Do you confront your personal issues?
By dragonflyfli
@dragonflyfli (5528)
United States
December 8, 2008 1:45pm CST
I am asking this because I was always stumped about why i felt the way I did when I was unhappy. And sometimes it is impossible to pinpoint why this crap keeps happening, or why i feel this way when in a certain situation.
And actually going into yourself and exploring can be painful. But I noticed that it makes the problem go away once I figured out what it was exactly.
if you have any examples or comments please do so. thanks !!
3 responses
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
8 Dec 08
Everyone has to deal with problems in his or her life. There are two ways to do it: Mope and hope it changes, or make a change for the better. You have to be proactive, because nobody can help you better than you can help yourself.
You have to be willing to admit you're wrong and have an open mind to try to make things better. You have to decide that you deserve a better life and that you're worth it, and you have to decide what to do.
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@dragonflyfli (5528)
• United States
9 Dec 08
That is so true. Bad situations have a way of making people feel sorry for themselves and it's hard to pull out of that because positive thinking can be bad for the fact that it causes you to ignore your negative feelings. I think negative emotions should be felt, discovered and waited out until it passes otherwise it gets trapped like an energy in your self.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
8 Dec 08
I could not agree with you more, there are only two choices in life, keep things as they are, never attempt to change anything, then complain, you guessed it "Nothing Changes!" Or you can get in there, perhaps get a bit dirty and try to make things better for yourself.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
8 Dec 08
OK, speaking as a young woman who has had her share of ummmm shall I say, "challenges" (or to use a more descriptive term, "Crapola.") I have learned that it is always best for me to confront my issues head on.
Now, I won't go into all the sordid details of my life because everyone has problems. Each of us just have a set of problems that have a different shape, colour or flavor to them. In my opinion it doesn't matter what happens to us in our lives it matters how we respond to those situations. I think one of the mottos I live by is appropriate to this discussion. I always say, you cannot change what happens to you in life, BUT you can change your reaction to it!
My life experiences, have taught me that I must deal with my problems with my eyes wide open, head on, and with as much courage as I can muster at the moment. This does not by any means, guarantee that I will be successful in overcoming my problems immediately. However, it has been my experience that if I keep my head in the sand and pretend that my problems do not exist they will only get worse.
It can be scary to look at some of the things that have happened to us, and our reaction to those events. When I think of confronting my fears I have an image in my head of swimming in a tank with sharks. I choose to get into the tank with the sharks and round them up and get them back under control. By choosing to "dive in head first" and by being willing to take the initiative and wrestle my issues under control I have the ability to see the sharks coming and get myself back together faster...if you can follow my analogy.
Remember, life is not about the final destination, life is what happens while waiting for a bus. Life encompasses everything the good, the bad and the ugly so we may as well prepare ourselves for it and have a little fun along the way.
Good luck!
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@dragonflyfli (5528)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I love how discriptive you were on this post. And I love your analigy's ..Thank you.
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I think you have the right idea about confronting your issues head on because otherwise the issue will just come back in a different form. This way you tackle it and are done with it and on to the next one until you are wise and happy.
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sometimes it really can be scary to look back at the things I have experienced. And things always change so it can make me doubt myself because of the way I reacted to them. but I awlays have to remember that I didnt know the things i know now.
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I think the hardest thing to do is to accept the fact that life is about all the things that happen while "waiting for the bus" lol. But it really is miserable when I put efforts just for an outcome. It really kills the fun. But it's hard to just let go and see what happens and basically give freely adn expect nothing.
That is really one of my goals right now. I am trying so hard. It s a daily exercise that i practice and sometimes its easy and other times i slip.
I think you are very a very smart woman!
thanks
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
9 Dec 08
This thing called life, is a funny thing. No one gives as a manual, No one tells us what we need to do to be successful. (Although people try, everyone has a different opinion.) And no one tells us how to get from A to B, we're just left to kinda muddle along and do the best we can.
And the truth is, there really is no one right or wrong answer!
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@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
8 Dec 08
yea talking to myself through teh situation seems to be teh best, just don't talk to yourself out loud...like i did..more than once... fine! most of the time.
if i have a personal issue i confront my ownself first, if someone else has a personal issue with me i tell them where they can go.
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