What do you do when the person you love most is cheating on you?

Hy laydee..hope u feeling better now well..i think most people go through such a phase and i would say it ...after all these..it makes us more human n strong.I went throgh something like u tho in a differnt way where he was constantly chating n talkin to a gal nite n day for months...i gave ourselves a chance but it never was the same....we then broke up ..it hurts but no one has the right to hurt us so much so try to move on with life.. i wish you make the right decision

It happened to me before. I broke up with him. No explanations required.

Question. How do you know he was in contact with this person? Did he tell you? If so, then you can ask about her. But if you found out any other way, then this is a real bad sign.You may never know for sure but that you suspect him cheating is bad. I am sorry but if you feel you can't trust him , then you should part. You deserve to be with someone who can be completely honest with you.Take Care.

Confront them. It's what I did when I discovered in a relationship I've previously mentioned in one of your discussions that he was messing around with my best friend of the time (who had ended up running to me in tears over it, and this event also ended up convincing her that she was bad for my life...which really wasn't the case, because she was truly remorseful over it and I'll always adore her..but I'm afraid I haven't spoken to her in years -- because she's refused to talk to me since)...I confronted him. He only denied it once. After that...I gave him a couple weeks to try to prove to me that he really cared enough about me. He groveled, begged, drew me pictures, gave me flowers, cried, and kept talking about how stupid he was. We were young, so I forgave him. Telling him that that had been one strike on his balance. You see, I have this rule: three strikes and I remove you from my life. This rule applies to everyone I meet. "Strikes" are only major events that have major repercussions on my life. I can put up with and deal with all other things than that, I put up with alot, in reflecting on some of the reationships in my life...but once you have three strikes, that's it. I'm pleased to tell you that he in fact did not cheat on me again, that boy will probably always really love me and I will always have a place in my heart for my love of him, and this issue was not the reason we're no longer together. Still, it's always...it's like a slap in the face, really. When it happens.

thats the hardest thing to go through. to know that the person you love doesnt quite feel the same. ive been there time and time again and its something everyone deals with differently. i myself have given someone a chance time and time again and its just not worth it to continue to put your self through that. i cant tell you to follow your heart cause im sure at this point your heart and your mind are telling you different things. Best thing for you to do is talk to him and tell him how you feel. people can change but it takes determination to stop somethign like that..something a lot of people donmt have. decide in your heart the pros and cons and decide from there..where you should go..if you stay would you be able to trust? if you are like me..it would always be in the back of your mind and you would always wonder if he was still doing it or not.. something you just cant control. but its within you..the answer that is.

It's a tough question and situation! Have you talked to him about this? Try to talk to him first before making any decisions.. Good luck and Godspeed....

I would first break things off with him and then work on dealing with the pain and move on. I would confront him about it first tell him how it feels and ask him point blank what has been going on and who he would rather be with. It is better to know the truth than live a lie.

Hurts bad dont it? I think that unless someone has experienced this they can not know what it truly feels like. Whats that saying? seek and thou shalt find, I did the exact same and boy did I ever find out and it hurts and hurts. As to what you do, well that can only be your decision, I have stayed and stayed, nothing changes but well I made my decision. I hope that things get sorted out for you and that the pain lessens over time.

I will try to know the whole truth.Even the truth sometimes hurt.It still depends on how you feel after being cheated.If you feel you can still have him back or make him choose,be ready for the consequence.Or if you are ever willing to forgive him.It always depends on you.But for me,if he chooses not to stop after I have proven he's cheating on me then that is the end of our relationship.I can forgive him once and that is enough,for me.Do you think you can still forgive?

that really hurts, i know what will i do with the guy, maybe i will kick him or fight him, or i will not talked to him and let him discover what makes me mad so that he will find ways and learned his mistakes in the end... happy posting

uff..that was awful Laydee, im sorry to hear that..well in that case, i hope u can be strong to cut the crap of him, unless he's willing to stop cheating on u n move on seriously with u both relationship..sure, he has to give u an explanation bout the girl n ask if u both will continue the relationship again or not.. i'd be so hurt if i were u, n i'll be very hard to forgive him..coz its not just cheating, they're already talked intimately.. so wat u gonna do with it Laydee ?

For the time being, there is nothing to be done. You have not received any explanation from him. You are just creating reasons for the picture you found on his email. Maybe before you opened his email address you already suspected to find something that would explain his absence. I wonder how you will start the conversation demanding an explanation from him since you popped into his email address without his notice I think you might find that he is not cheating and he has a very good explanation for the picture. The issue will still come back on how you will ask him about it and the question will be do you trust him?, and if he was to give a satisfying answer would you accept it and be contented?

this is what you should do. if you are not married, good, don't get married.you said he is far away? well , a long distance relationship very seldom works. you should have a serious conversation with him. do not yell or scream. but calmly ask him first, if he loves you. then tell him , calmly, what you found and ask him if he does love you so much, why is he fooling around with another woman. if he can't give you a straight answer and ho hums around, as hard as it is, you should get rid of him.someone that cannot stay true before you get married, will not be true afterwards.

It is not good to open and see other emails but i want to know whether you meet her everyday, everytime u spend time with her, if you love u most need to be with her care her and then you can know her very closely. i dont want to say more just follow and see if you love her truly

I think he has just been naughty , probably getting some cyber wink wink but i do think it is dishonest for not sharing this with you. I would talk to him about it. and see what would he say, or probably he isnt getting enough in real life. :P

Hi friend,That situation is a real torture.We love a person much and if keeps cheating then he is not worth for us to continue.But we dont realise and keep clinging on to the person.But think that he is not fit,and when we feel that a person is cheating, our love for them would certainly fade.Our love increases only for a perfect person and not a cheater.So it is better to forget the person and lead your life happily.Dont sit and broom for this situation,instead change your mind ,keep it occupied with something else and lead a happy life. thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.

I'm confused? Are you and him dating? It just seems like you were together at some point and you guys broke up and now you're snooping to find out what he's up to now.

I think it is important for me to define what is cheating in my relationship. If someone I loved was cheating on me, I would first confront the person and ask why? If she is genuinely sorry, then I might give her a second chance as long as the act she committed was not unbearable.

I really felt so sad about that. But if that happens to me, ofcoures I will feel so disappointed. Knowing that I really love him. I believe that if you love someone, you will not do such thing that can hurt the one that you love.

im a jealous girl.. thats y when a guy cheating on me i will react fastly.. i will makgoing to quarell him or the gir land knowong all the truth.. but even i know the truth i still love him..