I sure he was cheating... What Do You Think????

Hi bestest friend~Oh honey I'm so sorry! You do know that you can sue his azz off now! You can turn it all around now! He was the one cheating on you! So this is all a different game. I don't want to talk to you about it here. If you want to talk to me I sent you my email addy in my last letter to you. I'm going to write to you in private. I can't believe that he was the one cheating all that time and accusing you! That really sucks! He was verbally abusing you and all along he was the cheater! You got yourself a case! I'm going to make sure that you stay strong because you are a good person and he is a piece of sh!t and was all along! Give me a little time, and I will be sending you an email to your regular addy. Will talk to you in a bit!

It sure sounds like it. Usually after a breakup neither party will have a relationship close enough to move in with, so in telling his son that "he and his girlfriend had to move" is pretty telling....they have been having an affair for some time. Also his telling to you leave and "I'm not gonna take care of someone who is not happy with me." already has someone else who is happy with him. He's wrong about the house not yours anymore. It's just a scare tactic. In most states, if your name is also on the deed and/or mortgage, you own half. Now is the time to hire a lawyer in order to protect your rights, your children's rights, and see to that he pays child support. Good luck, milady.

Often people who make big accusations are the ones who are guilty. Stay out of that place it is not a good scene. Do you have a place to stay, or a way to pay for it? Will you be okay? I hope so. You have just been handed a brand new life.

I would say that he probably had this girl on the side for a while now. For one thing, you were unhappy and for a reason I'm sure. Somewhere you sensed things were not right between the two of you. For being in a relationship for 15 yrs, it does not seem that he put up much of a fight to stop you from leaving at all. I'm sure it hurts...been there. Still, you are much better off without someone like this. Did he sell the house? If so, you are entitled to half of it.

It looks pretty suspicious to me. You normally don't find a new girlfriend that fast...especially when you wife has just left you and you have a kid. Not exactly a babe magnet in a situation like that. Did you and your ex own the house? If so you should be entitled to something...if he manages to sell it in this economy.

yeah he cheats. sorry! but then again you can't beat yourself with that type of guy. he's not worth it. and you my dear deserve someone better.

[i]Hi walkthetalk, for that short span of time, I guess he is really having a relationship long before...Anyway, it's painful but at least you're out from that life! I have a friend who has a husband like that, who accuse and very suspicious and my friend found out that he has communicating a girl, Anyway, I know it's not easy and it's sad but just be strong![/i]

hes a cheater

Obviously he was cheating.Oh man,fifteen years is a really long time.I hope you can though it.

That simple! Fifteen year old relationship finished in five minutes. Great! What a way to go! ha ha ha. Good riddance to a lousy relationship. But tell me honestly. as it a spur of the moment decision on your part to tell him that that yo were no longer happy or was it building up? You have not clarified if you did have a boyfriend. Since your husband had been accusing you of cheating, was it true? You probably did not know about his girlfriend, but he did know about your boyfriend isn't it? Both of you were cheating each other? You probably openly and he silently or discretely. he came out in the open after you left I presume. if both of you had a boy friend/girlfriend,what is the big deal? You should have continued with the marriage of conveneience. ha ha ha. Sorry i don't mean to be mean or to laugh at you, but I feel that you are mad not because he asked you to get out, but because he had a girlfriend about whom you did not know. if you had known about her, would it have made a difference?

yeah thats kinda harsh. especially since you two just split up. thats crazy. but he was probably doing it all along or so it seems

Of course he was cheating on you! Nobody meet a woman that fast! He didn't stoped you! He was just encouraging you to divorce! If he loved you an if he wasn't cheating he wouldn't do such thing! Reading this just made me feel very angry!!

Sorry to say it but yeah it definently sounds like this had been going on for awhile. People don't just move in together over night. Just from what you said about him Honey you can do better. Men like that are a dime a dozen it's the good ones that are hard to find. Good luck with everything and keep your head held high. His karma will catch up with him.

You're better off out of the picture. If you weren't happy no point in staying. Smart move to go. Don't ponder on anything he's doing now or has done in the past it will only make you bitter and bitterness gives you wrinkles. Try to make a new life for yourself and be happy you got out before you killed each other. It has been said that endings can bring new beginnings. Look at this as a new beginning. Be happy.

It appears to me that he was cheating. I would fight him on every little thing just to make this more miserable for him. I would fight him for the house, spousal support, the whole nine. Not forever but just long enough to make him squirm.

omg of course you are right, I hope your lawyer got you what your enititled too

Oh honey he was cheating and big time. I am so sorry. But now is not the time for grief, later will do fine for mourning. Now is the time to gear up for battle. Do not let this man define you or diminish you. You know what they say; Lay down with dogs you get fleas. So get yourself a good flea collar and a good lawyer and prepare for a fight. The house, his retirement funds, child support, in most states two years of spousal support, community property split down the middle. Do not let him walk away from this with his all intact. That is simply wrong.

I think you are very grieve at him.If he has a new girlfriend it means the true love between you and him has die away.So i hope you build up your confidence to find a new life.Here I want to remind you,the house you lived 15 years is also belong to you.You can hire a lawyer to help you taking back the your possessions.

This man clearly did not respect or love you. He has been accusing you for years of cheating and at the same time he was cheating as well. You know there is an old saying that if you are guilty of something then you will think that another person is doing what you are doing. He has been cheating on you for years and because he was doing it he figures that you might be doing the same thing too. I myself faced that situation from time to time with my husband and I could not take it anymore so I told him I want a divorce since he think that I am cheating and if he cannot trust his wife then we will have to move on, he finally realize that he was the one cheating and not me and so he thought I was doing it too. After 14 years I told him to end that relationship because we have 3 children together and inspite of everything we loved each other. I gave him an ultimatum, who is more important your wife and children or just some flusie that is not worth breaking up your family for. He had to make a choice or it was divorce court for him. I am sorry that your husband hurt you in that way, don't let it get you down, you still have life and you are beautiful. Trust me someday your prince charm will come and sweep you right off your feet, that prince charm will see your worth and love and cherish you for it. Good luck and ask for God's guidance.

I think he's already cheating while you're leaving together. But i feel sad whenever i heard couples separating. :-(