What if your child is not actually going to school?

In some ways it does depend on how old your nephew is. Also where he is getting the money from to play these games, as I suspect that he is not doing it at home but rather in a public venue. Plus I am very sure that it would not be cheap for him to be at college when you take into account the fees, uniforms and books etc which all have to be paid for. I expect that his parents are the ones who are paying for all these expenses so his behaviour is totally irresponsible. The phone call from the college would have been very worrying all the same and I hope it did not take too long for your nephew to be found. Also that when he was located that one of the aduts had a strong talk to him about his behaviour and the wory he had caused. Did he think about what could have happened to him? What if he had been in an accident or something like that and nobody knew who he was? Or if he was needed in a family emergency and could not be found where he was supposed to be? This young man needs to learn to be responsible. To attend classes when he is supposed to and practice some discipline as welkl as doing the best he can with his course. There will be enough time for his hobby of "gaming" when he has finished his edcation. Thankfully we did not have this problem with my daughters when they were at school anyway. But we also lived in a smallish town and everyone was very diligent about seeing school children down the street during school hours. If they were seen then 99% of the time someone would inform the school as well as the parents and the police. Not too many wagged school there, without a very good reason and if they did, they did not go down the street to the shopping area. Good luck and I hope that our nephew has learnt a lesson.

this may be a dilemma that some parents are faced these days. i may not be a parent myself, but i have observed lots of this things as well. my brother is just like ur nephew. its difficult to resist because our world these days revolve around the usefulness of computers and yeah the bad and ill effects it gives to the people esp. the young ones. however, aside from being a gamer, it may indicate as well that he has some trouble in school like his peers or troubles with the teacher or has no motivation in studying so they try to forget their problems by doing what they enjoy most like the computers. it may help to get his parents involved as well as the teacher as well and guidance counselor. talk the problem together with ur nephew and ask what the problem is, how it started and why then perhaps one can recommend a possible solution to that problem.

That is something I can hardly accept. The child deserves to learn a lesson from this experience. This should not be taken only for granted. I value education. I value how it can change ones life and how it is vital on life. Happy posting.

how old is he cos that will be how we look to deal with the situation. if he is in junior school around or under 10-11 years old, then this is serious cos chances are if he got the guts to skip school, chances are he will has no respect for school authority and also a fearless kid. You may need to be tough on him and stern punishment is needed for him to feel the pain and not do it again. talking to him nicely would not work. If he is in high school or at least 13 years old, then i suggest, talking to him like an adult and understand his problems and reason for doing so. he may have lost interest in studies and may be interested in other things so u need to have a good talk with him and plan out his future

well that is tough situation! i mean u have to convince the child that is good for being a student and htt he can play games when ever hhe wants try to give him gaves a lil so taht he can play without skippin skool! that way he might also study! or make it a reward thing i mean stdy adn then play! happy lottin n have a nice day

you know what? you can misses classes on highschool or elementary sometimes to play on some games or go somewhere...but during college its the year of concentration, he should think how much money to spent on college just to have his own degree.I hope my kids will not do the same bcoz ill be pissed off! hmp!

well obviously college is very important, and if he's living under ur roof then u should set some ground rules like if he doesn't go to college then he has to get a job to pay rent or move out. also, ask for his transcripts so u can verify he does still attend. but if he's living on his own, there really isn't anything u can do after all he's considered an adult.

[i]Hi iza, That will alarm me considering it's not cheap to send anyone in school this time and for a college person, that will disappoint me since I will be expecting him to be more responsible! So, I guess you need to close monitor his attendance at school and if ever he will do it again maybe he needs to just drop his subjects and find a job, in that way, he will learn how difficult life is....[/i]

I think this is a bad habit that skip from the class. But i am also a student before who always going to cyber cafe for playing games(DOTA) after cause by my friend. But playing games not actually is a bad habit,it can bring us some benefits if we can control the time we playing. So i suggest,let your nephew play that, but control the time his play.Also can always talking with him to know about his friend,this can let us know that what types of friend he make.Sorry because of poor english ^^

College sets you up for the rest of your life and you can't be missing classes.