick (she did of stomach cancer) and he thought she was faking until the end.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
9 Dec 08
I am allergic to the fumes. I remember when I had to paint my old computer desk (back in the Trs 80 computer days when we first moved to our house( I had a splitting headache. Have not had a stroke. Look I just got over a fear that I might have had br*st cancer (did not) and I have borderline diabetes, now you want to scare me with the 'you might get a stroke?"
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@ronacruz2007 (650)
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
hey that is very truth you could have headche in painting wood since you are using oil based or enamel paints. it is very smelly because of the volatility of its content. And i guess being in the basement adds up to this because there s less air. You should have done the base undercoat. Next time you do the paint as much as possible ventilate it. or have some vinegar in a cup and just put it in the place you are working on , it absorbs the smells. 
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
10 Dec 08
When I painted the computer desk in the basement those number of years, I did put on the undercoat. So if I did that, how come it still had the fumes? Does putting an undercoat magically make the paint over it not have any fumes?
And the reason I could not smell anything when my husband put on the undercoat on the banister for the steps was because I have this horrible cold.
@ronacruz2007 (650)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
when you put a smelly undercoat then you top in on with a less odour paint or no odour at all you will not smell the undercoat thats a fact because it was alreadu covered.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I don't think you should paint if the fumes make you sick. Do you have a mask or something you could wear so you could still help out? It's too bad he's wanting to do this in the winter, otherwise you could open up the windows...
I don't mind painting walls, but the trim and furniture - NO WAY!!!
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
We do have some painting masks. At least, I hope we still have some yet. Our sons were cleaning out the basement and using them. I will have to look at see. I do not want to get sick from the fumes.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
9 Dec 08
No you did the right thing..Fumes from paint can be dangerous especailly for some more than others...Its really not worth it for you to make yourself sick...I am sure youe headache was from those fumes..Men don't always understand ,so we just have to do what we can to take care of ourselves..
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
7 Dec 08
Hey friend, how are you? Well the best thing I would imagine is to get a face mask & possibly opening the window for the fumes. I KNOW it's very cold out, plus if it really needs to be painting I think your health comes first. So you can have the windows open for like an hour or so. Is your dad old? Is he able to help you? If so perhaps you could both do it. If you don't want to do it anymore you could always hire a professional.
Pablo
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
My husband is younger but he had a stroke and he has arthritis. I may have to put the railings up, but I even dread that since he is not good at making one feel good when giving directions. That is part of the reason I would like him to put up the railing, I do not want to make a mistake.
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
8 Dec 08
Oh I see, well perhaps you can help each other while you both are working on the panting then. Cheers!
Pablo
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
9 Dec 08
Not a good idea to paint outside, not just because you have a cold, but because the
paint won't dry properly and it will bubble because of the cold.
I love to paint and it doesn't afect me the way it does you, so that probably helps in
my loving it. If it gave me headaches like you, I wouldn't be doing it. But since it
doesn't and since I love to paint, I do it.
Sorry to hear about your mom and sorry you're dad didn't believe her. Men are funny that
way. Maybe he didn't believer her because he didn't want to believe it was happening and
he thought if he didn't believe then she wasn't sick.
Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend,
Have a good mylotting day, 
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
8 Dec 08
I don't like painting walls very much. My wife and I usually end up arguing because she says that I am careless since a drop of paint goes on the floor. I argue that she must be there to support me to clean where there is a mess. So painting is one of those occasions where we have a trivial argument or two.
© ronaldinu 2008
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
8 Dec 08
Hello suspenseful. I think that it is better not to paint walls and furniture if you don't feel like doing so, especially when you have got a cold and the weather is so cold. You could consider doing it later when you get well from the cold. In fact, if I were asked to do something out of my willingness, I won't feel happy, either. Talk about this with your husband, and maybe he will change his mind on it. Good luck and keep warm, friend.
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
I like painting. It is one form of art I enjoy doing. If given a chance, I would like to paint and design our walls, furniture, and everything that needs color and life. I will be proud if I accomplish it.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
7 Dec 08
[b]Suspenseful,
I wonder why I sometimes get the idea that eventually we'll all read a post from you that tells us about how you took a dough rolling pin to your hubby's noggin? 
Just kidding, but maybe he could use some meds or something. Sometimes older folks become mule-headed or grumpy for medical reasons. Wouldn't hurt to check it out....
Maggiepie[/b]
Just kidding, but maybe he could use some meds or something. Sometimes older folks become mule-headed or grumpy for medical reasons. Wouldn't hurt to check it out....
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@saichandtalluri (1486)
• India
7 Dec 08
I also hate painting walls because just think buying a new one is better that paninting a old because it costs exacitly half of the amount for painting that buying a new one so prefer to buy a new one than getting the old one painted
@kushal25019 (6)
• India
7 Dec 08
hey i understand this is critical situation when man don't understand ,hope all the things will be okye.just be calm. i can jus suggest you that make him too love you and clear your thoughts by talking with him very calmly because understanding and feelings are the main important things in relationship.all the best and best wishes for your future.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
7 Dec 08
That sounds like a man for you..now if they are sick it is a total different story. Well some men anyhow the onnes I know.Can't lump them all on there since some are different. I feel in my opinion that if you feel that if you feel that it makes you ill that you shouldn't do it. You have to listen to your body and your feelings,others can't tell how you feel so they can't judge how it makes you feel. I would be like you if it made me have headaches and all I woudln't either and your already sick so why make it worse. I agree with you and think you shouldn't do it.
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
7 Dec 08
If it is going to make you sick then you should not do it. If your husband does not believe you that it makes you sick then that is on him. Paint fumes can get really bad in a room that is not ventilated well. The only other suggestion I would have if you really did want to paint it would be to get one of those painters masks that goes over your nose and mouth. It will help keep the fumes out.
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