Marriage ceremony, what are the issues that are important to you?

The wedding does not mean anything relationship wise. fi you both love each other good...then it shouln't matter. all the weddign does is put it afront of God. it is supposed to make each of you " as one" so it just shows everyone else hwo much in lov eyou are. I dont think soemthing has to be fancy, but i would not want to go to one that is like just totally unorganized.

a wedding isn't about those things. you're making it sound like it's about a vulgar display of wealth, which a lot of weddings are. but the individual points, the ring. most wedding rings are a plain metal band, it's the engagement ring that usually has a stone set in it. most often a diamond solitaire. as far as I care, the size of the stone isn't important to me. for the same price we could have chosen several different designs were the stone was larger, but we chose one with a smaller, but better quality stone, so it's really really really sparkly. then the other concern was that the profile of the ring was fairly flat when worn so it didn't get in the way. so we picked something pretty and classic, that we both liked, and would be comfortable to wear without being restrictive. the size of the stone was not the important part of it. the wedding ring is an antique plain gold one that my mum FOUND many years ago, which I'll use because I've always adored it. I'll be having one bridesmaid, unless anyone else really really wants to be one. in which case they will have a pretty dress from the high street. my maid of honour already has her dress, and anyone additional would have a different dress. and the reception is more about having the best party ever, and enjoying the company of your guests who have come to share your day. as a result we won't have a sit down meal, but a nice buffet and barbequeue, lots to drink and good music. I've barely thought about the honeymoon. we'd quite like to go with a cheaper cruise, just around parts of europe. around italy would be wonderful. we're in the UK so that's really not so far flung. exotic holidays aren't as appealing as somewhere pretty with good food. not sure how many people we'll end up inviting. but only people we actually WANT there. we're having the reception at home, the first marriage ceremony on the moors and the legal ceremony down a cave. so the reception and first ceremony venue cost us nothing. the cave was quite expensive, although not as expensive as most wedding venues, and is really special. again, not doing it as a show, but because it seems really really special to us. Las Vegas. I think Vegas weddings are great, and my man loves Elvis, so I'm surprised he didn't suggest it. however it would be difficult to have everyone you want be there, and we wanted lots of NATURAL beauty around us on the day. because nothing is as beautiful as Mother Nature. I certainly wouldn't think it meant he didn't love me. and if he suggested we just do it at the registry office, I wouldn't think that was a reflection of how much he loved me either. how much a man spends on a wedding is not a measure of how much he loves you. I've seen many expensive weddings fail. what's important is that you both have a day that reflects you as a person. a day that is personal (a lot of the very traditional weddings are quite impersonal, and you could just cut and paste ANY bride and groom, as it's so impersonal it could be anyone) so it's about having a day that is special and unique to the two of you, and having the people you love there with you

I don't really know how to answer your questions right now because I'm not getting married and I don't even have a boyfriend yet. I think I'll cross the bridge when I get there. For now though, I'm still very idealistic. All the "requirements" you enumerated are on my wedding list. :)

Should the girl really need to demand this things to the guy? what if the guy doesn't that have much of a financial capacity to provide all of this. everything listed here is based on money, how bout trying to check if the guy really loves you and do you know that the guy won't try to cheat on you or leave you one day?

So, the issues you listed, I am going to change so that they fit me. 1)For my engagement ring, I want maybe a small pink diamond, very petite and a white gold or silver band. For my wedding band, I want maybe a band that can fit into the engagement ring like a puzzle. My moms rings did that so that she can wear both of them together. 2)Only women that I care about most, I actually have to add bridemaids, because my boyfriend wants many groomsmen, so he was kind of the deciding factor. They will wear dresses of the same color, but different shapes. Like a shape of the dress would look most flattering on a certain person. My sister was going to do that idea and I really liked it. 3)I would be happy with a honeymoon at Sea World, my favorite place to be. 4)I would not want too many people there. Jacque does not have much family, he will probably invite most friends. I would have the people I care about there and I will probably invite my parents friends and everything. 5)I want the wedding in the back yard I grew up in and played in as a child. Where many things in my life has happened. I want somewhere close to my heart, and what could be closer than your own back yard? I would probably get upset if Jacque wanted to go to Vegas, because I have always dreamed of this wedding. He has already tried to say that we won't dance, but I told him that we are going to have our first dance and he said okay. So I have already dealt with him wanting to change the plans.

I had none of those things and I am happy. We went to the courthouse, and we both wore black. I was pregnant, but we had been together for 3 years and planned on a wedding, so no it was not a shotgun wedding. I have nice rings, but they are unique and not hugew because I hate clunky jewelry. Materials and appearances just don't matter to either of us.

I suppose it all depends on how bad you want to get married,how much money you have or can save.I know people who have had enough money for the whole white wedding and reception,but end up living with family and friends because they cannot afford to buy or furnish their flat,to some a white wedding is all they want and nothing else matters spending up to twenty thousand pounds on the day.They have the bigest expensive ring,hire castles ,and the church,bells,choir,ect and all the trimmings,rolls royce cars.Well thats alright if you can afford it,but in these days a registry office or another blessed place is the right thing to do,small reception and at least any money they have saved doing this way can go towards building a life together.There are the other kind where they live together and get their home together first then have a white wedding a few years later.I always say love comes from the heart not from the wallet or purse,Every girl wants a nice day and every man trys to make that happen for her.If you really love that person it should not matter at all,after all it is all about love that is supposed to last a life time ,not till the bank balance runs out.x