Why would you reject a newbie's friend request?

I reject more than I accept, but it's not necessarily personal. I look at their discussions and responses, and if they don't interest me, like they spend most of their time in topics I don't care about, then I reject them. With newbies, it's often hard to get a feel for them. Mylot "friends" may not be "real" friends, although often they become real friends, but there are some of the elements you find in r/t relationships: my real time friends are not people I find boring, or people who believe things a long way away from what I believe. Same thing here. Don't be in a hurry. Keep posting, keep looking for those who say things that make you feel they would be on your wave length, answer in the same discussions, and then ask them to be friends. They have to know something about you, don't you think? Lash

Maybe they have their own reasons why they rejected you. Some of them have harrowing experiences here that makes them a bit twitchy about invites. Basically its their choice whether they want to add you or not. I know it hurts dearie but... I haven't rejected any invites yet though. :)

No, I generally accepy newbies. But some people don't because they either see they have nothing in common when looking at others interest. Or they see a very low post count. Once you become more active you will get a more reponse when connecting. I see you are doing well as you have tons of responses. That is good for a new person. I don't think I have gotten that many responses.

I do not reject newbies out of hand. I do look at their profiles and if they have never responded to one of my discussions I wonder why they want to be my friend. Usually it is the case that I have responded to one of their discussions but that is not enough to make me want to be a friend. I have no interest in people who mostly post in the making extra money topics and if that is all they post in then I reject the request. If they have bothered to repsond to one of my discussions before they ask then I consider it. Sometimes I will let them join on probation but if our interests never match then I will eventually remove the name from my friends list. I use the discussions my friends have started to look for interesting discussions and I do not appreciate it being full of discussions about some online money make scheme. I have no interest in these things.

I think that typically a friends list is for just that, friends. I'm not fond of adding new people in general, unless I've had a few words with them already, and I know they're real and not a bot, and they at least have some form of intelligence. Not to say you don't, but a lot of people are even far pickier than I am, while others are nowhere near as picky and add everyone out of the blue. Just gotta look at it this way, if someone doesn't want to add you, they're probably not worth having on a friends list anyway, because are they really all that friendly? lol

hello mariaisabel. your post scares me! that means i would have to be very very careful in adding friends here. i would have to wait for a while then, post to many discussions first, and wait until they're the ones to request on me as a friend. i would be hesitant to request friendship for now. i have to increase my number of posts first.

Every member has their own reasons why they approve or deny a friend request. It is not personally directed at you but simply on the basis or how they feel about the situation. For example at the present time I have not denied any friend requests although I did come close to doing so at one time. When I get a friend request I check out their profile. I see what sort of discussions they have started, if any, as well as the responses they have made to other discussions. If there is enough there to convince me, then I will approve the request or else I could leave it pending for a short while to see what happens. No I do not expect that any or al of my friends agree with me on each and every topic but there must be something in common. I think that a lot of members feel exactly the same way and probably many use the same criteria before making a decision on a friend request. It might be an idea if you responded to some of the discussions of those members you would like as a friend. Then they can see the quality of your posts and at the same time realise that you are a genuine friend, i.e. a friend who responds to discussions of their friends. The other thing to remember is that many members will respond to discussions other than those started by their friends. Good luck and hope that you get your wishes.

I may not know why of some mylotters have rejected your request. But me, my posts are already more than one thousand and I have been here for more than one year and every time someone wants me to be in their friends list then I accepted it. And I have not also encounter that I was being rejected when I request a friend. Anyway don't be bother with that and with the way some of the mylotters behave towards you. Just enjoy here and be positive there are still good mylotters who wanted more friends.

Oooops...Maria, you are most welcome here. I had my fair share of disappointments when it comes to having newbies as a friend and I have put a discussion on why we have to screen those who wants to befriend us. Maybe when you have been here long enough you will also feel the way I feel now. That one incident really puts me off but now I have got the better side of me and back to my right frame of mind, we need you as much as you need us. Only yesterday a newbie with zero point to his name requested to be my friend and I become his first friend here in mylot. I approved him instantly. I was overwhelmed by his sincerity as they are thousands of mylotters here and choosing me as his 'grand' opening on his first hour of being in mylot community is something I cherish most. Do not be unduly worried for being rejected as they may have their own reasons for the rejection. You are most welcome to be my friend, if you so wish.

I am pretty new here and I have friends that have been here a long time considering their points. I also have some new friends thaat havn't been here for very long. I can't say why some people are turning you down, I just went to your page and sent a friend request. I havn't been here long enoiugh to figure why things like that happen. I do know several people that I asked to be friends havn't responded as yet. I have never rejected anyone here. I have on other sites but the person looked creepy and it was a bad vibe I got also. I would say give it a little more time. Sooner or later you will have a great friends list. Happy posting.

my dear how are you well i also liked to make new friends and the second thing is that i can't understand on newbie's what the meaning of that word well your question is that that why he /she rejected your friendship while there is a reasons behind the rejection and i also want to make a big contacts in my life

perhaps,they have their own reasons why they rejected you;do not care,you still have a lot of friends;horse lu yao,in the course of time people see;AS long as we in good faith,there will be many good friends,I believe!

I dont usually reject, only when they get annoying but no, usually no especially for newbie! cos im always the ones who is not active!:S

Don't take it too personal, others might just want to add friends who are somehow have similar interests. There can be different reasons why someone would reject you aside from what i mentioned above. you just have to keep on inviting people, i guess the're not meant to be your friend that's why.

So far I haven't experienced being rejected yet. I have pending friend requests but I guess they're just ignoring the requests. Before approving a friend request, I usually check the posts of the one who requested. I use it as a basis for approving or denying a friend request. So far, I haven't rejected anyone yet. I just can't understand why some rejected your request. Maybe they want you to reply in their posts first. That's my guess but it is the only reason I know. In that way they can notice you and your sincerity in making friends with them. :)

Hi mariaisabel. I havent rejected since I cant see a good reason to reject a friend's request even if its from a newbie. Personally i dont mind at all accepting requests from newbies and everyone in this site is so welcome to add me up. Maybe some people who you regarded as seniors have their own reasons of doing so, but dont feel so unwelcome because mylot is a vast community wherein you can find good mylotters who will be honored to accept you in their networks. Happy mylotting and enjoy your stay in here

My dear Welcome to MYLOT. Please don't be downhearted but since of lately there have been some negative happenings and persons are taking precaution. Be a regular and answer persons discussions and if they like your answer then you will be asked for friendship. Just enjoy yourself and the friends will come.

I'm sorry to hear that. I understand that it can be really hurtful to be turned down by anyone for that matter, but I know that most newbies has a reputation for sending mad spam and referral links to members inbox. I've received spam myself but I haven't deleted anyone yet, but if they don't stop soon, I would have to do so.

Hi Mariaisabel, Dont feel bad!!.. its just that some people dont trust others..or are just plainly very unfriendly.. For me.. well.. I always accept friend requests. good luck!.. and have fun.

Feel free to request friendship with me! I never reject anyone - what's the point? - and just love gathering friends . I accept anyone and everyone always - who cares if I know them yet , I'll learn about them as I see their site and posts.