My Sister the Headache
By kaliyha
@kaliyha (591)
Philippines
December 8, 2008 9:40am CST
My sister is a 27 year old single mom who lives with me and my parents. Its pretty normal here in the Philippines for kids to choose to stay and live with their parents. But what I hate about the whole deal with my sister is that she have been jobless for about 2 years now and she have absolutely no plans on looking for a new job. We have already handed out to her some job openings but all she does is promise that she will apply but she never does. Now that her son is 5 years old and she receives no support whatsoever from the father, my mom and I chips in for his education. She blames my mother for stopping her to do what she wants way back when she was still young that's why she's digging her heels and enjoying her life as a free-loader. My mom wants to trow her out but she loves my nephew terribly and she doesn't want him to be hurt. :(
3 responses
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
That's a bad situation to be in. Sadly, there are those who enjoy living off of other people's generosity, especially if they happen to be close blood relatives.
The problem is, she's got a hold on your mom because of the child. You can't blame a grandmother for wanting the best for her grandson. I guess, the most you and your mom can do at this time is withhold financial support to your sister (e.g. money to buy for her fripperies and luxuries -- does she get an allowance?) and focus only on the kid's education. After all, the child has nothing to do with his mom's negative attitude towards responsibility.
Just pray that she will someday see the error of her ways and grow more mature as she ages especially when her kid starts asking questions. We really can't change a person's heart you know. Only God can help do that.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Dec 08
[i]Hi kaliyha,
That is very sad...She has to be very responsible since she has a kid who is getting bigger and aware of her doings and actions..
I guess she will learn and realize if she will be thrown away, with that, she will try to look for a job and try her very best for her kid, it's sad but it's a way of helping her also to learn![/i]
@SuzyLong (775)
•
11 Dec 08
Sorry to hear about your situation. Maybe you should get everyone to sit down and discuss the matter. That way, everyone can have their own say, maybe it will help.
What did she want to do when she was younger that she wasn't allowed to? If it's work or education, why can't she try doing it now. In England, if you are unemployed, you can get courses at the local college for free.
