Am I wrong?!

She needs time to ajust and learn we dont give birth and become super parents. i remember before I had my son I used to think 100 diapers will last me few months (how would I know). I didnt caount on not having enough milk and using formula and added cost to it. I belived I would brestfeed him until he started school :))))) I didnt think of nappy rash and all that. I belived a shampoo and baby powder and some bottom cream will be all I need. At the ends my son costed me 3 times what I got from social security a month. My husband was in the army so lucky my parents and sister and in laws were able to help me. Let her learn and she will dont judge her or be too hard on her I am sure she will learn (it took me 1 week to realise that babies need a lot more than what pregnancy books tell us). Now pregnant with baby No 2 I know what I need and I am slowly starting to get those things because I learned from my mistakes.

I am not going to say that you are right or wrong. What I will say is this. Having a baby doesn't always make an instant "Everything is all about my baby" mentality. If she is young, chances are good that what she feels right now is that for 9 months it has been about doing what is right for the baby and now she would like to do a little something for herself. This is normal, it may not be right, it may not be what you would have done, but it is normal. Without knowing your room mate other then what you have in this post, is it possible that she bought the printer to use with the computer to start a new job, print out a resume or maybe baby announcements. The phone, obviously something that is needed, though I am not sure if it is a cell phone or a house phone. Maybe her ultimate plan is to make herself self sufficient so that she can take care of her new baby. I am a mother of two, and one on the way at any moment. Did I make sacrifices? Yes, the world revolved around my children. It still does for the most part. But that is me, that isn't every mother I know. Would I like to see them more focused on thier kids? Yes. Have I said something to them about it? Hell yes. But in the end it is not my life. I help out the best that I can because that is who I am, I have had thier children call me mom and tell me that they wish I was thier mom. To which I smile and tell them that they have a mom, and she is doing the best she can. With your roommate being so young, and this being her first child I say give her some time. She might be trying to make her situation better for herself and her little girl without you realizing it. Don't act like her mom, be her friend.

Your children should always come first, she nneds someone good and caring to tell her that. Perhaps she brought things for your children as a way of saying thank you for all your help?

Hi Keasling..i dont think ure wrong at all, coz if i were u i would have told her the same. coz a good mom will always think bout her child's needs more than her own needs..n specially she doesnt have an extra money, so she have to be smart using his last money for sth useful.. but hm..wat was the printer for ? can she earn money with it ? if she can, then its not useful at all coz that's how she will earn money for living..

Wow, what a selfish roomie!!!!! Just wait until she is down to her last diaper and realizes she has no more diapers and NO money to go buy more. You can remind her that tee shirts, specifically, HER tee shirts can make good cloth diapers until she can afford regular ones...that'll make her cringe and go running the other ways and maybe even reinforce the importance of putting her child FIRST and not last. How is she even paying rent?

I don't think that you're wrong, but I think you are wrong for talking about her. By the way where is the Father of the child; if he is deceased (excuse me) if he is not deceased why isn't he supporting her and the child? If not she should pursue a child support case.

I think she should think of herself and her kid. otherwise it will be hard to provide for her. I guess no longer others will pay her. so it is her duty to think of future.

OH! Sheesh! They will let anyone have a baby! lol! Even that 100 dollars isn't enough for all the stuff she is going to need for a newborn! I can't believe anyone would spend the money on anything other than their OWN baby! seriously! You are far from being wrong! apparently she is going to have to find out the hard way (and drag you in too) when the baby needs diapers or diaper rash medication or the million other little things that babies need. I hope that you don't end up footing the bill for her ignorance! (save her receipts, she may be returning the printer when the baby gets sick from drinking out of bottles that are meant to be thrown away after one use!)

Base with your story, it seems that she is not mature enough or sensitive enough for her child's needs. Why but stuff/s for people than buying the needs of your child? She should be lucky that the hospital gave something for her baby to use and a $100, if I were in her shoe I would secure for my baby's needs.

You can give birth and still not be a mother. You are not wrong. Your roommate should have spent all of that money on her baby...or at least bought her what she needed and put the rest away. What is likely to happen is that, when she runs out of diapers, she will call someone for more money. She will do this again and again until they get sick of her and then the baby will do without. A mother, especially the mother of a newborn, should put her baby first before anything else. Sounds like this mother is a real winner...not.

Open rebuke is better than a hidden love...Yah you are right.I think you should remind and teach her.Maybe she just need a little guidance. Set example to her...If she refuse to listen, its her lost and someday she will realize that.

No. I don't think you are wrong. In fact, I agree with all the points you make here. Children should come first, and the mother of that newborn baby should put the needs of her child first. It makes me wonder why she would be so careless and go out and get herself pregnant if she didn't want to take proper care of another humanbeing. That woman obviously doesn't have common sense.

Some people have to learn the hard way I guess. This is going to be a rough lesson though for her to learn and she will learn it quickly. She needs to get online on some of these freebie sites and get some other stuff to help her get by. Maybe you need to go on there so that there are some supplies for the little one when the mother runs out. freecycle.org in your area is a good place to start to look for things for babies too. it's where people can get rid of things that they no longer need like clothes and furniture, so you might get lucky with some of that stuff. You can also ask for things that you need on there and if one of the members has it, they might contact you. I would also go to some local charities and explain the situation of the mother not having that much and see if they can help you. Some of them keep extras on hand for emergencies. This mother needs a wake up call!!!!! The baby is more important than her needs. I'm sorry, but the children should definitely come first!