Giving Birth - Planned C-section
By jenshak
@jenshak (42)
United States
December 8, 2008 9:07am CST
I wanted to start a discussion on having a planned C-section. We are actually getting ready to leave for the hospital to have our third child. Our first child was born at 35 weeks, our second child was born at 34 weeks. So with this one, they wanted to make sure we took every precaution to get as close to term as possible. Our second child was an emergency C-section, which means that this child has to be a C-section. We have been to the hospital three times for false alarms... and now at 40 weeks we are going in to have the baby taken out. Which for me is kind of depressing, because we didn't get the excitement of the spontaniety of her coming on her own. I was wondering if there were any other moms that have felt this way. I am sure that I will be just as excited when I finally get to hold her later today, but the process was sort of a bummer.
4 responses
@binacheri14 (299)
• United States
9 Dec 08
This child did not have to be c-section. I have had 4 of them and the only reason why I can never have a natural birth again is because 3 were accross and the other was up and down. I am a small person and not much body fat. But I was told that you can have natural birth after c-section. Having had 4 I would opt for a natural birth as it is the experience of a life time, yes it hurts but breifly. C-section, as you know, is very painful for a very long time. Not only that but it feels like you did all the work to make sure he/she was kept safe for 9 months and now someone wants to take him/her out of your body, it isn't a choice anymore. Maybe there are more factors than I am aware, but you could have oppted to have a natural birth with this child. But like you said how ever God intends to allow you to bring your gift into this world you will be just as happy to have him/her. Congradulation and the best of luck. There is nothing like the feeling of falling in love with your child, and feeling that type of love. Please post pics of the new addition would love to see how beautiful he/she is. Happy parenting mommy.
@binacheri14 (299)
• United States
13 Dec 08
You are so right there is no "better" way to have a child all are unique just as the child is and it really doesn't matter how a child comes into the world as long as the outcome for mother and child is good. A blessing is a blessing. I'm glad to hear that all went well. There is nothing like the feeling of becoming a mother from the first time to walking your own children through the experience.
@srhelmer (7029)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
9 Dec 08
My wife is about 8 weeks pregnant and we know we're going to have to go through this next summer because she had an emergency C-section when we had our daughter and they don't think she can give birth naturally. It's definitely something that we're not looking forward to.
@binacheri14 (299)
• United States
9 Dec 08
You should ask questions and make sure she can't do it naturally. If she can't just see it as a painless birth, and very interesting, as you know. Any surgery is a frightful thing. But I'm sure everything will work out for the best. You and yours will be in my prayers. Like I responded I have had 4 c-section and 2 were emergancy we are all okay from the births if that makes it feel any more optomistic.
@jenshak (42)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I wanted to let you know, after talking with four OB's that the general consensus is that if you have had a c-section previously, they prefer that you have a c-section the next time. The reason for this is the increase risk to the mom's uterus. I could've taken the risk, but decided that my health and the heatlh of the baby were more important.
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
8 Dec 08
My first was a planned c-section being in a breach position. My other two were VBACs. The second should have been a c-section too but that's a long story I won't go into.
It's personal for everyone. I didn't consider I had missed anything by having the first one by c-section. I would have known there would be issues with the births of the next two, but there was no telling that then.
@jenshak (42)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I can honestly say that there were things that still caused excitement and anxiety. While after the first C-section, which was an emergency, I said i would never do it again. Then this one which was planned, and it started earlier then what was scheduled which was a surprise... but the anxiety that I felt over it all as they prepped me was there. Partly because of the last c-section... it is different having one when you know everything is alright, and having one that is due to emergency. I told my husband I would do it again, in a heartbeat. While it wasn't the "spontaneous" birth, it was still exciting and rewarding.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I feel sorry for you. I hate the thought of not having in control. I would put my foot down. I see you had struggles though so maybe its in the best interest. I hope everything goes well.
